05/30/2025
If you're doing all the talking in a difficult conversation…
You're not having a conversation.
You're giving a lecture.
And when the other person sits there, silent, nodding, saying “I have nothing to add”—
It’s not compliance.
It’s withdrawal.
In psychologically unsafe environments, people typically choose:
→ Silence (they shut down)
→ Violence (they resist in passive or disruptive ways)
And neither helps you move forward.
Real leadership is measured by the shared pool of meaning—the exchange.
If you're the only one contributing, you've created a monologue, not a moment of growth.
Watch for the silence.
It often says more than the words ever could.