11/02/2013
15 THINGS TO GIVE UP...
1. GIVE UP MY NEED TO ALWAYS BE RIGHT
2. GIVE UP MY NEED FOR CONTROL
3. GIVE UP ON BLAME
4. GIVE UP MY SELF-DEFEATING SELF-TALK
5. GIVE UP MY LIMITING BELIEFS
6. GIVE UP COMPLAINING
7. GIVE UP THE LUXURY OF CRITICISM
8. GIVE UP MY NEED TO IMPRESS OTHERS
9. GIVE UP MY RESISTANCE TO CHANGE
10. GIVE UP LABELS
11. GIVE UP ON MY FEARS
12. GIVE UP MY EXCUSES
13. GIVE UP THE PAST
14. GIVE UP ATTACHMENT
15. GIVE UP LIVING MY LIFE TO OTHER
PEOPLE’S EXPECTATIONS
1. GIVE UP YOUR NEED TO ALWAYS BE
RIGHT
There are so many of us who can’t stand the
idea of being wrong – wanting to always be
right – even at the risk of ending great
relationships or causing a great deal of stress
and pain, for us and for others. It’s just not
worth it. Whenever you feel the ‘urgent’ need
to jump into a fight over who is right and who
is wrong, ask yourself this question: “Would I
rather be right, or would I rather be kind?”
Wayne Dyer. What difference will that make? Is
your ego really that big?
2. GIVE UP YOUR NEED FOR CONTROL
Be willing to give up your need to always
control everything that happens to you and
around you – situations, events, people, etc.
Whether they are loved ones, coworkers, or
just strangers you meet on the street – just
allow them to be. Allow everything and
everyone to be just as they are and you will
see how much better will that make you feel.
“By letting it go it all gets done. The world is
won by those who let it go. But when you try
and try. The world is beyond winning.” Lao
Tzu
3. GIVE UP ON BLAME
Give up on your need to blame others for what
you have or don’t have, for what you feel or
don’t feel. Stop giving your powers away and
start taking responsibility for your life.
4. GIVE UP YOUR SELF-DEFEATING SELF-
TALK
Oh my. How many people are hurting
themselves because of their negative, polluted
and repetitive self-defeating mindset? Don’t
believe everything that your mind is telling you
– especially if it’s negative and self-defeating.
You are better than that.
“The mind is a superb instrument if used
rightly. Used wrongly, however, it becomes
very destructive.” Eckhart Tolle
5. GIVE UP YOUR LIMITING BELIEFS
about what you can or cannot do, about what
is possible or impossible. From now on, you
are no longer going to allow your limiting
beliefs to keep you stuck in the wrong place.
Spread your wings and fly!
“A belief is not an idea held by the mind, it is
an idea that holds the mind” Elly Roselle
6. GIVE UP COMPLAINING
Give up your constant need to complain about
those many, many, maaany things – people,
situations, events that make you unhappy, sad
and depressed. Nobody can make you
unhappy, no situation can make you sad or
miserable unless you allow it to. It’s not the
situation that triggers those feelings in you, but
how you choose to look at it. Never
underestimate the power of positive thinking.
7. GIVE UP THE LUXURY OF CRITICISM
Give up your need to criticize things, events or
people that are different than you. We are all
different, yet we are all the same. We all want
to be happy, we all want to love and be loved
and we all want to be understood. We all want
something, and something is wished by us all.
8. GIVE UP YOUR NEED TO IMPRESS OTHERS
Stop trying so hard to be something that you’re
not just to make others like you. It doesn’t
work this way. The moment you stop trying so
hard to be something that you’re not, the
moment you take off all your masks, the
moment you accept and embrace the real you,
you will find people will be drawn to you,
effortlessly.
9. GIVE UP YOUR RESISTANCE TO CHANGE
Change is good. Change will help you move
from A to B. Change will help you make
improvements in your life and also the lives of
those around you. Follow your bliss, embrace
change – don’t resist it.
“Follow your bliss and the universe will open
doors for you where there were only walls”
Joseph Campbell
10. GIVE UP LABELS
Stop labeling those things, people or events
that you don’t understand as being weird or
different and try opening your mind, little by
little. Minds only work when open. “The
highest form of ignorance is when you reject
something you don’t know anything about.”
Wayne Dyer
11. GIVE UP ON YOUR FEARS
Fear is just an illusion, it doesn’t exist – you
created it. It’s all in your mind. Correct the
inside and the outside will fall into place.
“The only thing we have to fear, is fear itself.”
Franklin D. Roosevelt
12. GIVE UP YOUR EXCUSES
Send them packing and tell them they’re fired.
You no longer need them. A lot of times we
limit ourselves because of the many excuses
we use. Instead of growing and working on
improving ourselves and our lives, we get
stuck, lying to ourselves, using all kind of
excuses – excuses that 99.9% of the time are
not even real.
13. GIVE UP THE PAST
I know, I know. It’s hard. Especially when the
past looks so much better than the present and
the future looks so frightening, but you have to
take into consideration the fact that the present
moment is all you have and all you will ever
have. The past you are now longing for – the
past that you are now dreaming about – was
ignored by you when it was present. Stop
deluding yourself. Be present in everything you
do and enjoy life. After all life is a journey not
a destination. Have a clear vision for the
future, prepare yourself, but always be present
in the now.
14. GIVE UP ATTACHMENT
This is a concept that, for most of us is so
hard to grasp and I have to tell you that it was
for me too, (it still is) but it’s not something
impossible. You get better and better at with
time and practice. The moment you detach
yourself from all things, (and that doesn’t
mean you give up your love for them –
because love and attachment have nothing to
do with one another, attachment comes from a
place of fear, while love… well, real love is
pure, kind, and self less, where there is love
there can’t be fear, and because of that,
attachment and love cannot coexist) you
become so peaceful, so tolerant, so kind, and
so serene. You will get to a place where you
will be able to understand all things without
even trying. A state beyond words.
15. GIVE UP LIVING YOUR LIFE TO OTHER
PEOPLE’S EXPECTATIONS
Way too many people are living a life that is
not theirs to live. They live their lives
according to what others think is best for them,
they live their lives according to what their
parents think is best for them, to what their
friends, their enemies and their teachers, their
government and the media think is best for
them. They ignore their inner voice, that inner
calling. They are so busy with pleasing
everybody, with living up to other people’s
expectations, that they lose control over their
lives. They forget what makes them happy,
what they want, what they need….and
eventually they forget about themselves. You
have one life – this one right now – you must
live it, own it, and especially don’t let other
people’s opinions distract you from your path.
