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A bridle is not a statement. It's a question.Are you listening?
05/21/2026

A bridle is not a statement. It's a question.

Are you listening?

I have been riding dressage for thirty-four years.I have been bad at it for all thirty-four of them.These are not separa...
05/19/2026

I have been riding dressage for thirty-four years.
I have been bad at it for all thirty-four of them.

These are not separate facts.
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I want to be clear about the nature of my badness. It is not the badness of someone who doesn't care, or doesn't try, or hasn't read the books and watched the videos and paid the clinicians and stood at the rail studying riders who make it look like nothing. I have done all of those things. I have done them extensively. I have, at various points, understood dressage completely, in the car on the way to the barn, in the shower, in the middle of the night when the answer arrives with the quiet certainty of revelation.

And then I get on the horse and the understanding evaporates like breath on a cold morning. There. Gone.

This has been happening for thirty-four years.

I had begun to suspect the problem was me.

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Fhil is six years old. He is large and enthusiastic and operates with the cheerful confidence of someone who hasn't yet been told how complicated this is supposed to be. He has big gaits, the kind that feel, from the inside, like riding a very talented earthquake. He is not subtle. He is not refined. He is, at this particular stage of his development, basically a golden retriever that someone has taught to trot.

I love him for this.

I got on Fhil last week with the usual cargo, the mental checklist, the position notes, the things Linds has said, the things the clinic rider did that I've been trying to replicate, the seventeen adjustments I was planning to make before the first corner. I carried all of it into the saddle the way I always do, like a man who has confused preparation with competence.

And then something happened.

Or more precisely, something stopped happening.

The checklist went quiet. The position notes dissolved. The seventeen adjustments reduced themselves, without my permission, to simply: this stride. Now this one. Fhil's back swung underneath me and I followed it and he followed me following it and somewhere in that exchange the thinking just... stopped. Not because I decided to stop thinking. Thinking doesn't respond to decisions. It stopped because something more immediate arrived and took up all the available space.

I don't know how long it lasted. Ten minutes. Maybe fifteen. Long enough that when I brought him back to walk and the thinking rushed back in, as it always does, punctual and self-important, I sat there for a moment in the strange afterglow of it.

And I thought: I wasn't thinking. I was riding.

Which was, in thirty-four years not something I had thought before.

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Here is something no one ever told me.

You cannot think your way through it.

I know. I tried. For thirty-four years I tried. I approached it the way I approach everything, with research and analysis and the deep conviction that sufficient intellectual preparation would eventually produce the desired physical result. I treated feel like a concept to be understood rather than a sensation to be inhabited. I read about softness. I developed theories about connection. I had opinions, carefully reasoned, about the half-halt.

The horse was unimpressed by my opinions.

The horse is always unimpressed by your opinions. This is one of the great services the horse provides.

Because here is the thing about thinking: it's all consuming. It fills the available space completely, leaves no room for anything else, and calls this thoroughness. While you are thinking about the bend, you are not feeling the bend. While you are planning the transition, you are not present for the transition. While you are having the conversation with yourself about what should be happening, you are not listening to what is actually happening underneath you.

If all you do is talk, you never develop the ability to listen.

If all you do is think, you lose access to the present moment entirely.
And dressage, well real dressage, the kind that occasionally appears without warning on the back of a six year old golden retriever on an unremarkable Saturday morning, exists only in the present moment. It cannot be planned. It cannot be intellectually constructed. It can only be felt, in real time, by someone who has somehow gotten quiet enough to feel it.

The question is how do we get quiet.

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I have a theory about this. It is, given everything I just said about thinking, somewhat ironic that I have a theory about it. Bear with me.

I think you get quiet by getting lost first.

Not lost as in confused. Lost as in, the thinking finally exhausts itself. Thirty-four years of analysis and adjustment and correction and recalibration, and at some point the thinking runs out of new things to say and sits down, and in the silence that follows, something older and less verbal takes over. Something that has been accumulating in the body while the mind was busy having opinions.

The feel was always there. Underneath the thinking. Patient. Waiting for the thinking to tire itself out.

Which means, and this is the part that I find both deeply comforting and extremely inconvenient, the thirty-four years of badness were not wasted. They were the process. The thinking wasn't the obstacle to the feeling. The thinking was the thing that had to happen first, at exhausting length, before the feeling could surface.

I have spent thirty-four years getting bad enough at dressage to accidentally become good at it.

Or at least, to have fifteen minutes on a Saturday with a large enthusiastic six year old that felt, from the inside, like the whole thing finally made sense.

Have I gotten so bad that I've actually become good?

I genuinely don't know.

Fhil has no opinion on the matter. He's already thinking about breakfast.

And for once, I didn’t feel the need to have one either.

The rider who practices imperfectly every day beats the rider who waits for the perfect ride.We didn't build bridles for...
05/15/2026

The rider who practices imperfectly every day beats the rider who waits for the perfect ride.

We didn't build bridles for perfect rides. We built them for all the other ones.

Margaret Ellsworth had spent the first half of her life arriving at things.This was not a criticism. She had arrived at ...
05/12/2026

Margaret Ellsworth had spent the first half of her life arriving at things.

This was not a criticism. She had arrived at a law degree, at a partnership, at a house with good bones in a good neighborhood, at a husband who was kind and largely uncomplicated, at two daughters who had, to her relief, turned out to be interesting people. She was efficient in the way that certain women of her generation had been trained to be efficient, not because they lacked depth, but because depth had never been offered as a viable option.

She came to dressage at forty-one, which everyone told her was late.

She did not argue. She was a lawyer. She knew late when she saw it.

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Her first trainer was a German woman named Hilde who had the physical economy of someone who had never wasted a movement in her life. Hilde did not offer encouragement. She offered correction, which Margaret came to understand was a more serious form of respect.

"You are always going somewhere," Hilde told her in the third lesson, watching Margaret trot her school horse in a circle with the focused urgency of a woman who had back-to-back meetings until six. "Stop going somewhere. You are already there."

Margaret nodded as though she understood.

She did not understand.

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The years passed the way years do when a person is paying attention to something other than their passage.

There was the first horse, a warmblood gelding named Theodore who was kind and honest and taught her things she didn't know she was learning. There was the second horse, a mare of Hanoverian extraction and strong opinions, who taught her that feel was not something you acquired but something you uncovered, slowly, like a fresco beneath whitewash. There was the third horse, Meridian, a dark bay with one white sock, with whom she would spend seven years moving, incrementally, through the levels.

She did not notice the years accumulating. She noticed only the next thing, the next movement, the next lesson, the next small failure and the next small correction. Hilde had retired by then, replaced by a soft-spoken Dutchman named Erik who had competed at Aachen and carried this fact with great quietness, like a man who had seen something so beautiful he had stopped needing to talk about it.

"Less," Erik told her constantly. "Less."

She gave less. He asked for less still.

She began to understand that less was not a subtraction but a different kind of mathematics entirely.

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It was her daughter, the younger one, Clara, who was sharp in the way that young people are sharp when they have not yet learned to dull themselves for the comfort of others, who said the thing that cracked something open.

They were watching Margaret ride on a Sunday afternoon, Clara sitting on the fence with a coffee, and when Margaret brought Meridian to the halt and looked over, Clara said simply:

"Mom. You look like you're not doing anything."

Margaret opened her mouth to explain, the half-halts, the weight, the infinitesimal conversation happening through the reins that no one standing at the fence could see. Then she closed it.

Because Clara was right. And also completely wrong. And Margaret did not yet have the language to explain the distance between those two things.

She was not doing nothing. She was doing the smallest possible something. And she had spent seventeen years learning the difference, and she still could not have told you where one ended and the other began.

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She competed at Grand Prix the following spring. She was fifty-nine. She did not win. She rode a test that was correct and occasionally beautiful and when she halted at X and saluted the judge she felt something move through her that she recognized but could not name, the way you recognize a piece of music you haven't heard since childhood, something lodged below language, below memory almost.

Afterward, Clara asked her how it felt.

Margaret thought about this for a long moment.

"Like being very close to something," she said finally.

"Close to what?"

Margaret looked back at the arena. Meridian was already at the trailer, pulling at his hay net with complete indifference to what had just occurred.

"I'm not sure," she said. "I think that might be the point."

Clara nodded slowly.

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That evening Margaret sat at the kitchen table while her husband made dinner and she thought about Hilde, who she had not thought about in years. You are already there. She had never understood what Hilde meant. She was not certain she understood now.

But she thought, and this was new, this was perhaps the thing the day had given her, that not understanding might not be the same as not knowing.

That somewhere in seventeen years of mornings, in the cold and the repetition and the incremental and the small, something had been deposited in her that she could not locate or measure or present as evidence.

She could only ride. And notice. And return the next morning.

Which she did.

Which she would.

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