Ngenge Edward Global Influence-NEGi

13/02/2025

Congratulations to Senior Counselor Petsoko for taking marital diploma in marital education at Negi gamba.

You shall not become a failure in your marriage and family dear. Let those around you feel the impact of your knowledge.

29/10/2024

*LOVE IS THE FORCE THAT MOVES YOU*

Everything you want to be, do or have comes from Love.

Without love, you wouldn't move. There would be no positive force to propel you to get up in the morning, to work, play, dance, talk , learn, listen to music, or do anything at all. You'd be like a Stone statue. It is the positive force of love that is inspire you to move and gives you the desire to be, do, or have anything.

The positive force of love can create anything good, increase the good things, and change anything negative in your life.

You have the power over your health, your wealth, your career , your relationships, and every area of your life.

And that power love is inside you!

But if you have the power over your life, and that power is inside you, why isn't your life amazing?

Why isn't every area of your life magnificent?

Why don't you have everything you want to do?

Why haven't you been able to do everything you want to do?

Why aren't you filed with Joy every day?

Here is the answer: it is because you have a choice. You have a choice to love and harness the positive force or not. And whether you realize it or not, every day of your life, every moment of your life, you have been making this choice. Someone said *"love is the most powerful and still most unknown energy in the world"*

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05/12/2023

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In marriage counseling in which I have been doing for over six years,I see this problem over and over again.

Most of the men that I counsel do not realize that many of the serious problems that are occurring in their homes directly result from their failure to lead.

It is clear that the lack of the husband’s leadership in his home will definitely create a chain reaction of marital, financial, and parenting problems.

Because men don’t lead, some smart women begin to lead.

That is the beginning of problems in the home because a woman was not designed to lead the family especially when the man is still alive.

But out of frustration for lack of male leadership, women begin to lead and the results are also chaotic.

Therefore, let us consider why husbands fail to lead.



*Why is there a problem with men taking the lead in their homes today There are many reasons why men fail to lead;*

1. *Many times men did not see good male leadership modeled in their own homes as they grew up.*
So, they don’t even know where to start.

2. *Some pastors do not teach about a husband’s leadership role because they fear being charged with male chauvinism (a belief that men are superior in terms of ability, intelligence etc).*

3. *Many husbands are just lazy and would rather relinquish or allow the leadership in the home to their wives.*


4. *Other husbands simply give up when their wives challenge them for the leadership of the home as their wives remind them of all their poor decisions in the past.*

5. *Other husbands are manipulated by their wives through tears, denial of s*x, or constant verbal harassment to relinquish leadership.*

6. *Some men ability to provide is not enough, so they allow the one that has got more resources to lead, I mean the one that pays the house and buys food. In this case, is the woman.*

Male leadership is God ordained. It is essential to understand that none of the above reasons are valid excuses that God would ever accept for a husband not being the leader of his home.
@⁨SC Boseh Edward⁩ USA CERTIFIED MARRIAGE counselor.

21/11/2023

*MENOPAUSE*
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Ordinarily, this should not be regarded as a s*xual problem in marriage because it is merely a phase in a woman’s life.

It is a stage in life when a woman stops menstruating and therefore may no longer bear children. It is treated as a problem here because the onset of menopause gives many women nightmares especially those who still want to bear more children or those who fear the biological and psychological changes that come with it.


Today, menopause probably comes too quickly-between the ages of 45 and 55, the age bracket when some ladies are still searching for a life partner or are just settling down in marriage.

Medical experts say menopause comes with gradual decrease of ovarian activity. Estrogen, which is responsible for o**m production decreases. She may begin to experience painful s*xual in*******se and weight problem.

The woman may also become more easily irritated, depressed and suffers from constant headache.


Dr. Derek Llewelly-Jones, author of Everywoman warns that women should not regard this phase of their life as the end of life. In fact, the chapter of his book on Menopause is titled *“Not the End of Life”*.

Most of the problems women complain about during this period are psychological in nature. The problems arise as a result of the fears and wrong notions such some women have.

Those who prepare themselves for that phase of life and accept it as a natural course of events remain healthy, radiant and s*xually active.

A woman cannot delay menopause. It comes at the appointed time. A husband and wife can make it a pleasurable period. It is a time for a husband to show more love, patience, kindness and understanding to his dear wife. It is a time for a woman to engage herself meaningfully in a pet project or church programme to keep herself busy and fulfilled. The idle mind is the devil’s workshop.

It is also a time for those who have grand children to bring them closer to the family. Grand children enliven the home of a nagging couple and give them tremendous joy and happiness. No woman should allow menopause to weigh her down unnecessarily.

USA certified marriage and family affairs trainer.

17/11/2023

IF LOVE IS BLIND, MARRIAGE WILL OPEN YOUR EYES.

Marriage is a wonderful thing to experience, but sometimes, it’s often made out to be something so perfect without challenges, and that is not true.

So it is a matter of importance that you know this point before you get into it

A lady who is a pastor shared with me how she felt in love and got engaged with a man and how the man's parents and elder brother admonished her to run for her dear life. They told her that their son lacked godly characters and getting married to him might endanger her life and ministry.

But she insisted on going ahead with the relationship, even after she personally discovered so many dangerous traits in the man. She was in "love".

After their wedding, the man actually became a threat to her life and ministry. He turned her to a punching bag, closed down the church she established before marriage and sold her only car she used for her ministry without her permission. He made life miserable for her. She tried her best to make the marriage work but all to no avail. Today, she has left the man with her child. 🙁🙆

What a story with too much sadness.

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Everyone

17/11/2023

So it is a matter of importance that you know this fact before you get married.

*X IS A GIFT FROM GOD. EXPLORE IT.

God created s*x, but through the years, God’s people have allowed Satan to steal this gift—without much of a fight.

I was never educated about s*x—and I grew up in a Christian family. My framework for s*x was built by my friends at school and the movies I watched.

It's sad and often detrimental that we're offered zero guidance about one of the most complicate aspects of being human: our s*xuality. We learn from pop culture, peers, and now, increasingly, from po*******hy, that s*x is something you use to gain approval, validation or security. Healthy s*x is none of those things.

Loving s*x is an expression of love, an act of connection where you practice the arts and skill of giving and receiving.

It is time for God’s people to take back the gift of s*x. The lies surrounding it are ruining lives and marriages. If you are married, explore the fullness of s*x for the glory of God. Pray for s*xual intimacy with your spouse. , USA CERTIFIED MARRIAGE counselor.

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17/11/2023

There is no such thing as a perfect marriage, there’ll always be one challenge or another to face the moment you embark on that journey, and unless you’re prepared for it by getting in the right frame of mind, and knowing the basics of relationship and marriage, you’ll not be able to handle those challenges when they come because you’ll be taken unawares.
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16/11/2023

I must say that Marriage is not for lazy people.
"Ngenge Edward"

08/11/2023

God is ABBA, meaning Source and Sustainer. He does not only sources man but also sustains man. The Garden of Eden was a perfect place where God sustain the man He had formed.

29/10/2023

*What Does The Bible Say About Abortion Of Unwanted Pregnancy?*
Is it Really A Sin? 😳
NGENGE EDWARD GLOBAL INFLUENCE NEGi

NEGi GLOBAL MARRIAGE AND BUSINESS ACADEMY

SINGLES AND MARRIED CORNER NOW NETWORK AFRICA SMCNNA.
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*United States situation:*

There are approximately 2 million babies aborted a year in the U.S. Nearly 1 of every 3 babies conceived is aborted. Since *abortion was legalized in 1973,* there has been over 40 million babies aborted. It is estimated there may be as many as 75 million babies aborted around the world in a year. An abortion occurs every 15-20 seconds...

*Nigeria situation:*

In Nigeria abortion is legally restricted. But at least 760,000 abortions happen every year, mostly outside the legal parameters, and from 3,000 to 34,000 women die annually from unsafe abortions, according to reports by the *Guttmacher Institute and the government of Nigeria.* (The numbers range widely because of the difficulty tallying the secret procedures.)

*What the bible has to say about abortion:*

Let's look in the Bible to see what God has to say about unborn children.

First off, God clearly tells us that He knew us before we were even born, and fashioned us in the womb.

*Psalm 139:13-16) For thou hast possessed my reins: Thou hast covered me in my mother's womb. (14) I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: Marvellous are thy works; And that my soul knoweth right well.*

*(Jer 1:5) Before I formed thee in the belly I knew thee; and before thou camest forth out of the womb I sanctified thee....*

*(Isa 44:24) Thus saith the Lord, thy redeemer, And he that formed thee from the womb, I am the Lord that maketh all things;*

*(Isa 49:1) Listen, O isles, unto me; And hearken, ye people from afar; The Lord hath called me from the womb; From the bowels of my mother hath he made mention of my name.*

Also see: *(Ps 119:73)(Isa 49:5)(Job 10:8)*

Think about that... God knew us from the beginning.
*Can anyone believe that God did not know us from the moment of conception?*

There are so many in the world today who would have us believe that a fetus is not really life, that it is just a blob of lifeless tissue. God certainly doesn't see it that way... In the Bible, when it talks about a woman being pregnant, it never uses the word pregnant. It says, the woman is "with child" (2 Sam 11:5)(1 Sam 4:19)(2 Kin 15:16)(Mt 1:23)(Mt 24:19)(Mk 13:17). An unborn child is never depicted in the Bible as lifeless at any stage.

Some other words of God to consider in the Bible

In Exodus 21:22-24 God talks about the rights of the unborn saying that if a woman with an unborn child is struck so that she loses her child, the life of the one who struck her is to be taken. The penalty God made for taking that unborn child's life was death. I state this simply to point out that abortion is also taking the life of an unborn child, and clearly God does not take that sin lightly for the one who is the offender.

God hates the shedding of innocent blood and wants us to defend the weak and helpless: *(Prov 6:16-17)(Prov 31:8-9)(Ps 82:2-4)(Ex 23:7)*.
Is there anything more innocent and weak and helpless than an unborn infant?

A question of reflection to you.
Happy Sunday to you all.

09/10/2023

Marriage is a wonderful thing to experience, but sometimes, it’s often made out to be something so perfect without challenges, and that is not true.

I am grateful for the foundation the Church gave me in regard to marriage. It was a good study guide. But there some things on the test I did not learn until marriage began. So I am going to give you some answers to the test that some of you might not expect to see.

BITTER TRUTHS ABOUT MARRIAGE YOU MAY NOT HEAR IN CHURCH 👨🏻‍💼👩‍💼

There is no such thing as a perfect marriage, there’ll always be one challenge or another to face the moment you embark on that journey, and unless you’re prepared for it by getting in the right frame of mind, and knowing the basics of relationship and marriage, you’ll not be able to handle those challenges when they come because you’ll be taken unawares.

I must say that Marriage is not for lazy people.

Because it requires hard work, sacrifice and a lot of commitment.

So it is a matter of importance that you know the following before you get married.

1. *S*X IS A GIFT FROM GOD. EXPLORE IT.*

God created s*x, but through the years, God’s people have allowed Satan to steal this gift—without much of a fight.

I was never educated about s*x—and I grew up in a Christian family. My framework for s*x was built by my friends at school and the movies I watched.

It's sad and often detrimental that we're offered zero guidance about one of the most complicate aspects of being human: our s*xuality. We learn from pop culture, peers, and now, increasingly, from po*******hy, that s*x is something you use to gain approval, validation or security. Healthy s*x is none of those things.

Loving s*x is an expression of love, an act of connection where you practice the arts and skill of giving and receiving.

It is time for God’s people to take back the gift of s*x. The lies surrounding it are ruining lives and marriages. If you are married, explore the fullness of s*x for the glory of God. Pray for s*xual intimacy with your spouse.

3. *MARRY SOMEONE WITH SIMILAR GOALS, DREAMS AND PASSIONS.*

Marry someone who is a Christian, yes. But I would go further—marry someone with similar passions and dreams. Of course, no two people are going to want exactly the same things in life. But some things are harder to work through than others. For example, if you love foreign missions and your potential spouse hates going overseas, tension is going to arise.

If your spouse has similar passions, they will be able to understand your struggles and fully support your pursuits. There is much power in two people living life with the same goals, dreams and passions for life.

3 *IF LOVE IS BLIND, MARRIAGE WILL OPEN YOUR EYES.*

A lady who is a pastor shared with me how she fell in love and got engaged with a man and how the man's parents and elder brother admonished her to run for her dear life. They told her that their son lacked godly characters and getting married to him might endanger her life and ministry.

But she insisted on going ahead with the relationship, even after she personally discovered so many dangerous traits in the man. She was in "love".

After their wedding, the man actually became a threat to her life and ministry. He turned her to a punching bag, closed down the church she established before marriage and sold her only car she used for her ministry without her permission. He made life miserable for her. She tried her best to make the marriage work but all to no avail. Today, she has left the man with her child. 🙁🙆

3. *MARRIAGE IS NOT FOR EVERYBODY.*

Paul talks about this in Corinthians. He tells the church at Corinth to remain in the situation they are in. If unmarried, then stay unmarried. If married, then stay married. Later, he says, “So then the person who marries his fiancee does well, and the person who doesn’t marry does even better” (1 Corinthians 7:38).

Maybe it is time for God’s people to accept the reality that God has not called everyone to marry.

I have talked with young men and women that are almost consumed with finding a spouse. And most of the pressure comes from church. Once a person reaches mid-twenties, we assume something is wrong with them if they have not married.

Shame on us. Marriage is holy and good, but it is also possible to follow Jesus without a spouse.

You see, most times, when two young people are attracted to each other, they choose to be blind to reality. They usually wave away warning signals during their courtship because they believe they are in love.

Singles, your marital choice is your life. you should act wisely. If you decide to tie your marital destiny with a wrong partner, you may regret it.

Never ignore warning signals. There is nothing you have spent in the process of your relationship with your partner that is bigger than your life and future. Don’t sell your happiness because of a relationship. Run for your dear life if you discover that someone is not right for you. Your destiny is not in
his/her hands.

True love is not blind to reasoning. It is the ability to make the right decision after considering all necessary angles.

Marriage does not change a person. If your partner beats you up, cheats on you, fools around, gets drunk and promises to stop when both of you get married, refuse to be fooled. The plain fact is that bad situations most times turn worse after marriage. Marriage does not change a person.

It is possible for people to change and personal habits turned around but when you have heard the same line several times, with no noticeable change in your partner’s behavior, it’s time to let go of the relationship.

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03/10/2023

Dr Mike oladipo said in one of his write that:

"The devil may not be after you; it may be distraction that is robbing you. You can’t please everyone, go everywhere and do everything if you want to excel in your space.

If there’s time for everything as the Bible says, then, there’s time to sit, stand, run and fly. Folly is nothing more than trying to be in the spotlight when you haven’t found your spot. Don’t beg or buy yourself into what you should work yourself into.

The future is not something you rush into; you don’t have to beg a new day to come, it’s coming. The future and your future are two different things.

The future will come, but your future is in your court. Your future is something you unlock and create with discipline. Patience to sit, listen and learn is a form of discipline, a godly virtue at that.

I know you want to fly, yes, you will. Just ensure you deploy the right strategy. Going forward, wear focus, eat it, buy it and wherever you go, don’t leave it behind.

Above all, your focus is most protected in the company of other focused people. Say No to distractions.

If you focus on your focus long enough, it soon will make you the focus of all focuses."

I know of a Lady who is over 40 years old but not yet married because she has a repelling attitude. She can pray very and even fast for days but she is so rude, proud, and has a domineering spirit.

She has the GIFT of the spirit but lack the FRUIT of the spirit.

There are some brothers who have life threatening characters too. They are not suitable for marriage. Any sister who decides to marry them has signed a lifetime of pain and regrets.

I have met some Christian ladies believing God for marital breakthrough, praying and fasting, going to prayer mountains asking God for a husband, but their character is so bad that godly men are running away from them.

They are very rude, proud, stubborn, stingy, bitter, unforgiven, full of hatred, unfaithful, unapproachable and insultive, yet they want a God-fearing man.

God can not be fooled my dear. Bad character is an enemy of marital breakthrough. Work on your character first and stop troubling heaven.

There are lots of God-fearing men, but your character is chasing them away because no man wishes to marry a lady that will make his life a living hell on earth.

My Dear, If You Must Have An Excellent Relationship, You Must Be Disciplined And Emotionally Stable!

Everything Controls Someone Who Cannot Control Himself!

Someone Without Self Control Is Like A Vehicle Without Steering! When You Enter Such A Relationship Vehicle You Know You Aя̲̣̥ε Heading For A Crash!!!!

A Sister Who Keeps Threatening To Kill Herself If You Fail To Marry Her Is Not A Stable Material For Wife!

A Sister Who Insult Her Own Parents, Pastors And Brethren In The Church Will Do The Same To You And Your Parents When You Marry Her!

Beware Of A Sister Who Has No Single Friend Because Of Her Uncontrollable Anger!

A sister Who Destroys The Side Mirror Of Your Car Because She Is Angry Will Destroy The Whole Car When You Marry Her!

A Brother Who Usually Shouts At You And Gives You A Holy Slap Will Beat Hell Out Of You In Marriage And May Even Send You To Your Early Grave.

A Man Who Sleeps With Your Sisters And Friends Will Sleep With Your Housemaid And Neighbour If You Travel Out For Just One Week! A Self Control Man Does Not Allow His Er****on To Determine His Direction!

A Lady With No Self Control Will Destroy The Family Budget By Her Unrestrained Spending! Many ladies Have Their Houses And Cars In Their Stomach Because They Can not Control What Goes Into Their Mouths!

A Man Without Self Control Will Beat His Wife And Even Defend Himself With The Scripture And Give Testimonies In The Church For Beating Her!

A Woman Without Self Control Will Insult Or Beat Her Husband And Relatives!

As a Man, Until you build godly character and know how to lead your beloved family, you are not fit for a glorious marriage because Your Character Is Your Marriage!

Leadership simply means influence. Not only lead but to lead by love as Christ did.
Therefore, a biblically-based husband should influence his family.

Husbands are not dictators, they should not demand, they should not abuse their wives saying they are the heads and woman must just follow. Instead, husbands should influence their wives and families in accordance with biblical teaching.

So sisters don't just choose any kind of man to be your husband, but choose a man you will love and be happy under his leadership. You need a person who can lead you and your family, through love and vision

Learn to be God fearing, friendly, faithful, real, kind, trustworthy, humble, caring, polite, forgiving, considerate, patient, appreciating, generous, loving, open and persevering.

Change your bad habits and pray the fruit of the Spirit into your life.

May God give us the grace to build godly characters in Jesus name

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Source of inspiration, pst Samuel olagbenjo, MSA.