08/10/2025
Generalisations: The Silent Limiters of Growth
One of the most common traps I see in the personal development and NLP space is generalisation, and it’s one of the sneakiest.
Generalisations are mental shortcuts. They take one moment, one experience, or one belief, and stretch it across everything.
They sound like:
• “I always get this wrong.”
• “People never listen.”
• “That’s just how I am.”
And the danger is, when we believe those statements we stop seeing the exceptions. We stop seeing possibility.
In NLP, generalisations are part of the way our mind filters experience, along with deletion and distortion. They simplify reality so we can process it faster.
But if we don’t challenge them, they also simplify us.
The moment you start noticing your own always, never, and everyone statements, that’s when you start to regain control of your mind. Because every time you catch one, you’ve found a limitation disguised as truth.
When you change your language, you change your perception.
When you change your perception, you change your possibilities.
So here’s a question worth asking yourself today:
Where am I generalising my past, and limiting my future?
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