GEMcounselingconsultancy

GEMcounselingconsultancy GEM Counseling Consultancy offers individual and group counseling on various life contexts. It also engages in training workshops and seminars.

Contact us on +254 722 333862. This is a non-governmental organization whose mandate is to empower individuals to live a wholesome life, by examining the various life concerns, or mental health challenges they experience.

21/01/2026

In life it is possible to go through an experience that leaves one feeling so low and numb. It can result from a broken relationship; loss of a job; death of a loved one; a deal gone sour, and so on. One may feel like giving up, nothing to live for anymore, and negativity sinks in. In due time, one may even stop engaging in routine activities, including hygiene, and personal care, and result to staying indoors, in bed, with very minimum movement if any.
Comparing the above scenario to a vehicle. When one has a vehicle in the parking lot, if it stays there for even six months, without ever igniting it once in a while, the engine will eventually be messed up. it is important to keep igniting the engine regularly. This serves to preserve the engine, and make the vehicle functional. In a similar manner, it is important to ignite the engine of our lives, regularly, when one is going through a tough season in life. This may involve engaging in meaningful activity, for example, exercise such as taking short walk;s ensuring one takes a balanced diet; not isolating oneself; avoiding drug and substance abuse; positive self talk, psychotherapy, and many more.
Initially, one may not want to, or even have the strength to do so. However, the more one does it, the more the "engine" gets fired up. In addition, when one starts moving the vehicle, it is not possible to move from 0 Kph to 160Kph, indeed, the speed is gradually increased, through consistency in driving. Similarly, as one starts to engage in the meaningful activities, one may start with just 30 minutes per day. Consistency is key, to be able to gain momentum. As indicated earlier, it is also important to seek psychotherapy to work on the prevailing issues.

06/01/2026

In life, psychological injury could cause a lot of pain. Impact of physical injury could be a dislocation, fracture, sprain, or even just a small tear of the skin. Impact of a psychoogical injury, even though it isn't physically visible, may feel as such. Further, for a physical inury, it may also be important to seek help immediately, to prevent the injury from getting worse. Failure to do so may result in prolonged treatment of the wound. This could be similar, with psychological injury, where failure to seek treatment immediately could result in mental illness.
When one is in extreme psychological pain, there's a strong feeling to make the pain go away. The question is, how do you make that happen? If you try using dirty murky water to clean the wound, it may provide temporary relief, yet, introduce more infection. Do you treat your wound with murky water (drug and substance abuse, isolation, etc)? To prevent re-introduction of infections, it is important to treat the wound with clean water. Psychotherapy is an option available, please seek help.

25/12/2025

Thank you for walking the journey of life with us!
We wish you a merry Christmas and a bountiful new year!

01/01/2025

We wish you a Happy New Year 2025! May it be filled with joy and treasured memories

01/03/2024

Life has a number of charging systems, for example, relationships, and drug and substance abuse. Let's consider these two. If we consider our lives to be phones, once in a while, we will need re-charge, so that our battery (life) does not die. Relationships as phone chargers, have the potential to either power, our lives, or cause the battery to lose charge. When one is in a healthy relationship, then the battery charge is almost always full of charge, and the phone (our life) is able to function optimally. When one is in a toxic relationship, the charger appears to be connected to the phone, yet the phone battery keeps losing charge. Interestingly, for one to continue to be in the toxic relationship (malfunctioning charger), there is possibly something that the charger is serving. For example, one has invested time in the relationship, it offers one a sense of self- esteem (dating, married, as opposed to single or divorced). It may also be that the person has joint investments - money, children, social circles, etc. This would make one continue having the malfunctioning charger. Unfortunately, using a malfunctioning charger could reduce the batt life.
Similarly, engaging in drug and substance abuse could serve a function. For example, cools off steam, social circles that are fun, or the only individuals one feels, can engage in, and one may see it as a functional charger. However, it could cost one physically, mentally, socially, and financially, thereby serving as a malfunctional charger.
It is important to consider the pros and cons of utilizing the malfunctional charger, and the fully functional charger, and make an informed decision about what to do.
It would be very helpful for one to engage with a psychotherapist in that journey as soon as would be possible.
At GEMcounselingconsultancy, we are here to help you.

29/10/2023

YOUR SPOUSE IS YOUR COVER

Cover
To put something on top of or in front of something, over or place under
(something), especially in order to protect/ surround/ shield it.

How Does a Spouse Cover

1. Physically

A spouse protects from danger, from lack, from shame, etc. When someone attempts to attack a spouse, (physically or even verbally), the other spouse steps in, to protect. When a spouse provides for the other materially, it covers shame, and lack, as one is well taken care of.
In moments of sickness, one spouse takes care of the other as much as possible, to ensure their wellbeing is taken care of.
As you step out of your house each morning, the first person who compliments your look, or the lack of it, would be your spouse.

2. Socially

I have heard of widows who say, "there are things my family, my in-laws, our friends, etc would never have done, if my husband was alive. When that cover is taken off, one is exposed, there are things that others think they can now get away with, now that the cover is removed. You will often hear conversations such as, "leave that one alone, for he/ she is married"

3. Spiritually

Spouses could pray for and with each other. A spouse is a source of encouragement, one for the other.

4. Emotionally

In the highlights of your life, and in your
lowest moments , your spouse can be a source of great support, holding you up, walking with you, through it.
In life, your greatest cheerleader would be your spouse

24/10/2023

MIRROR MIRROR ON THE WALL
Quite often, we look at an individual whom we think is in need of Professional Counseling, and we tell the person as much. However, the person may fight us and insist that he/ she has no problem.
Consider this, there are times when you tell someone about how you can see a pimple on their forehead. The person may fight, because he/ she can't see it. It would help, to allow that person to stand in front of a mirror and see the pimple for themselves.
In a similar manner, it may help to MIRROR the behavior to the person, allowing the person to see what you are seeing, that is, the need to seek help
Notably, the person may still insist that the pimple isn't too big, it's painless, or, doesn't need intervention. That said, the ball is in that person's court.

21/07/2023

Building an intimate relationship with your partner is a lot of work. Sometimes, the relationship breaks and the people walk their separate ways. In that season, one may meet someone and believe that they have met a perfect replacement. However, would it be that in effect, the person they meet is to help them heal, and not necessarily a perfect replacement? Let's put it this way, when one is physically sick, one takes medicine. When you take the appropriate medicine, you get better, however, if you take the wrong medicine, one gets worse. It's important to be vigilant, at the point of pain, as one is vulnerable. It is also possible, that after one gets well, you realize that the person you have is not one you want to spend the rest of your life with. It is therefore, helpful not to rush into the next relationship. Take time to heal, and make the parameters clear. It is possible that if one makes it clear, the other person may run away, and one feels the need not to be clear from the start. However, when one gets better, having cemented the relationship, it may now also start to suffer, because this was only meant to be "medicine" and not a lasting solution towards your future relationship.
Truth be told, when you take medicine when you are sick, it is helpful towards healing. However, when you continue to take medicine even after you are whole, it now becomes poison to your body.
It is helpful to consider therapy, to walk through the journey towards living a wholesome life.

31/12/2022

Happy new year! May it shed new light, brighten your path and allow your roots grow deeper. Let's engage more, and grow more 🙏

IRREDUCIBLE MINIMUMIn employment, one works for 40 hours a week, which for many is an irreducible minimum. Very few hour...
08/06/2022

IRREDUCIBLE MINIMUM
In employment, one works for 40 hours a week, which for many is an irreducible minimum. Very few hours are therefore, left for family. In such a situation, it is possible to argue that the family suffers because there is little time, and nothing could possibly be done in such a situation. However, it is possible to enrich family life, even with the few hours. Consider this: when filling up two tanks, one may have a tap with running water (which could signify more time in our scenario) while the other tap has drops of water (which could signify less time). The tap with running water will definitely fill up faster, yet, the other tap though slower, will eventually fill with time.
An important aspect when examining the output, is to consider the quality of the input. Consider the input in the office, for example, if one spends all the 40 hours engaging in activities that do not enrich the work situation, such as, playing games on the computer, gossip, watching media on the electronic gadgets, playing games on the phone, chatting with friends, etc the output will show. In a similar manner, in the family, if one doesn't engage in activities that enrich the family, such as physical, emotional, financial, sexual abuse, including substance abuse, violence, neglect, etc. the output will also show. It is not just the time one puts in, but also the quality of that time. It is important to examine whether the input enriches the environment one is in,, whether it is work or home and adopt accordingly. With the little time, and yet quality time, a home, marriage, family could be greatly enriched........... a drop at a time, a day at a time.

25/01/2022

When planning for a trip, there are a few considerations. If you are on your own, you are the focus of attention. If you have a family, a spouse and children. You consider them, and identify what will suit them, to make their stay during the trip and in the destination, comfortable. Failure to do so may imply that you do not fully enjoy the trip and your stay in your destination, as once in a while, concerns will arise for your loved ones with you. You could factor in the weather, how long your stay will be, and so on, to be able to plan accordingly. Sumilarly, when making transitions in life, such as a change of career. One may be required to work long hours, travel frequently, all of which may impact on the family.
It would be helpful to consider the concerns of the family and adjust accordingly.

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