Therapeutic Solutions

07/12/2024

07/12/2024

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07/12/2024

How many times do you think your spouse can repeat the same behavior until you realize that they don’t really care about the hurt they’re causing you and your marriage? 💔

We ALL make mistakes but it’s what we do with our mistakes that reveals our mindset, our heart and our motive.

If your spouse has been making way too many mistakes and promises to change but doesn’t, be sure to watch our video WHEN TALKING ISN’T ENOUGH.

19/08/2023

What is the difference in a silent treatment and healthy boundaries?

A silent treatment is often fueled by stonewalling. This means that the toxic person who is ignoring you or punishing you is doing so either until:

Exhibit A. They get their way and you agree with them, feel sorry for them, or stroke their ego just to make them feel better.

B. Until you let whatever it is that’s hurt you deeply go, completely, and never speak of it again. They want you to prove that you will choose their dysfunction over their absence.

C. A toxic person LOVES for you to prove that you are still under their thumb by creating distance so they can accuse YOU of overreacting if you dare bring it up. It is a form of passive aggression that invokes reactive abuse. Aka, they mistreat you, you react, and they get to call you the outrageous one.

D. It’s done by toxic people to make you feel completely devalued, and inexistent to that person. It is used to control your emotions.

The difference between that type of abuse, and a healthy boundary is just that a healthy boundary is used as self-protection from further hurt, not in a malicious way to control another person’s wellbeing.

We may be accused of giving, “The silent treatment”, or doling out punishment when we start protecting ourselves, but take heart dear ones. There is a huge difference in intent. If you remain silent because you are sick of hurting, and can’t bear any more abuse, then you are not, “giving the silent treatment”, you are simply taking care of yourself. Don’t be fooled into thinking that you are the one with communication issues just because you walked away from their constant mistreatment.

I was given the silent treatment periodically all my life until I finally said no more, and stopped going back for scraps of inconsistent attention.. so I moved on with estrangement. Ironically, I am now the one accused of punishing my abuser.

Please know the difference, it is important to protect yourself from blame shifting and gaslighting.

19/08/2023

Life experiences, family dynamics, and the influence of society in general can create a lot of ideas of what a marriage "should" look like, especially when it comes to wedding planning and handling conflict. What people often forget is that the wedding itself is a symbol of something much greater: a marriage.

Learn more about Debunking 5 Myths About Premarital Conflict: https://bit.ly/3Kxncmg

This post is not intended to address situations of abuse. If you or someone you know is in danger, or an abusive situation, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-7233.

09/06/2023

It's never too late to become an emotion coaching parent! While emotion coaching can start from infancy, with parents narrating and empathizing with their baby's experiences, emotional intelligence can be cultivated and learned at any point in life.

Learn more about how Emotional Intelligence Creates Loving and Supportive Parenting: bit.ly/3iABUKb

We also have a new Bringing Baby Home course specifically for parents! Check it out at: https://bit.ly/3OTmEds

09/06/2023

The most powerful women use what is meant to destroy them as fuel for their greatest victories. Read the 10 signs you're entering your powerful dark feminine era here: https://bit.ly/eradarkfeminine

19/05/2023

What random act of kindness have you done for your partner in the last 24 hours?

12/04/2023

9 Things to Leave Behind for Self Love: A Thread ✨💕

Courtesy of: WaxT & Co.

05/04/2023

Wednesday Wisdom

NOT from me but from ONE OF OUR OWN!

“I’ve heard repeatedly from people that I should forgive and forget, I should mend bridges… I will not forgive, but I will let go, I will not forget, but I will not dwell, I will not mend a bridge that I did not break, but I will throw the match that burns the bridge. I no longer give them the power to control my life, my emotions, my sanity… I have taken back my power and I am now taking care of me. Truth be told, I hardly ever think of them anymore and when I do it doesn’t hurt because I know I’ve moved on.”

This is SO powerful
Thank you to this person for sharing ❤️