08/18/2015
Let's all get angry!
There have been plenty of articles written over the past couple of years about how Social Media can actually be bad for your health. They cite things like unrealistic life portrayals (I always like to replace with ), making you feel inadequate about your own life, the fact that it can become addictive, etc.
One other pitfall that media companies know far too well: it also allows for rapid escalation of arguments that can’t be mediated or resolved.
If you’re a media personality, and you’ve posted something on social media that someone didn’t like, you’ve experienced the swift strike of someone who is appalled, followed by someone who is appalled that the first person was appalled, and the comments pile up, some filled with hate and anger, some with wit, all with judgement, and none willing to budge on their position.
And the phrase I keep hearing over and over when this occurs: “It’s because they can hide behind the anonymity of their keyboard.”
But that part is only true a small fraction of the time. Most of the time, real names and accounts are used in these online debates, because of what social media has created in so many of its users. And that’s a combination of constant need for validation and a feeling of moral superiority.
Let’s look at Facebook as the example. When you post something on Facebook, whether it be a status or a photo, you can be notified as soon as someone comments on it, or even “likes” it. The “like” is seen as a validation – the more “likes” your post receives, the greater the rise in your self-esteem. No “likes” would, for many, be devastating. How many times have you posted a photo and gone back to see how many “likes” it’s getting?
This can be harmless – depending on how healthy a person’s self-esteem is. Someone posting a constant stream of selfies, waiting for people to tell them how great they look, may be narcissistic, but in most cases, nothing more serious than that. The practice of “Vague-booking,” consisting of posts along the lines of “FML. Can’t even believe I have to go through this,” highlight a personality of someone who needs people to immediately show concern and ask what’s wrong to elevate their own self-worth. They may need anything from a hug to actual therapy.
Now let’s consider where this feeling of superiority comes from.
Most Facebook users know that your news feed automatically defaults to “Top Stories.” It is then populated by posts from people you interact with most often, or who put up posts Facebook determines to be most similar in tone/humour/personality to your own. Facebook uses this same metric to pollute your newsfeed with targeted advertising. This creates another environment of validation for your self-esteem. People feel comfortable posting their views on a variety of topics, because it will show up in the news feeds of many who are likely similar-minded – and will offer further validation (and assist in berating people who disagree).
This feature may have created the worst by-product of this validation-via-social-media fog – the illusion that, as a Facebook user, you have society figured out, while nearly everyone else doesn’t.
This false sense of knowledge and superiority has resulted in people who will attack anything and everything.
Here’s a recent example that underscores my point.
When Caitlyn Jenner’s Vogue Magazine cover was released (along with Jenner’s new first name), everyone had something to say about it…. Which is great. The fact that the topic was discussed at length was, in many cases, a very healthy thing. Not so healthy for a friend of mine who had genuine questions (not offensive. GENUINE.) and was immediately attacked for not knowing. But that’s not even the example I’m going for.
A radio station posted a photo that made a joke related to Jenner’s transformation. The radio station was slammed with comments about how insensitive they were. The radio station then took the photo down and apologized… at which point they were attacked for both putting it up AND taking it down. They were also attacked because:
1. They apologized
2. They didn’t apologize quickly enough
3. The apology wasn’t sincere enough
4. The listeners who demanded the apology “weren’t real listeners.”
5. The people upset at the station for ever apologizing proved that the station’s listenership consisted entirely of bigots and haters.
There were other arguments thrown back and forth as people attacked the radio station and each other, and they piled up quickly enough that the conversation was impossible to follow.
Consider this: Right now, someone reading this is angry at me for siding with the radio station. Someone else is angry at me for attacking the radio station. If they went back and read the last three paragraphs, they would notice that I carefully used language which avoided taking any side at all, but merely presented what happened. But we’re all eager to get upset and attack, aren’t we? It’s much more gratifying to most than reading or researching.
While you can (and should) mediate your company’s social media page to remove inappropriate comments and foul language, it’s important to remember that allowing the disagreement to continue actually results in more traction for your media page. More interactions – negative or positive – means your page will now be coming up in more news feeds, resulting in more exposures for whatever you’ll be posting next.
So, while we lament the people some call the “social justice warriors,” keep this in mind – they’re unwittingly widening your exposure exponentially. And maybe they just need a hug.