Life by Design Ph - Shey Velasquez

21/05/2026

There’s a version of you that’s been waiting patiently while you raised everyone else. She still loves good coffee, great company, and a plate that’s just for her. Time to show up for her. ☕

26/04/2026

Prayer for Breaking the Idol of Brokenness

Father God, I come before You with honesty and surrender. Your Word says, “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit” (Psalm 34:18). So I know You see every piece of me that learned how to survive.

Today, I surrender every piece of me where brokenness started to feel like identity. Every time I started wearing pain like a coat of honor. Every pattern where survival became my personality, my protection, my default setting. I bring it all to You.

Your Word says, “Be transformed by the renewing of your mind” (Romans 12:2). So I declare my mind isn’t stuck in survival mode anymore. I break agreement with thoughts declaring that chaos and drama are normal, dysfunction is home, and pain is proof of love. I sever those mental loops that keep replaying old wounds like they’re current realities. I see the illusion and I thank You for the revelation.

Lord, heal my emotions. Where I learned to shut down, disengage or dissociate, You restore feeling with wisdom. Where I learned to overreact just to stay safe or take control, You bring peace that regulates my inner compass. “You will keep in perfect peace those whose minds are steadfast, because they trust in You” (Isaiah 26:3).

I speak healing over my behavior patterns. The ones I inherited, the ones I adapted, the ones I used just to get through. I no longer operate from coping mechanisms that were formed in crisis. I walk in Spirit-led responses, instead of trauma-led reactions. “If anyone is in Christ, they are a new creation; the old has gone, the new is here” (2 Corinthians 5:17). I command all triggers to lose power NOW in the name of Jesus.

I repent for the ways I made brokenness familiar, even comforting. For the ways I normalized it, defended it, or built my identity around it. I release it as an altar. It no longer sits in the place where You are meant to be.

God, rewire everything survival mode distorted. Reorder what pain has trained. Restore what fear has shaped. Redeem all the parts of me; mind, body, and soul that have been groomed and conditioned by the world. Please forgive me for tolerating it as long as I have. I’m ready now. I’m ready for healing and redemption. I give You FULL ACCESS.

Thank You showing me how I confused depth with damage, heaviness for holiness, and called bo***ge my personality. Oh my God, I praise You and bless You for opening my eyes and showing me all the ways I’ve been tethered to my brokenness. You can have it now. Because today I wanna be made well. I choose You. I choose healing.

Teach me what wholeness feels like. Not just the healed moments, but healed living. A healed mind that doesn’t crash out. A healed heart that doesn’t self-protect by shutting down or dissociating. A healed spirit that trusts You without hesitation.

“For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power, love, and a sound mind” (2 Timothy 1:7). I receive that sound mind NOW. I receive stability NOW. I receive clarity NOW. I receive identity that’s rooted in You, instead of my wounds NOW.

I am not my trauma.
I am not my coping patterns.
I am not my survival story or the triggers attached to it. I am who You say I am. And in You, I am whole. Thank You, thank You, thank You. You are holy. You are worthy. And I praise You today, tomorrow and always for all that You’ve done and will do! In the mighty and matchless name of Jesus. Amen!

20/04/2026

Slowly but surely making time for the things I love to do. Meditating on God’s word, journaling, and calligraphy. ❤️

In the mornings I retreat to the softness before working with the adrenaline rush of performance coaching. ✍️

15/04/2026

Time check: 8:50 PM.

Just wrapped up my final coaching session for today. ❤️

My heart is full listening to my coachees share their wins—seeing them step into their calling in sports and performance.

I remember where we all began—the brokenness, the doubts, the rebuilding. And now, here we are.

Second quarter of the year, and already… so many breakthroughs.

All glory to God. He is so, so good.

These are the moments I will quietly keep and cherish in my heart. ❤️

15/04/2026

Living life by God’s design is a process of unlearning and remembering—
unlearning what the world says I should be,
and remembering who God says I am.

So I go back to the beginning.
Genesis.

If you’re seeking a reset, start here.

13/04/2026

𝑀𝑜𝑛𝑑𝑎𝑦, 𝑎𝑙𝑚𝑜𝑠𝑡 𝑛𝑜𝑜𝑛—𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝑚𝑦 𝑐𝑢𝑟𝑡𝑎𝑖𝑛𝑠 𝑎𝑟𝑒 𝑠𝑡𝑖𝑙𝑙 𝑑𝑟𝑎𝑤𝑛.

Today, I am allowing myself to slow down.

After months (years) of navigating chaos, I’m choosing stillness. Not out of weakness, but out of alignment. My purpose and my life vision is clear to me. I’ve been clear about my role—I build systems, structure, and direction. And anyone who chooses to work with me must meet me there.

I am no longer the fixer of other people’s internal chaos. As a coach and consultant, I serve as a guide.

I’ve done my own work. I’ve faced the patterns, challenged the old mindsets that no longer serve me, and chosen a path that is life-giving—one that honors clarity, order, and intention.

This morning, I feel a shift.

There is more clarity now. Another door has opened. Another part of the path is illuminated. And so on a Monday, I let myself rest. This is my reward—to pause, to breathe, to receive—because the systems are aligning, the team is aligning, and I am finally creating space for the life I’ve been building.

This is what it takes to build a better future.

You must know your values.
And you must be willing to stand firm in them.

Thank You, Lord, for the wisdom.

11/04/2026

A reminder to all of us who are journeying a new path.

Never re-enter rooms you had to heal your way out of.
Some doors are not meant to be revisited, no matter how gently they call your name. You remember what it cost you to leave. The quiet battles, the nights you had to gather yourself piece by piece, the way you learned to breathe again in spaces that no longer suffocated you.

Familiarity can be deceiving. It wears the face of comfort, but underneath, it often carries the same weight that once broke you. You are not who you were when you first walked into that room. You have outgrown the version of yourself that accepted less, stayed too long, and called it love, or loyalty, or patience.

Do not confuse healing with an invitation to return. You did not fight your way out just to prove you can endure it again. Choose yourself with the same courage it took to leave. Some chapters are meant to remain closed, because you finally learned you deserve better.

10/04/2026

Starting over is a daily commitment.
And often, it’s boring.

📸(That’s why you’ll keep seeing this view in my posts. Looking out this window while thinking, journaling, working is my daily routine)

If there’s one thing I’ve learned as a mental coach, teacher, and trainer, it’s this: building skill and consistency will test your patience. Deeply.

And in a world shaped by constant stimulation—especially through social media—we’ve been conditioned to seek entertainment, not stillness.

We’re used to noise, not mindfulness. Movement, not pause.
Stimulation, not boredom.

So when things become quiet…
it can feel uncomfortable.

But after living much of my life in a rat race—navigating both internal and external battles—I’ve come to welcome this quiet.

Because in that space, there is clarity.
There is reflection.
There is rebuilding.

And here’s what I’ve discovered about myself:

𝐈 𝐜𝐚𝐧 𝐛𝐮𝐢𝐥𝐝 𝐩𝐨𝐰𝐞𝐫𝐟𝐮𝐥𝐥𝐲 𝐢𝐧 𝐬𝐨𝐥𝐢𝐭𝐮𝐝𝐞.

09/04/2026

I’ve been quiet here lately—moving through a season of deep personal work.

I’m learning what it truly means to individuate… to stand on my own, think clearly, and choose myself without guilt.

I’ve found myself in a codependent relationship, and I’m now facing how difficult it is to reclaim independence (been on this for more than a decade!) —especially when people remain in your life without showing up fully, without taking responsibility, without meeting you halfway.

This season of pursuing independence isn’t easy. But it’s necessary.

I’m choosing growth. I’m choosing clarity. I’m choosing a life that feels aligned, not obligated.

04/04/2026

I am pursuing a meaningful life. At 45, I have come to see the world I’ve been given—the garden the Lord has placed me in to cultivate. I’ve spent years learning, growing, and developing my skills. Now, I simply want to use them to leave a legacy and create meaning that fosters positivity and growth.

Sometimes, I get caught up in the weeds. I become frustrated. I want my problems solved and my challenges overcome immediately. But in the quiet moments I spend with my Creator, I am reminded that the Lord is not rushing me. It is His timeline, not mine.

When the time is right, the Lord will make it happen.