10/08/2023
You thought you've lost it all but YOU CAN BE MORE
One of the sacrifices women make for marriage is giving up their job to relocate to where their husband resides.
Initially, you feel good about it, but as time goes on you miss a lot, you miss the independence the job offers you, the money and the respect.
You face situations where you have to always make a request before you can purchase anything, where you can no longer support your family, you can't even contribute financially to your home or support your husband because you have to depend on him for everything.
You begin to feel sad, worthless and empty, you start feeling guilty for not contributing financially,
You start getting angry with yourself, the worst is when your husband dresses up to go to work in the morning, and you remember how you are going to spend your day in a confined place, living in boredom and loneliness.
Then you start to regret why you have to be the one to sacrifice your job, you start to regret why you got married.
In the midst of all this, you got pregnant and the joy of becoming a mother makes you forget your anger.
You are happy, you're going to be a mother, you will no longer be lonely and bored because a partner is on the way.
With hope and fear you walk through the journey of pregnancy till delivery
Now you're a mum, you enjoy staying at home and taking care of your baby without worrying about maternity leave or pressure of when to resume back to work.
You are not thinking of getting a job anymore because you can't live with the idea of leaving your baby 6-8hours daily to strangers.
You cook, clean the house, feed and take care of the baby.
You soon realize being a mum is an exhausting and tough job, it's mentally, emotionally, and physically draining. You wake up everyday doing the same house chores over and over just to have them undone again.
It now looks as if you don't have a life anymore, because you spend most of your time taking care of your kid, husband and the house.
You probably graduated with a first class only to stay at home, stare at the wall, think of what to cook and think of the last time you changed diapers.
You thought you have lost it all, your dream, your career, your self worth to marriage and motherhood
but
YOU CAN BE MORE
You can be more than a wife and a mum
You can improve your self confidence and self esteem
You can achieve that goal and live your dreams
You can reclaim your individuality and sense of purpose
You can be financially independent,
You can be the best version of yourself while you are taking care of your child at home
The world we live today has made it easier and cheaper to live your dream even while you are home
With the technological advancement, you don't need to leave your home to make a living
You can work where you want, when you want and for whoever you want to work for. This gives you the flexibility to run your business while you are available for your family
With your smartphone, access to the Internet and the required skills, you can either choose
A home based job, which is a service based business where you offer to perform a task or complete a project for someone. You essentially “do it for them” and you get paid
A home based business, which is product-based businesses involve selling of product, either a physical or digital product
There are thousands of jobs and businesses online to do but the most successful online businesses are those that align with your talents and strengths.
Find what works for you, and develop yourself in it, be the best version of you, so that when your season to step out comes the world won't know what hit them.
Don’t sacrifice your dream.
Be true to yourself because you are responsible for your own happiness.