God Is Romantic

05/09/2025

SHOULD A LADY PROPOSE?: THE BALANCED PERSPECTIVE FROM SCRIPTURE
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So, we've seen both the Traditional and Modern perspectives on the subject. The two being diametrically opposed to each other but with some poignant reasons that can not be easily discarded because we disagree with them.

The Traditional and Stereotypical view advocating against Proposal by ladies whereas The Modern Perspective advances the motion in favour of ladies proposing.

So, where do we draw the fine line? Who or what shall be the arbiter of truth?

How about consulting the oldest oracle that predates the existence of man and witnessed the first marriage? An ancient oracle that yet timeless and bespeaks not only of today but tomorrow also? A bridge between yesterday: The Traditional/Stereotype Perspective and the 21st Century Perspective- The Bible.

From the examples of Scripture, is evident that the institution of marriage is initiated by man, viz a viz, the man's family. So the phrase "took to wife" or "took her as a wife", [severally recorded in Scripture], demonstrates that it is the man, not the woman, that takes the initiative for marriage.

This is not just a matter of Practice [Description] in Scripture, but it can also be said positively to be the Principle [Prescription] of Scripture on the subject. Therefore, as unpopular, stereotypical and mysogynist as it might sound, my deduction is this: According to Scripture, it is the guy that proposes, not the lady.

Now hold on a sec, before you disown God and disavow Scripture, hear me out. Because there's a caveat to this. [Oh, I just love God's Word].

Ladies, you are not left out at all. God likes women who challenge ungodly traditions. [Numbers 27- The Daughters of Zeleophehad]. And he's given them a playbook for that; a template if I should say: Ruth.

Quick dive in the Scripture: Ruth 3
Ruth, a foreigner that nationalised to become an Isrealite follows her late husband's mother back to Israel. Long story short- she ends up gleaning in the field of a man-Boaz, whom she learns can marry her and restore her late husband's estate. She's also interested in the guy. But there's this other dude who's customarily in line to marry her rather.

So what does she do, upon the advice of Naomi, she lies beneath Boaz's feet when he falls asleep. When Boaz awoke to find her there, he covers her with his cloth symbolizing his readiness to marry her. From there, the rest is a history of "Happily Ever After".

NB: It was no a s*xual appeal nor act.
Ok, just needed to clarify that.

So just like Ruth, a lady can find occassion to suggest to a guy that she is also interested in him. In any instance, she can ask plainly if the relationship is heading towards marriage and what his intentons are. Just to clarify things. It doesnt mean you are cheap. You need to orient the priorities of the relationship.

But notice how Ruth did it, it was a subtly persuasive non-public act.

So, by all means as a lady, you can ask, privately. But doing the whole public thing-

Anyways, that's it from me on the Biblical Perspective. Feel free to agree or disagree in the comments.

See you in the final writeup on "SHOULD A LADY PROPOSE?"

Stay Blessed and be a blessing. And always remember that God, Is Romantic 😘

04/09/2025

SHOULD A WOMAN PROPOSE?: A 21st Century Perspective
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First of, this is the 21st century: an age of enlightenment where we are no longer bound by arahiac stereotypes.

After all, "What a man can do, a woman can do...." [I hope you didn't add "better", that would be "misandry"- yeah that's actually a word.]

Anyways, the traditional role of men and women that has characterised society for millennia is gradually eroding as the lines are blurring. Today, many men want to marry an educated and or a working woman. Few are the men that want a "house-wife" so to speak. And its fast becoming a norm, a romantic one at that- as married men help their wives with house chores traditionally reserved for women: cooking, baby sitting, changing diapers, among others.

A lot of married women support their husbands and households financially. The age where the man was the sole provider has been rethought.

So the logic naturally follows: if these roles are blurred now between the s*xes and even complementary, "Why Can't A Lady Propose To Her Man?"

Or is that when the woman supports her husband financially, it's okay; when the man changes diapers, that's okay too; but somehow, this is an exception to change?

Just a Single guy's opinion. Feel free to disagree or otherwise. But leave a thought in the comments.

Stay Blessed and be a blessing. And always remember that God, Is Romantic! 😘

03/09/2025

SHOULD A LADY PROPOSE:A Traditional Perspective
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It was not only a knee that knelt, but her heart also. The ring box she opened was emblamatic of her heart. She had hoped he would jump at her in a savage embrace like he did last time, and lavish his love upon her: accepting her proposal.

But instead, he looks on: embarrassed and disappointed.
"What did i do wrong? After-all don't we love each other? Has he not promised to marry me? So what did i do wrong? Can't a lady propose?"

Well, that a mouthful of queations and i certainly do not have the answer to exhaust all your questions. But this is my submission.

Traditionally, Proposals have been the reserve of men. You may argue that its mysogynist, discriminatory against women or whatever. [You may have your day in court on that]. But regardless, it is a long standing tradition. And before you charge the mantra "Its our backward African tradition", you will do well to note that this practice is not exclusive to Africans.

The Proposal is traditionally the reserve of the man because of these factors that you are welcome to disagree:
1. The man is the head of the house and therefore must be one to take initiatives.
2. It is an act of chilvary on the part of the man, to go out of his way, to even take a knee and propose to a lady. Men are egotiscal, and for a man to do that for a woman, is a token of love.
3. It is a public pledge of fidelity on the part of the man.
4. If we are to invoke Scripture, the case is settled that men are the one's who initiate a proposal towards marriage, not women. [There is a caveat there.]
5. It also signals the man's preparedness to take care of his woman and his family; in monetary terms as well. So for a woman to take that initiative, you have not only robbed the man of his role but you are usurping him, his honor and implying that he does not have the financial capital to take you as his wife.

NB: As egotiscal as men are, he wants to pound his chest about the "chase or strive" to whoo you. How he toasted you. And now, you've robbed him of his bragging right.

So, can a woman propose and should she? Well, maybe we should explore that in another write-up.

Feel free to disagree or drop a thought in the comments. Stay Blessed and be a blessing.
And always remember that God, Is Romantic.

28/08/2025

WALKING ON EGG SHELLS- God Is Romantic

The tears may have dried, wiped with a pretence in public. But the gruesome scars are evident upon the soul. The dread still behind her eyes; betrayed by a contorted smile.

She lives in fear of her man. In feat of the man God created to protect her.

To walk on eggshells in a relationship is to live in fear of your partner. Afraid that if you do not pick the call... That if do not do what he or she wants in their way....
Some not only verbally abuse their partners, but also threaten them: holding the relationship hostage or worse their very lives. Whereas other toxic partners have the audacity to physically abuse their partners.

You don't have to walk on eggshells in your relationship. Scripture clearly declares : "There is no fear in Love." If your partner is putting you into fear. It s time to take a pause and seek godly counseling.

Feel free to disagree or leave a thought in the comments.

Stay Blessed and be a blessing. And always remember that God, Is Romantic.

01/08/2025

DO NOT MARRY OUT OF PITY NOR DESPERATION

31/07/2025

IT IS DANGEROUS TO MARRY A GREEDY WOMAN

This is a message from Rev. Eastwood
1. This is an excerpt from a longer video which gives the context
2. The context is the Biblical narrative of Adam and Eve
3. He first talked about the blessing of marrying a woman who is not greedy
4. From this his statement of Eve "beholding and giving a good fruit" to Adam should be understood with a hindsight on the "greediness"
5. Because she was greedy, [bad character or ungodly] she was easily decived by the serpent
6. What was a *bad* fruit looked pleasant to her... and she gave to her husband, albeit/probably innocently
7. The moral here from the story with the context in perspective against the contrast of the first statement is that: to an ungodly and greedy woman, even the bad looks good to her. And she may innocently and naively lead on her husband into disaster and troubles.

I hope this explanation helps.

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Bishop David Abioye

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