24/09/2026
Happy friday from OZ,
Have you ever looked at someone and thought, "How can they do that"?
Capacity is the weight you carry silently.
Capability is the strength you admire publicly.
And the gap between the two is never what it seems.
I’m talking about life.
Because life is full of repetitions. It’s no different to going to the gym.
You train. You train again. You train one more time.
And eventually you reach that moment where you ask yourself:
“How much of a priority is this in my life right now?”
One of the biggest lessons I’ve learnt through my Emotional Fitness journey is this…
To have a healthy relationship with uncertainty, you need Variety, Adventure and Challenge woven into your life regularly.
Not when you feel inspired.
Not when you feel ready.
Regularly.
And trust me, there are days I don’t want to… but I do it anyway.
Over the last few months, I’ve been building reps, not just in the gym, but in the office too.
I’m not only studying at TAFE, I am currently part of a Brain Study at the University of Newcastle, measuring my cognition through 30 minutes of brain training and a minimum of 30 minutes of cardio and strength training daily.
They were a little worried at first when they told me I had the cardiovascular health of a 30‑year‑old 😂 - 24 years my junior.
Then I got another call because they were worried I couldn’t increase my physical capability enough to hit the “extreme” button on the app.
But here’s the update…
For the first time ever, I’m now using a barbell with 25kgs for squats, lunges and deadlifts in the Meno Strength classes, and 20kgs for bench press.
My upper body still has work to do, but 10kg overhead tricep extensions are new for me too.
A challenge is simply something unfamiliar… until it isn’t.
And here’s the deeper part…
If something is a priority, you’ll build the reps. If it isn’t, you won’t and that’s okay.
But this can be questioned even further…
Sometimes it’s not a priority because you’re in a different season.
Sometimes it’s not a priority because your identity is shifting.
Sometimes it’s not a priority because your nervous system is already carrying too much.
Sometimes it’s not a priority because you’re building reps in a completely different area of your life.
And sometimes… it’s simply not meant to be a priority right now.
So next time you look at someone and admire what they can do, and you feel that spark inside wanting to do it too, I want you to pause long enough to ask yourself…
“Why isn’t this a priority for me right now, and is that actually okay?”
Most of the time, the answer is yes.
However, sometimes it’s not just priority. Yes read that again...
Sometimes your unconscious is holding you back too, quietly, subtly, without you realising it.
“Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.” - Carl Jung
A challenge is simply something unfamiliar… until it isn’t.
And sometimes the unfamiliar lives inside you.
Until next time
