Jolayemi Abiola

23/10/2024

THE 48 LAWS OF POWER.

A Book written by Robert Greene that offers a Series of Strategies for Obtaining and Maintaining Power in various situations. Here I leave you a summary of the 48 Laws:

1.
Don't Outshine the Boss: Make your Superiors feel Superior. Don't expose your Talent too much or you might Trigger their Insecurity.

2.
Don't Trust friends too much, use your Enemies: Friends Betray you more easily, but if you Manage to WIN an Enemy, they will be more Loyal.

3.
Hide your Intentions: Keep People Off Balance so they can't anticipate your Actions.

4.
Always say Less than Necessary: Silence Breeds Power, and Talking too much Reveals your Plans.

5.
Protect your Reputation at all Costs: Reputation is the Cornerstone of Power.

6.
Call Attention at all Costs: Be Visible to be Relevant.

7.
Make others Work for you and Attribute it: Take Advantage of the Work and Effort of others to your Advantage.

8.
Make others come to you: Don't Run after Others, make them Look for you.

9.
Win with Actions, Never Arguments: Prove your Point through Actions, Not Words.

10.
Avoid Losers and Unhappy: The Misfortune of others is Contagious; stay away from those who Bring you Down.

11.
Make People Depend on you: If others Depend on you, you're in Control.

12.
Disarm with Sincerity and Selective Generosity: Emotional Disarmament will give you an Edge.

13.
When you ask for Help, Appeal to the Interests of Others: Appeal to what Benefits Others, not Gratitude or Compassion.

14.
Introduce yourself as a Friend, act as a Spy: Learn to Extract Valuable Information from others without them Noticing.

15.
Crush your Enemy Completely: Do not let your Enemy Recover, or he will seek Revenge.

16.
Use Absence to Increase Respect: The Value of something Increases with Scarcity..

17.
Keep Others in Suspense: Be Unpredictable, you will Confuse Others and Gain Power.

18.
Do Not Isolate yourself: Loneliness Weakens you; Engage yourself in the Web of Influence.

19.
Know Who You’re Dealing With: Choose Your Opponents And Partners Wisely.

20.
Don't compromise with anyone: Maintain your Independence so you don't get Caught up in other People's Affairs.

21.
Pretend to be a Fool to Catch the Sly: Let others think they have an Advantage over you.

22.
Use the Surrender Tactic: Sometimes giving in at the Right Time gives you the Advantage.

23.
Focus your Forces: Keep your Energy Focused on what really Matters.

24.
Be a Master at Simulation and Disguise: Don't reveal all your cards.

25.
Recreate your own identity: Be the architect of your own destiny.

26.
Keep your hands clean: Make sure the responsibility for the problems falls on others.

27.
Play with people's needs to create devotion: Satisfy their deep desires to earn you their loyalty.

28.
Be bold in acting: Timidity is dangerous, boldness is powerful.

29.
Plan everything to the end: Having a detailed plan allows you to avoid unpleasant surprises.

30.
Make your accomplishments look easy: Minimize the effort you put in to make others think you have innate talent.

31.
Control Other People's Options: Guide the decisions of others by giving them limited options.

32.
Play with people's fantasy: Appeal to people's emotions and dreams to gain clout.

33.
Discover the weaknesses of others: Identify what drives people to manipulate their actions.

34.
Be rule in your behavior: Power lies in the appearance of greatness and dignity.

35.
Master the art of timing: Don't rush; everything has its right time.

36.
Despise what you can’t have: Don’t obsess over things that are out of your reach.

37.
Create engaging spectacles: Theatrics and spectacles capture attention.

38.
Think as you wish, but behave like everyone else: Do not openly defy social norms.

39.
Stir the waters to catch fish: Destabilize others to make mistakes.

40.
Despise free: What is free usually comes with a hidden cost.

41.
Avoid imitating great men: Forge your own path instead of following in the footsteps of others.

42.
Beat the shepherd and the sheep will scatter: He demolishes leaders to weaken his followers.

43.
Work on the hearts and minds of others: Conquer the spirit of people to control them.

44.
Disarm and anger with mirror effect: Reflect the actions of others to destabilize them.

45.
Preach the need for change, but never reform too much: Radical change can generate resistance.

46.
Never look too perfect: Perfection breeds envy and haters.

47.
Don't exceed your goal: When you achieve what you want, retire on time.

48.
Be amorphous: Be adaptable, don't limit yourself to a rigid form.

These laws are designed to handle situations of power, but it's important to consider context and personal ethics when applying them.

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23/10/2024

"The Absent Father Effect on the Daughter" by Susan Schwartz explores the impact of father absence on daughters' lives and relationships.

Here are 10 lessons from the book:

1. Father-Daughter Bond: The father-daughter relationship plays a crucial role in a girl's emotional development and self-esteem. Schwartz highlights the significance of this bond and its lasting effects on daughters' lives.

2. Emotional Consequences: Father absence can lead to a range of emotional consequences for daughters, including feelings of abandonment, inadequacy, and low self-worth. Schwartz examines how these emotional wounds can affect girls' relationships and well-being into adulthood.

3. Impact on Identity: Fathers play a pivotal role in shaping their daughters' sense of identity and self-image. Schwartz explores how father absence can leave daughters searching for validation and approval from others, impacting their sense of self.

4. Attachment Issues: Father absence can result in attachment issues and difficulty forming healthy relationships. Schwartz discusses how daughters may struggle with trust, intimacy, and vulnerability due to unresolved father-daughter issues.

5. Interpersonal Patterns: Daughters may unconsciously seek out relationships that mirror their experiences with their absent fathers. Schwartz explores how father absence can influence daughters' interpersonal patterns and romantic choices.

6. Healing and Recovery: Recognizing the impact of father absence is the first step toward healing. Schwartz offers strategies for daughters to acknowledge and process their emotions, cultivate self-awareness, and engage in self-care to facilitate healing and recovery.

7. Forgiveness and Letting Go: Forgiveness can be a powerful tool for daughters to release anger and resentment toward their absent fathers. Schwartz discusses the importance of forgiveness in the healing process and letting go of past hurts to move forward.

8. Building Support Networks: Building a strong support network is essential for daughters coping with father absence. Schwartz encourages daughters to seek support from friends, family, therapists, and support groups to navigate their emotions and experiences.

9. Empowerment and Self-Empathy: Daughters can empower themselves by reclaiming their narratives and embracing self-compassion. Schwartz emphasizes the importance of self-empathy and self-love as daughters navigate their journeys of healing and self-discovery.

10. Breaking Generational Patterns: Breaking generational patterns of father absence requires conscious effort and self-awareness. Schwartz encourages daughters to cultivate healthy relationships, set boundaries, and prioritize their well-being to create a different legacy for future generations.

These lessons from "The Absent Father Effect on the Daughter" shed light on the profound impact of father absence on daughters' lives and offer insights into the journey of healing and self-empowerment.

02/06/2024

"Our 1960 national anthem, given to us as a parting gift by a British housewife in England, had called Nigeria ‘our sovereign motherland’.

The current anthem, put together by a committee of Nigerian intellectuals and actually worse than the first one, invokes the father image.

But it has occurred to me that Nigeria is neither my mother nor my father.

Nigeria is a child. Gifted, enormously talented, prodigiously endowed and incredibly wayward."

- Chinua Achebe

02/06/2024

“If you die today, everyone who depends on you will still survive“ - Brain Jotter

“Many of you are carrying burdens that are not your own, no matter how much you hustle, money no dey stand for your hand. This person is calling and that person is calling, if you answer to all financial demands you’ll never make it. You cannot be drowning and trying to safe others. Stand first before anything. Some first borns can’t even breathe again. If you give out all you have and tomorrow you have nothing they’ll say you wasted money. I know you love your family and girlfriend but it’s not every bill you pay. Some of us have become the wicked and bad brothers and uncles because we denied to give “ Brain Jotter

Life is hard for everyone please 🙏, slow down with billing. To everyone hustling to make family proud make God bless una. To all responsible first borns, you all deserve more blessings.

02/06/2024

*FOUR STAGES OF ELIMINATION IN LIFE*👇

1. At *60*, the workplace eliminates you. No matter how successful or powerful you were during your career, you'll return to being an ordinary person. So, don't cling to the mindset and sense of superiority from your past job. Let go of your ego, or you might lose your sense of ease!

2. At *70*, society gradually eliminates you. The friends and colleagues you used to meet and socialize with become fewer, and hardly anyone recognizes you at your former workplace. Don't say, "I used to be..." or "I was once..." because the younger generation won't know you, and you mustn't feel uncomfortable about it!

3. At *80*, family slowly eliminates you. Even if you have many children and grandchildren, most of the time, you'll be living with your spouse or by yourself. When your children visit occasionally, it's an expression of affection, so don't blame them for coming less often, as they're busy with their own lives!

4. At *90*, the Earth wants to eliminate you. Some of the people you knew have already departed forever. At this point, don't be sad or mournful because this is the way of life, and everyone will eventually follow this path!

*REMEMBER,*
*1. the only thing that won't eliminate you eternally is God because at the end of our journey here on earth, we shall all return to Him with accounts of how we lived our lives*
*2. So, meet Him more,*
*3. Communicate with Him more,*
*4. Obey His orders, and*
*5. Maintain your presence with Him*

*Therefore, while our bodies are still capable, live life to the fullest! Worship God in truth and in spirit. And there will be no regrets living out our lives for Him!*

Happy New Month, and stay blessed!

02/06/2024

: THEY DON'T USE UMBRELLA ☔
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Did you know that in Iwoye-Ketu, it is forbidden to use umbrella.
Iwoye-Ketu is a community that sits between Nigeria and The Republic of Benin, it’s about 98km away from Abeokuta, Ogun State and sharing the border with Oyo state to the North.

Around the world almost everybody owns or rents an ☔ umbrella ☂️ and use them as a canopy to cover themselves under the rain or hot 🌞 sun.
But this is not the case in Iwoye-Ketu area of Ogun State, Nigeria.
The villager prefer to get soaked in the rain than use an umbrella.

History: The custom goes back to the 1700s when the first settlers discovered this community.
From that period to date, even with the coming of Christianity and Islam to this community, they still practice this strange tradition.

“In those days, our forefathers used to hunt elephants in the forests. Since elephants have big ears that are wide like an umbrella, they felt threatened by the sight of umbrellas anytime they saw hunters with them. Most times, the elephants would chase after them and caused many vicious attacks”. - JOEL AREMU (monarch) he told the Punch.

The youths of this community do not really agree with this tradition but they don’t disobey the rule.

The population of Iwoye-Ketu, Ogun State is about 75,000 people and the majority of them are farmers, hunters and their ancestors hail from Ile-Ife, Osun State.

History says that one of the first settlers Olumu(from Ile-Ife) came with three items namely; a crown, a staff which is called Opa Ogbo and 👑 his deity known as Orisa Oluwa.
Surprisingly, It is the Orisa Oluwa deity that forbids they use of umbrellas, and also forbids the rearing of pigs because they are seen as dirty animals.

Many residents of the community have umbrellas bu only make use of it when they are outside the community.
While within in the community, they use hoods, raincoats, traditional woven hats, and polythene to protect themselves from the rain.

osuntofufunmi iyinola ✍🏾

30/05/2024

SOME FREE LEGAL TIPS TO CONSIDER WHEN BUYING LANDED PROPERTIES IN NIGERIA

1. When buying family properties, especially royal or traditional families, ensure that you are dealing with the Head of the family and at least two principal members of the family, who are adults. Anything short of this, the sale is NULL. Head of the family alone cannot sell family property and principal members of the family alone cannot sell family property. It’s even worse if you are dealing just one person claiming to be the representative of the family.

2. When buying land from a company, ensure that you get the Status Report of the company before paying. Be certain that the property is not only registered in the name of the company but also the directors are the ones signing the documents with you. Insist on getting the means of identification of the seller. If they tell you they are selling on behalf of the family, refer to number 1 above by requesting for the Deed of Power of Attorney.

3. The fact that a property has a C of O is not a conclusive proof of title. You have to be certain that the C of O was not falsified or obtained by fraud or obtained over an encumbered property. Similarly, when a property is covered by a Deed of Assignment, ensure that it is a duly registered and stamped Deed and it is verified to be unencumbered. An unregistered Deed of Assignment cannot transfer a valid legal title. Ir is not different from a Contract of a sale of Land.

4. When buying property from a Church or Mosque, ensure that it is registered in the registered name of the Church or the Mosque. Also, make sure that you are dealing with the registered Trustees because not all Imams and Pastors are Trustees of the Church and Mosques. In most cases, they are just employees and get paid monthly salaries. So they cannot sell any property to you.

5. When buying property from a couple. If possible, request for their marriage certificate and do not deal with either the husband or wife. Make sure you deal with both of them. Don’t fall for, I have my husband or wife permission to sell. Also, make sure they both sign your documents in the presence of a witness. Otherwise, the sale can easily be set aside, especially when they are going through a divorce.

6. When buying a property that’s a subject of a will. Don’t fall for “my dad or mum” willed it to me without sighting the will. Also, sighting the will is not enough, you must make sure that the will is not subject to any litigation and the Executors of the Will have issued an Assent to the beneficiary selling the property to you. Without the document called “Assent”, no beneficiary can sell any property he or she inherited to you. Also, make sure you ask for a copy of the “Probate” issued to the Executors; because that’s the only document that gives the Executors the power to issue Assent. If it’s not a will, then ensure you have a copy of the Letters of Administration. Without this, you have not acquired a property.

7. When buying a property from a Developer, the title documents are not enough. Ask for development or building permits. Ask for evidence of payment of ground rents and land use charges on the property.

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30/05/2024

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30/05/2024

Nigeria, we hail thee,
Our own dear native land,
Though tribe and tongue may differ,
In brotherhood, we stand,
Nigerians all, and proud to serve
Our sovereign Motherland.

Our flag shall be a symbol
That truth and justice reign,
In peace or battle honour’d,
And this we count as gain,
To hand on to our children
A banner without stain.

O God of all creation,
Grant this our one request,
Help us to build a nation
Where no man is oppressed,
And so with peace and plenty
Nigeria may be blessed.

03/03/2024

*THE BEAUTY OF CLASSMATES*

https://infinitycleaningy.medium.com/the-beauty-of-classmates-f0d7f3d3e580

Many years ago I was working as a clerk at a faculty in one popular university in Nigeria, then I saw an advert for NDA (Nigeria Defence Academy), I have always loved to go to NDA so I applied, submitted my form and was called for admission examination.

I had to travel to Kaduna all the way from Osun State, I have a distant uncle that was resident there then. I wrote a letter (no telephone at the time) to my uncle that I was coming to sit for an exam in Kaduna and would love to stay in their house.

I didn't get a reply to my letter even as my departure date was approaching. I became so worried because I needed to go anyway, as I was talking to a colleague in the office concerning my fear of where to stay, our office cleaner who was a Hausa man overheard us and in his broken English interjected that he knew someone right inside NDA.

Who could he know there? *Is it not a cleaner like himself*, I unintentionally said it out to his hearing. "Oga no o, the commandant op za NDA na ma classmate and ma priend". In his bad handwriting, he scribbled the commandant's name on a piece of paper. "Just mention my name's por am, him go helf you."

I reluctantly collected the paper from him, not because I intended to make use of it but because I didn't want him to feel bad.

The next day, I set out on this long journey by train from Osogbo. I got to Kaduna a day later towards evening. Upon getting there, I went straight to my uncle's house only to find out that they had relocated from that place and no one knew their new address. I became stranded and it was getting late.

Around after 7pm, I made up my mind to give my cleaner's contact a shot. I got to the gate of NDA and mentioned the name I was given. To my utmost surprise, everyone in that bit, recognized the name and one person was promptly detailed to take me to his office.

I gave the paper where Kabiru wrote his name and that of his friend to the secretary who took it inside. On sighting the paper, the commandant shouted from the office and followed the secretary outside to usher me in. "Where do you know Kabiru?" "He's my colleague in the office, Sir," I answered.
"Where is he? How is he? Hope he's doing well?" This man was asking me many questions in an obvious excitement.

The look on his face confirmed to me that Kabiru was his beloved friend. He asked me what I came to do in Kaduna and I said it was for the NDA exams. "Wow, do you have where to sleep?" "No, sir." He immediately called someone to take me to his house. On getting to the house, I was lavishly entertained.

This man came late in the night and he woke me up and took me up on tutorials for the next day's exams. After the exams, he personally drove me to the park the next day.

When I got back to the campus, I began to look at Kabiru with a different eyes. How on earth does this man know such a powerful person? Needless to say, my name was number four on the list when the results came out.

Friends, I put it to you today that relationship is a currency. Every man needs another man to move up and that man may be the neighbour you look down on, maybe the taxi driver you so despise or even the house help you think is a nobody today.

Relationship is a stream of income. Everything in life actually reproduces on the basis of relationship. Those we know in life matter. *Most of us are talented but we need a cupbearer that will tell Pharaoh that there's a Joseph that can interpret dreams.* we need our old school mates irrespective of their status today.
Hook up with your class mates in the primary, secondary and tertiary schools alumni.

There are some heights you may never get to in life until someone tells someone about you even in church or mosque. Therefore, shut the door on relationships gently. You may need to use it tomorrow.

Let us take our relationships seriously. Even if you meet online, don't look down on anyone. You never can tell which of the relationships will be your own key to success.

1. Classmates Are Family.
- Avoid Things That Divide Family.

2. In Class You Would Always Be ABUBAKAR, EMEKA and ADEWALE etc Despite the PhD, SAN, Hon, Chief, General, Prof, Mr, Dr, Rev, Ustaz etc.

3. Check On, Reach Out To Classmates Who May Be Less Successful.

4. Achievements Are Processes Not Destination; Everyone Has His Time.

5. Class Groups Are Not Places For Intimidation But Co-operation.

6. Classmates Are Not Political Or Cabal Groups

7. Be Humble and Sincere With your Classmates, They Knew You When You were Nobody.

8. A United Class Is a Successful Class, No Matter Who Succeeds First.

9. Never Treat Classmates Like Employees..

10. Be Kind To Classmates, Table Can Turn in Future.

11. 💰 Money Can't Buy You Classmates' Support When You are In Trouble.

12. Forgive Classmates' Mistakes ,They are Human.

2. In Class You Would Always Be ABUBAKAR, EMEKA and ADEWALE etc Despite the PhD, SAN, Hon, Chief, General, Prof, Mr, Dr, Rev, Ustaz etc. Many years ago I was working as a clerk at a faculty in one…

27/02/2024

Highlights of Federal Executive Council decisions on Monday 26 February

Here are some of the highlights of the far reaching decisions taken today at the Federal Executive Council meeting, chaired by President Bola Ahmed Tinubu.

1. FEC approved construction of Lagos-Port Harcourt-Calabar Coastal Superhighway to Messrs Hitech Construction Africa. The First phase made up of 47 kms will begin in Lagos.
2. Social security payments to the vulnerable households to begin immediately. Recipients will be those with NIN and BVN.

3. Social security payments to be extended to graduates from NCE and upwards

4. Consumer Credit to be established very urgently. Chief of Staff to lead a committee that includes Budget Minister, Attorney-General, Coordinating Minister of the Economy and Finance, to make the scheme a reality.

5. The Council in order to enhance efficiency in the Federal service, and reduce the cost of governance, decided to implement the recommendations of the Steve Oronsaye panel on the restructuring and rationalisation of Federal agencies, parastatals and commissions.

The implementation involves merging, subsuming and scrapping agencies with similar functions.

The Oronsaye report was submitted in 2012 to the Jonathan administration. In 2014, the Jonathan government released a white paper on the report. The Buhari administration after re-examining the white paper also released a second white paper in August 2022, but did not implement the report.

However, the Tinubu administration has decided to confront the monster of high governance cost by implementing elements of the report.

An eight-man committee has a 12-week deadline to ensure that the necessary legislative amendments and administrative restructuring needed to implement the reforms are effected in an efficient manner.

The committee comprises Secretary to the Government of the Federation, Head of the Civil Service, Attorney General and Justice Minister, Budget and Planning Minister, DG Bureau of Public Service Reform, Special Adviser to the President on Policy Coordination, Special assistant to the president on National Assembly. The Cabinet Affairs Office will serve as the secretariat.

Key recommendations for implementation:

National Salaries, Income and wages Commission to be subsumed under Revenue Mobilisation and Fiscal Commission. The National Assembly will need to amend the constitution as RMAFC was established by the constitution.

Infrastructure Concession and Regulatory Commission to be merged with Bureau of Public Enterprise and be rechristened as `Public Enterprises and Infrastructural Concession Commission

National Human Rights Commission to swallow Public Complaints Commission

Pension Transitional Arrangement Directorate(PTAD) to be scrapped and functions to be taken over by Federal Ministry of Finance

NEMA and National Commission for Refugees to be fused to become National Emergency and Refugee Management Commission

Border Communities Development Agency to become a department under National Boundary Commission

NACA and NCDC to be merged

SERVICOM to become a department under the Bureau for Public Service Reform(BPSR)

NALDA to return to the Ministry of Agriculture and Food Security.

Federal Ministry of Science to supervise a new agency that combines NCAM, NASENI and PRODA

National Commission for Museums and Monuments and National Gallery of Arts to become one entity that will be known as National Commission for Museums, Monuments and Gallery of Arts.

National Theatre to be merged with National Troupe.
13. Directorate of Technical Cooperation in Africa and Directorate of Technical Aid Corp to be merged under the Ministry of Foreign Affairs

Nigerians in Diaspora Commission to become an agency under the Ministry of Foreign Affairs.

Federal Radio Corporation and Voice of Nigeria to be one entity to be known as Federal Broadcasting Corporation of Nigeria

National Biotechnology Development Agency(NABDA) and National Centre for Genetic Resources and Biotechnology to be emerged into an agency to be known as National Biotechnology Research and Development Agency(NBRDA).

National Institute for Leather Science Technology and National Institute for Chemical Technology to become one agency.

Nigeria Natural Medicine Development Agency and National Institute of Pharmaceutical Research and Development to become one agency.

The National Metallurgical Development Centre and National Metallurgical Training Institute will be merged.

National Institute for Trypanosomiasis to be subsumed under Institute of Veterinary Research in Vom, Jos.

The list is not exhaustive.

Bayo Onanuga
Special Adviser Information and Strategy to President Bola Ahmed Tinubu

27/02/2024

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