04/13/2022
3 Quick Tips on the Art and Discipline of Listening—what an extraordinary skill for leaders! Honing this skill can strongly contribute to catapulting you to success, because everyone likes to talk and be heard.
Listening well is another aspect of human nature that continues what I’ve been writing about the last two months. It seems obvious, but things that are obvious often get overlooked as critical tools for becoming a great leader. Here are 3 reasons why listening is a true leadership gift –
1. Listening is needed by others. In the last 25 years, I’ve surveyed hundreds of groups asking them to reflect on their greatest leader and share the one attribute that set them apart (assuming the person had good character and integrity). Are you ready for the Rollaboard revelation? Listening was the most common response by a large gap over number two. Honorable leaders discipline themselves to listen to their people.
2. Listening is not easy. Based on many years of using our Leadership Behavior DNA assessment, we know that 40% of the population is naturally bent toward results, mission, and tasks. Their minds automatically spring toward logic and rational, objective thinking. And as leaders they naturally trust their own idea more than others’. So listening is not natural for them.
The other 40% are naturally bent toward people and relationships. Their minds automatically spring toward feelings, and emotions like empathy. Many of them are big talkers and not good listeners and even those who are good listeners will still have a problem. To be a great listener, you must adapt and listen from both mindsets.
3. Listening helps others believe in themselves. When you listen to others you are being available, accessible, and approachable, making them feel safe, comfortable, and valued. This feeling of being worthy helps them gain inner confidence and believe more in themselves. You are helping them grow into a healthier and more productive person and leader—just like others have hopefully done for you.
I believe in you, and we would love to hear your stories of how you have grown in listening to others! Please post below.