27/02/2026
My births have been absolute initiations for me, especially my first birth which ended up in a full cascade of hospital interventions,
I would not change my path but if I could go back to when I was a young maiden pregnant with my first baby I would tell myself this:
1. Make sure you are planning to birth somewhere that makes you feel safe and with people who make you feel safe and loved.
2. Every intervention or check is simply an offer, you get to choose if you are a yes or a no to it. It’s safe to ask for more information or more time to make decisions and it is your right to decline any medical interventions
3. Trust yourself, you hold WAY more wisdom than you realise and you are the person who is most in tune with your birth, body and baby so listen to the knowing that is within you.
4. Spend time in your pregnancy exploring and healing your childhood and ancestral behaviour patterns. Especially the ways you respond when under pressure or when you need to use your voice to express needs because these are likely to come up in birth and mothering
5. Plan for your postpartum, you don’t know this yet but you and your baby need support, you need someone to help prepare nourishing foods and hold you while you rest and recover
Make sure you follow ❤️