06/09/2026
This week I've been tested, really tested. Not by work. By my values, and that internal righteousness clock that ticks no matter what.
I found myself in tears yesterday morning. Alone, before a conversation that was long overdue and one that I could no longer avoid.
You need to know I'm not a crier. It's just not how I roll. So when tears appear, it's a sign. And I'm pragmatic enough to know it's not middle age hormones.
No one had wronged me. It wasn't a cause for blame. But there was a decision sitting unmade with someone close to me, and I'd been quietly carrying the weight of waiting for it.
Worse, I'd stepped into the fixer role that comes so naturally to me. Those who know me know I'm a solutions driven woman. I took control of something that was never mine to decide. My input was wanted and it was valued. But input was all it was ever going to be, and I'd been behaving as though it could finalise things.
This one was personal. The pattern isn't.
I see values quietly compromised in business all the time, and it's rarely dramatic. It's the theft from government dressed up as harmless because no one's really paying. It's hiding behind the rules to justify a client experience you know could be better. It's taking advantage of a client's ignorance to skim a little more income, because they'll never know the difference.
None of that gets called a values problem. It gets called commercial reality, or good business, or everyone does it. The clock still ticks.
So I had the conversation. I named what was being compromised for me. I was heard, we worked it through, and we came out the other side with a solution.
Over decades in business I've made a number of decisions on values that cost me money at the time. Walking away from roles, ending partnership arrangements that no longer sat right, saying no to revenue I could have taken. Every one of them was better for the business long term, and better for my peace of mind. I've never regretted one of them.
Every one of those decisions cost me something at the time. That's how I know they were values and not preferences.
So I ask you. Where is your internal values clock feeling compromised?