04/03/2023
*SIX THINGS THAT KILL A RELATIONSHIP EVERY TIME* (You've Been Warned)
While some people are fiercely dedicated to the single life, human nature and evolutionary biology mean that the vast majority of people crave an intimate relationship.
Yet sustaining those relationships is not easy. Roughly 40 percent of first marriages fail, while subsequent marriages are even less likely to succeed.
The reasons are as varied as the individuals, but here are 6 of the most common relationship problems that lead to a breakup.
*1. Trust issues*
Trust is absolutely essential to the companionship and intimacy that hold relationships together. Yet it is also one of the hardest things to earn and keep. Trust issues run the gamut from financial choices to emotional dependability.
Often, there is an underlying issue that was never fully discussed and resolved, such as one partner’s gambling spree or an inability to agree on whether to relocate to a new city, town or Village. Over time, these unresolved issues can carry over into your day-to-day relationship, casting a cloud of suspicion and doubt over even the most mundane situations.
*2. Infidelity and jealousy*
While trust can break down many of relationships, suspected or confirmed infidelity can be the hardest to overcome. From emotional affairs to physical dalliances, infidelity tends to destroy nearly half of the relationships that it impacts. Even if you decide to stay together, learning to rebuild what you had before is an arduous and emotionally draining experience.
This is equally true in cases where no affair actually occurred, but accusations were made. Because infidelity is such a devastating experience, being falsely accused can feel like an intensely personal attack, destroying trust and intimacy. It is absolutely critical that you avoid making accusations without proof, and talk out any fears or doubts you have in a non-threatening and open.
*3. Communication difficulties*
Many couples struggle with communication, often claiming that they speak different languages. Yet failure to communicate can lead a once-close couple to begin operating in completely different spheres, living more like roommates than partners.
Over time, you will begin to feel isolated and lonely and might seek emotional intimacy elsewhere. Lack of communication can also lead to contempt, or the tendency for every meaningful conversation will devolve into sarcasm and belittling rather than healthy resolution.
*4. Lack of balance*
Unbalanced relationships are particularly common among young couples and those with new children or aging parents, but they can happen to anyone. Imbalance occurs when one or both partners fail to prioritize the relationship, instead of placing unusual importance on other people or other situations.
It is normal for relationships to ebb and flow, and in times of crisis, it is only natural for the relationship to take a backseat. When it becomes a problem, though, is when one partner begins to feel consistently taken for granted, unheard, or devalued.
Examples of a lack of balance that can destroy a relationship include: always spending the holidays with one set of parents, one partner drinking with friends every night after work, or one partner making all of the vacation decisions. Even when you are coping with issues outside your relationship, be sure to check in frequently with your partner and let him or her call some of the shots.
*5. Compatibility problems*
Opposites may attract, but it is extremely tough to keep a relationship of opposites together. Basic compatibility on such things as values and worldview is essential to a comfortable, long-term relationship. If you are radically different, respect and compromise are absolutely critical.
Everything from whether to celebrate with your kids or to attend religious services could be a sticking point for couples without basic compatibility. Over time, only the most stubbornly dedicated couples are able to overcome major compatibility problems.
*6. Abusive behavior*
Abuse should never be tolerated in any relationship, but abusive behaviors tend to fall along a continuum. Rage, disrespect, and emotional stonewalling may not be relationship-ending in and of themselves, but continuing patterns can wear people down. An inability or unwillingness to respect your partner’s thoughts, beliefs, and feelings can destroy the trust and intimacy in any relationship.
While these common relationship problems can destroy relationships, they can also be opportunities to get your relationship back on track. If you and your partner face difficulties, consider seeking advice from a professional counselor. If both people are willing and able to face their own responsibilities in the situation, with a lot of hard work.
*HEART BROKEN*
Don’t get me wrong. I am very intimacy-positive and I don’t have rules on when that’s supposed to happen. I do as I feel. However, I realized it isn’t as simple as it sounds.
First, as a woman, you need to keep your safety in mind. That means popping up at a stranger’s apartment might only work in movies.
But that day I was feeling good and heartbroken at the same time. A bad combination.
I was once again seeing a guy who liked to spend a lot of time with me but wasn’t ready to commit. So, I was trying to take a step back and meet new people again.
It was a Saturday night, and I was out with friends.
I have never, nor will I ever, cheat.
But for you girls and guys who are sleeping with, kissing, or doing any other things with other people while you are in a relationship, this is a letter to you.
If you claim to be in a relationship with someone you supposedly love or have such a good connection with, then why are you hitting up someone else on the side?
If you want to try new things or meet new people or don’t even trust yourself when you are intoxicated, then why are you in a relationship?
Where is the respect for your partner, for their feelings, for the time.
*Uncle Nyax Relationship Matters*