07/27/2022
An old coping mechanism of mine is productivity and achieving. Those can be good things that serve myself and my family but they can also be away that I escape/avoid pain. And as an adult I’ve worked on integrating new ways to cope, counseling and coaching have guided me in this. Are you in the journey of creating new ways to cope with life as an adult? I’ve worked hard to create new ways to cope - being, existing, creating, EFT/tapping, reflecting/journaling, listening to music I love, having fun with friends and fam, time with Jesus, resting. And on the journey I’ve seen self judgment come up over and over again.
Self compassion and acceptance isn’t fluffy y’all, it’s hard work 🥺. But unlike self judgment it bares some really good fruit over time. Choosing my “hard” because “hard things” are part of life.
These are words you’re reading on an app, you’re not seeing my everyday life and the ups and downs. Behind these words I am missing the mark lots, laying low, returning to compassion, craving less plans and more spontaneity, doing less working and more resting during Josephine’s quiet time, feeling the self judgment rise up, watching funny shows I like, escaping into busyness/productivity, caring for myself, putting too much pressure on myself, hanging out with people who energize me, taking a break, getting curious, working on not putting so much pressure on myself, feeling the joys, the sadness and griefs… like chip Dodd says “we’re giraffes on ice” (picture that. It’s not perfect. It’s clumsy and messy and funny.). Want to practice self compassion?
Lets practice. Lets be okay with taking breaks and accepting ourselves when we’re clumsy. Remember this…! Even when you’re not feeling like you’re “winning” you’re showing up and practicing (I’m telling myself this too). That’s worth celebrating! You are worthy of celebrating.
