11/10/2024
How to stop changing your mind about what you want to do with your life 10x per day so that you can commit to a direction with certainty.
Imagine trying to decide whether or not you would marry someone simply by thinking about them.
No dates. No exploration.
But you have to commit (and find the confidence you’re making the right choice) solely based on the idea you had about them in your head.
Sounds pretty crazy right?
Well that’s exactly what you’re doing when you’re trying to figure out which path you should take BEFORE doing thorough research + investigation.
You want to feel 100% clear and confident, but you’re lacking real-life data so choosing a path sort of feels like… a gamble.
How do you know if this idea is the ONE?
How do you know if it fits in with your long-term vision?
How do you know if you’d even LIKE doing this?
You won’t have complete confidence until you date your idea because dating is what creates the confidence to commit.
When it comes to which path to pursue, so many people want to skip to the wedding day.
Only there’s a problem with that “all in” mentality.
When you’re dating your ideas (or a person), sometimes what SEEMED like a perfect fit in the beginning is NOT actually right for you.
In your head, one idea might be a knight in shining armor.
But once you date it, you might realize he’s not all you dreamt he would be. That happens more often than not.
Yet you never would’ve known unless you tested it out.
Now you know for sure.
I see this ALL THE TIME with my clients.
They come into the Dream Discovery Method thinking they are going to pursue a particular idea only to realize they actually want to pursue a completely different path.
This is why I am not one of those coaches who says “just leap”.
Quit your job. Go all in.
I've lept many, many times and sometimes it worked out in my favor, other times it left me even more unclear, spinning, and cleaning up a lot of messes.
Some ideas are better as fantasy than they are in reality and when you jump too quickly into something, you might leave feeling burned and more confused than when you started.
There’s a key step that most people are missing BEFORE they leap which is a deep and profound process: the testing and discovery phase.
And it's SO so beautiful.
As you explore this phase, you will build confidence that’s strong enough to overcome the self-doubt and resistance that will inevitably try and persuade you from your path.
And new doors will open up that you never could have seen before all because you decided to get out of your head and started dating your options.
And your self-trust will increase exponentially because you're finally following through and exploring your ideas rather than sitting there and thinking about them.
All because you're deeply attuning to your inner voice, discerning between your options, and adjusting your path according to what you hear.
By spending time thoroughly investigating your different ideas in low-risk ways, you’ll gather real evidence that will make flip-flopping obsolete.
You’ll feel WAY more confident and ready to go all in on pursuing a particular path because you’ll have reality-based evidence and data that you’re moving in the right direction.
And THAT is the missing piece, the part of the process that people want to skip over because it feels more exciting to go ALL IN right away rather than enjoy the dating process of getting to know your idea in depth before you commit in bigger ways.
