20/02/2026
I usually don’t comment on reality TV much… but this week hit me in a way I didn’t expect, and I felt like I needed to say something.
I didn’t expect a reality TV episode to stir up something so personal.... but it did.
I watch MAFS like a lot of people do, for entertainment, a bit of escapism, and yes… sometimes the chaos.
But this week honestly felt different.
And to be really honest, I feel like those episodes could have come with a trigger warning.
For anyone who’s experienced bullying - especially those of us who lived through it as kids and then found ourselves facing it again as adults - watching the group dynamics, the taunting, the humiliation, and the silence around it was pretty hard to sit through.
It didn’t feel like harmless drama.
It felt familiar… and it actually genuinely really upset me.
What stayed with me most wasn’t just what was said - it was how easily people stood by and watched it happen.
I’m not posting this to attack anyone or add more negativity to the conversation. If anything, it made me reflect on something bigger:
how quickly cruelty can become normalised when it’s packaged as entertainment, and how easily empathy disappears when people think it’s not their place to step in.
You can blame edits or producers for a lot - but you can’t blame them for words that came out of someone’s mouth.
What really stood out to me was Stella.
The way she carried herself - calm, emotionally intelligent, grounded - reminded me that strength isn’t always loud or reactive.
Sometimes real strength is staying centred when everything around you is trying to pull you out of yourself.
Watching her brought back memories of times I felt outnumbered, singled out, bullied, or humiliated - and I know I won’t be the only one who felt old wounds stir while watching.
People forget how deeply words can land.
Some people carry those experiences for years.
Some don’t recover from them at all.
Kindness isn’t weakness. It’s leadership. And it costs nothing.
None of us are strangers to being on the receiving end at some point.
So when you see someone being torn down or bullied, be the person who steps in - not the one who looks away.
Because the energy we allow is the culture we create.
