10/05/2026
家婆與媳婦，大概是人間最難修的一種緣。
沒有血緣，
卻因為愛上了人家的兒子，
從此要學著，成為一家人。
結婚，很多人說是女人的第二次投胎。
對原生家庭不好的女子來說：
過門對了，是重生。
過門錯了，老公又不護著你，
有些女人的一生，
就這樣，慢慢被磨掉了。💔
所以我一直覺得，
能遇到一位好的家婆，是非常深的福報。
我與家婆同住了十年。
今年，我又收到她給的生日紅包。🧧
有人可能會說：「不就是一個紅包嗎？」
是第二十個。
而且，從來沒有遲到過。
真正珍貴的，不是紅包裡裝了多少錢。
而是那種
「這個家，一直都有把妳放在心上」
的感覺。
二十年前，我埋頭研究佛法與玄學，
跟師父學習，常常學到凌晨三四點才回家。
可是家婆，從來沒有對我說過：
「妳研究這些有什麼用？」
「做人家媳婦，怎麼這麼晚才回家？」
「家務誰來做啊？」
她沒有冷嘲熱諷，
沒有否定我，
也沒有在我老公前說三道四。
這給了我很大的空間，
讓我慢慢摸索，慢慢成長。
家婆淺眠。
我凌晨進門，輕功再怎麼好，
她還是會起身，
探頭看一下：
「回來啦？」
我八字身強，本就不太需要噓寒問暖
但就是這三個字，重複了十年，
慢慢地把我暖化了。
那些年，在我娘家人眼中，
我就是個走火入魔的怪人。
如果當年我還是獨身，
沒有嫁進黃家
說句心裡話，
我不確定，今天的李季謙師父，
還會不會存在。
因為家婆的包容
讓我不需要在質疑聲中消耗自己。
讓我可以安心鑽研，
安心修行，
安心走那條別人看不懂的路。
你們現在看到的李季謙師父，
那十年的苦學，
那五百多支免費影片，
那些陪伴過你們的文字
其實背後，有一個人，
她從來不在鎂光燈下，
也從來不需要掌聲。
她叫做，我的家婆。
後來我才真正明白一件事：
一個母親的性情，才是一個家最深層的風水。
風水師看房子，
會看大門、看財位、看光線
但這些，都是「形」。
真正決定一個家氣場的，
是住在裡面的人。
一個家的女主人，
若心胸寬厚、不計較、懂得包容，
家裡的氣，自然就是暖的、流動的、
聚得住福的。
反之，
一個充滿挑剔、猜疑、控制的家，
擺再多風水擺設，
氣場也是散的、壓的、耗人的。
因此，二十年了，我還是常跟我老公說：
家婆的心性，就是黃家兜底的風水！
昨天吃飯，
我媽媽突然問我：
「妳老公會不會向妳發脾氣？」
我搖頭：「不會。」
老公接腔：「不敢！」
全場大笑。
說真的
怎麼樣的媽媽，
很多時候，就養出怎麼樣的兒子。
一個從小在寬容與溫柔裡長大的孩子，
他學會的，也是寬容與溫柔。
這，正是心靈風水的傳承。
俗話說：家和萬事興。
一個女人最大的底氣，
有時候不是自己多能幹。
而是知道
在這個家裡，我是被善待的。
母親節快樂。❤️
謝謝家婆，給了我一個自由做自己的家。
謝謝家婆，讓我實證
最好的風水，從來都是人心。
我今天這份成就，有您很大的一份功德。🙏
也願天下每一位媳婦，
都能遇到這樣的家婆。
每一位家婆，
都能被媳婦，
好好珍惜。
這樣的緣，值得用一生去惜福。❤️
阿彌陀佛 🙏
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The relationship between a mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is perhaps the hardest bond to cultivate in this human life.
No blood ties.
Yet because you fell in love with her son,
you must learn, from that day forward,
to become family.
Marriage, many say, is a woman’s second chance at life.
For those who didn’t have it easy in their own family,
Marry into the right home, and it’s a rebirth.
Marry into the wrong one, with a husband who won’t even stand up for you —
some women spend their entire lives
being slowly worn away. 💔
That’s why I have always believed:
meeting a good mother-in-law is a very deep blessing.
I lived with my mother-in-law for ten years.
This year, I received her birthday red packet again. 🧧
Some might say, “It’s just a red packet.”
It is the 20th one.
And not once has it ever been late.
What makes it precious was never the money inside. It is that feeling of
“In this family, you have always been kept in someone’s heart.”
Twenty years ago, I was buried deep in the study of Buddhism and Chinese metaphysics,
learning under Shifu, often returning home at 3 or 4 in the morning.
But my mother-in-law never once said to me:
“What’s the use of studying all this?”
“What kind of daughter-in-law comes home this late?”
“Who’s going to do the chores?”
No sarcasm. No judgment.
No angry complaints to my husband behind my back.
She simply gave me space,
to explore slowly, to grow slowly.
My mother-in-law is a light sleeper.
No matter how quietly I slipped through the door in the wee hours,
she would always stir,
peek out, and say:
“You’re back?”
I have a strong BaZi chart,
not someone who needs much fussing over.
But those three words, repeated for ten years,
slowly, quietly, warmed me through.
Back then, in the eyes of my own family,
I was the oddball.
the one who had completely lost her mind and gone down the dark path of no return.
If I had remained single,
if I had never married into this family
honestly, I am not sure
the Master Lee Ji Qian that you see today
would even exist.
It was my mother-in-law’s acceptance
that meant I never had to waste my energy
defending myself against doubt.
I could immerse myself in study.
I could walk my spiritual path in peace.
I could keep going down a road
that most people fail to understand.
The Master Lee Ji Qian you see today
the ten years of deep learning,
the 500 plus free videos,
the writings that have walked alongside so many of you
behind all of that, there is someone
who has never stood in the spotlight,
and has never needed the applause.
Her name is my mother-in-law.
It was through her that I came to truly understand:
A mother’s character is the deepest Feng Shui of any home.
A Feng Shui master audits a house and checks
the main door, the wealth corner, the light and flow.
But all of that is just “form.”
What truly determines the energy of a home
is the people living inside it.
When a matriarch is generous, forgiving, and without pettiness, the energy of that home is naturally warm, flowing, and able to hold good fortune.
But in a home filled with suspicion, criticism, and control, no matter how many Feng Shui adjustments you make, the energy will remain scattered, heavy, and draining.
And so, 20 years on, I still tell my husband the same thing:
My mother-in-law’s character is the bedrock Feng Shui of the Ng family.
At dinner yesterday,
my own mother suddenly asked me:
“Does your husband ever lose his temper with you?”
I shook my head. “No.”
My husband chimed in: “I wouldn’t dare!” 😂
The whole table burst out laughing.
But honestly
the kind of mother you have
very often shapes the kind of person you become.
A child raised in warmth and patience
learns warmth and patience.
That too, is mindset Feng Shui passed down through generations.
As the saying goes: When the family is in harmony, all things prosper.
A woman’s greatest strength
is sometimes not how capable she is,
but knowing, deep down,
that in this home, I am treated with kindness.
Happy Mother’s Day. ❤️
Thank you, for giving me a home where I was free to be myself.
Thank you, for showing me that
the greatest Feng Shui has always been the human heart.
Whatever I have achieved today,
you hold a very large share of that merit. 🙏
May every daughter-in-law out there
find a mother-in-law like this.
And may every mother-in-law
be cherished by her daughter-in-law
in return.
This kind of bond
is worth treasuring for a lifetime. ❤️
Amituofo 🙏
