01/17/2018
Overall --and I am being very frank here-- if being shy is holding you back from countless numbers of actions, advancements, or from speaking at those moments when you later know you should have, then the shyness has to be worked on.
If you met me today, it would be hard to believe that I was very shy long ago.
But, through time I learned to get past being shy. I had to. I saw and experienced too many opportunities waiting for me to act upon simply pass me by.
So, I read articles on topics that would be current and of interest to share in conversation. I made sure to read some new content to open my mind and perspective on topics.
I took chances in speaking. I would throw myself into the mix when volunteers were needed.
I practiced speaking to strangers with topics that might have a commonality to the both of us at that moment.
I learned to be humorous. People love to laugh, even if they are ones that do not commonly do so. By learning to listen to my tone of voice, I could make sure to convey the humor --and not a sense of seriousness or creepiness-- in my speaking.
I made special focus on reading material about psychology and relationships. Back then, if it had to deal with dating, I was reading it. If it was an article showing findings in a particular area of psychology, I was reading it.
I strongly feel that there are a countless numbers of great and wonderful people that are shy. It is this being shy that I believe leaves a lot of nice people with the challenge of trying to date. And if this factor --being shy-- equates to less conversations and interactions with others, the chances of meeting that special someone is significantly lowered.
My theory: Two shy people will never meet and fall in love. By its simple base, they would be too shy to seize the moment and make things happen.
There is a quote I used to firmly believe in: "He who hesitates is lost."
From it I took it to mean that you need take action when the moment called for it. And if you waited, the moment or opportunity would pass you by. In which case you would have lost.
Being shy can be worked on. It can be chipped away. This to say you can lower how shy you are. Reduce being shy so can speak your mind when you are next given the opportunity. Reduce being shy so you can act when the moment calls for it. Reduce being shy so that you might get to meeting that special person who happens to be very shy right now, but they are a super great person. So super that you just might come to love them. And they love you.