26/05/2026
Something most married people are afraid to accept is the unspoken reality that you will find other people attractive or admire other people more than your spouse some days.
And that doesnât mean your marriage is broken.
We often assume âtrue loveâ means our spouse becomes the only interesting, attractive, intelligent, funny person on the planet after saying âI do.â
Admiration doesnât stop at the altar.
Youâll meet colleagues, friends, influencers, even strangers who make you think âwow, I wish my partner had that energy/ambition/humor.â Thatâs human. Your brain is wired to notice novelty and competence. Marriage doesnât delete that wiring.
See ba, I admire women with huge backyard and my wife is very aware of it.
I go ahead to even show her to join me admire and scream Choi! together whenever we see backyard that's too huge and sophisticated đ
The truth is that, admiring someone else becomes a problem when you start hiding it, feeding it and using it as a weapon
And comparing your spouse to be like someone else turns a normal human thought into relationship poison!
I'm not saying you all should be like my wife and I but it's best to reinvest in your person
The antidote to outside admiration isnât guilt. Itâs remembering why you chose your spouse and creating moments where you see that person again
Marriage isnât the absence of temptation or comparison. Itâs choosing your person even when the comparison happens.
If you expected marriage to kill attraction to everyone else, you set yourself up to feel like a failure but If you expect marriage to survive despite it, you set yourself up to build something real
Chukwubuike anyi!
