13/01/2026
As a leadership coach, I always remind people: the choices you make about where to work and who to walk with in life should come after a season of growth.
Not when you are still trying to discover yourself. Not when you are shrinking to fit in. And not when your potential is still hidden.
Choose environments and relationships when your strength is beginning to show. Otherwise, you risk surrounding yourself with people who feel threatened by your growth instead of inspired by it.
There is a reason you should select a workplace, a partner, or close collaborators after your potential has started to bear fruit.
It protects you from aligning with people who are secretly uncomfortable with your progress.
People whose sense of relevance depends on keeping you small.
They call your ambition “pride.”
They call your vision “rebellion.”
They call your growth “disloyalty.”
They become so invested in managing you that your progress feels like their loss.
A quiet resistance that looks like love, loyalty, or teamwork, but is actually fear of being outgrown.
Many high-impact leaders and institutions only flourished after separating from environments that could not contain their vision.
History quietly teaches us that sometimes growth requires space. Sometimes destiny needs room to breathe.
But the goal is not divorce, resignation, or painful separation.
The better way is wisdom in timing.
Give yourself time for self-discovery before you make permanent choices.
Before you commit to a partner.
Before you tie your future to an organization.
Before you submit your dreams to someone else’s permission.
When you are goijg through heartbreak, you are financially desperate, your judgment is clouded. You choose from survival, not from purpose.
You must wait until you can hear your own instincts, Until your mind is clear, until your vision and life purpose becomes clear in your mind, and until you are able to switch off the phone for a whole day wothout Fear of Missing Out (FOMO).
Otherwise, you will spend your life: Working in the wrong places.
Connecting and Building with the wrong people.
And dancing to a tune that was never written for you.
