10/09/2026
I’ve just read that it’s World Su***de Prevention Day, and came across a number of posts offering well-meaning advice, that, essentially, if you’re feeling suicidal, then you should just talk about it. Simple, right?
I think that, whilst this no doubt comes from a place of love, it’s quite a bit more complicated than that, unfortunately.
Talking as a bloke, (and not a typical keep-your-feelings-to-yourself kind of bloke) I think I would struggle with blurting out my deepest fears and worries to someone in my darkest time.
Why? Well, during some pretty difficult times of my own, I’ve found that compassion only extends so far, before it becomes a burden on the person listening. At least, that’s how it felt to be the person offloading. But I recognise that it might not be the same for everyone.
I know quite a few people close to me, who, for various reasons, are currently struggling with their mental health and choose not to talk about it, at least not for long or in too much detail.
I think this is where the internal dialogue can quite easily turn to “it’d be easier for me and everyone, if I was no longer here”, or “if I end it now, then all my problems will be gone.”
Totally understandable.
I wonder if there’s a better way of getting those in turmoil to seek the help they need, rather than just saying “please talk”.
It’s a beautiful sentiment, but in the same way that “ah, don’t worry about it” never alleviated anyone’s worries, I think asking those who are at their lowest point to talk, is a little futile, in most situations.
I certainly don’t have the answer, but would love to hear from those who might be able to offer a compassionate, balanced alternative. Or an effective way to get those in need to open up.
To anyone suffering, remember, you’re precious, valued and worthy of love.
I know, that if you felt like talking, I would listen.
