01/06/2026
What Submission Is, And Is Not
Submission Is Not: Swinging. (Look this up on Google). 3-somes. (Or other somes). Committing a crime or crimes. Doing drugs. Pushing drugs. Doing things that defy common sense. (If your husband asks you to go and fight somebody, don't do it. Aga akụkpọ gị anya.
If he asks you to sheet from the top or window of a building, biko emekwana ya. Dem go arrest you then love go clear for your eye. You get my point sha.)
Doing same-sex things. (It happens). Agreeing to knack your husband's friends. (It happens). Visiting babalawo. Visiting spiritualists and prayer houses/centres. Carrying calabash/pot on your head or any part of your body for your husband or his family. Performing rituals for your husband, his friends or family. Doing knacking with your brother-in-law(s) so that you can produce a child or children for your husband, no matter who the request comes from. (You are not a toilet). Knacking a fake or original man of God because your husband wants you to. Endangering your own life. Or the life of your children. (You g*t to have sense). Allowing your husband to knack your children or any one he fancies just because he wants to.
That's perversion and it's going to destroy you and everyone involved.
Quitting your job or money-churner just because your husband wants you to start taking care of the home. It's his home too so why isn't he quitting his job to stay home? Or is it written on your forehead to do so? Don't do it. No matter the pressure. Stand your ground even if he says he provides and you don't need the money. That's not his decision to make. He met you working so what's his problem? Even if he didn't meet you working, and you start earning money in the marriage. Don't you quit it.
Hire a nanny or house help, live-in or visiting. Look into daycare centers too. If the only solution your husband is proferring is that you quit your job then he's a joy and destiny-killer and you shouldn't have married him. Or even had children for him. Ndo oh?
Handing your whole money over to your husband so that he and his family members (and friends) can squander it. That is not submission. And if your husband is asking you to, or is forcing you to do this, then know that you married a profound lazy-ass, a thief and a wicked blood-sucking parasite rolled into one. Have sense and find a way to set yourself free from his clutches. Pray against unalivement. The devil uses it very well.
Carrying the whole financial burden of the house while he hoards his cash or spends them on other things or other people (like side turkeys). If you are married to someone like that, first of all, sorry. You are a married single mother. Have a thorough discussion with this your irresponsible husband. Call him to order to amend his ways. If he insists on leaving you to carry the house load alone, You know what to do.
Tolerating abuse. He flogs and beats you don be silly and you are still there smiling at him with broken teeth. Don't worry, until he comots both of your eyes then you will have sense and know you are in danger. Don't ever let anyone demean, belittle, look down on, or insult you, even if the person is your husband. He does not have that right. It's very sad that you have to protect yourself from the person that should love you the most.
Tolerating infidelity. No, no. This is not the hallmark of a virtuous woman. (Have you ever met this virtuous woman that everyone is talking about? I'll like to ask her some serious questions). Don't tolerate cheating or extra-marital affairs from your husband. (Chai, husband. That title don suffer). The God that created you said it's a breach against His Law. (Exo. 20:14. Deut. 5:18). He also says in His Word that you can leave a cheating spouse. (Matt. 5:32. Matt. 19:9). Meaning you can leave a marriage breached by infidelity. Your life is not tied to your husband's preek. Organise your life, ask and seek for help. And leave him with his STDs.
Open marriage. A lot of couples are doing this, but it is not God's will for the institution He created. Yes. So if your husband is pressuring you to do open marriage, or let him do open marriage. Nne please know that it is wrong. He is very, very wrong. That is a lustful, wicked man. You married an olosho wey come dey code for marriage. And he wants to use style and give you STDs. Plenty demons too. If he insists, report him to God. Report him to someone or people he fears more than God. But just get ready to pack out of that marriage because as he has started knocking/banging on that door (open marriage), a huge dam of nonsense will soon gush from it. Save yourself and your children from someone who wants to partner with evil spirits. He doesn't know what Marriage is.
Husband is supposed to: Protect. Cover. Clothe. Provide. Fight for. Take care of. His wife and children.
He is not husband of the whole world, or of every woman, and he is not strictly responsible for anyone apart from his immediate family. Meaning you and your children.
You come first and should always come first.
This doesn't mean he can't offer help to others and people as at when due.
In fact it's encouraged.
But to force it from him is a wicked thing to do, which must be stopped.
What Submission Is: Lawful obedience. (Obedience within the parameters of The Word Of God. Read your Bible ladies, and ask The Holy Spirit for interpretations). Agreeing with your husband in all morally-right things for the peace, progress and unity of your home. Not stirring up troubles, fights or quarrels where there are none or no reason to be combative. You are not a bee. Or a hornet. Letting your husband (I said husband not boyfriend or man. Im never marry you he has no right to command you or ask you to agree with his words. Like let no man disturb you in this regard, no matter who he is.) do his job as the leader, protector and provider of your home. Let him be the cover God designed and equipped him to be. Unless he's a weakling and you have to keep fighting his battles. Your battles. Your childrens' battles. The home battles... Soo exhausting. Chai. That's why you are (were) encouraged not to marry rubbish.
Submission is also not sheepishly saying "Yes Sir" or "Yes Daddy" to your Pastor or spiritual head (whatever that means) in everything. As per rulers and commanders of your life. They are not your husband, so stop that mumu behaviour. Respect yourself and package your submission and go and give it to your husband. Or hand your submissive-mind to Jesus till He gives you one He has vetted to receive it from you. If you are single.
Jesus is your First Husband, so trust Him on this.
Don't let anyone use submission or the word "submission" to bamboozle you.
God didn't create you a zombie so please keep actively using your brain.
If He wanted your brain to shut down in "submission" He wouldn't have given you one.
You are His child and He delights in you.
(Zeph. 3:17).
Don't be cowed into giving that level of honour to undeserving louts.
And if anyone is using submission to press your neck, report them to God. Sharp. Wake up at midnight and attend the Heavenly Midnight Court. Present your case to The Judge of the whole Universe and let that person be judged for trying to play truant with what is not his word. Let the over-ambitious oppressors tell God whether they were there when He created the woman.
Leave God to fight your battles.
They (and their supporters) will be appropriately handled. 👌🏾
Do the same if your lawfully-wedded husband is also using submission to ask you to commit sin. Mbanu. Stand your ground ma gbaa ya report n'aka Chineke sharp. Im go dey alright fast fast. ✌🏾
Udooo, ụmụ nwaanyị ~
Submission has killed (and will, might continue to kill) women.
Stop useless submission.
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