07/23/2025
PTSD can be debilitating. It can also go unnoticed or looked at as a phase your child is going through.
PTSD is caused by trauma that has been seen or experienced. The severity of the trauma and the capacity of the individual who experienced it dictates the severity and length of time one might experience the symptoms.
My son experienced what he perceived as trauma that is months later causing, sometimes severe anxiety. He is fine in a car except when stopped in traffic or at a red light. A simple hard stop in Toronto traffic changed his perspective of safety in a vehicle. This is something we have to talk him through while driving, assuring him we are just stoping at a red light, so he understands what is going on. It gives him a small sense of control. An event out of the blue however can be devastating. A trip on a ferry boat (he loves boats and water) sent him into a panic attack. It’s the things we don’t think about, like the clanging metal under the car when driving onto the ferry. The poor guy was shaking for an hour after. Now we know!
A young girl I worked with experienced prolonged trauma in the form of severe emotional abuse from her mother and physical and emotional abuse from her older sister. She left home at fourteen and didn’t see her mother for a year. She was terrified if she saw a vehicle that looked like hers. She also suffered from nightmares, multiple eating disorders, and suicidal tendencies. She is now, almost four years later, off antidepressants, has no signs of eating disorders, is happy, healthy and confident in herself. She has put healthy boundaries within her limited relationship with her mom and maternal family. In many ways she is healthier and more mature than most her age, though there are still areas that she needs to work harder at than others because of the trauma.
PTSD takes time, patience and a lot of work. There are no quick fixes. If you know a child or youth who has or might have PTSD, reach out. You’re not alone and you can get through it.