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10/05/2026

Here are three reasons why your capacity matters in your relationship.

There is really nothing more important to your relationship than your capacity to show up in it. To show up bigger than your ego, and bigger than your stories. To show without projections, judgements, and resistance. And to show up as your most authentic self in a position of leadership that is safe and trustworthy.

1. Without capacity in your body, a woman’s love will be impossible for you to receive. Women love in such a big way, in such an expressed way, that if you don’t have the capacity in your body to hold that, you’ll run away, either physically, emotionally, or energetically. She will end up feeling rejected, dropped, and like she’s too much.
2. If you don’t have the capacity in your body to hold a difficult truth about yourself, about your wife or girlfriend, or about your relationship, then you will absolutely collapse under the fear of it and always be looking away from the truth. You will, not only, run away from all the hard moments in your life, you will actually work to avoid them by doing things like drinking, overworking, avoiding, gaslighting, manipulating, and projecting.
3. Capacity matters so much in your relationship because if you cannot hold your own emotions, your own big emotions, what comes up for you in a moment (a hard moment, a height-of-intimacy moment, a joyful moment), and remain centered, your partner will slowly, or quickly, lose trust in your leadership.

What you need to know: The fastest, and most effective way to build your capacity is to create a relationship with your own breath. How you breath into your life will dictate how you show up in your life.

10/02/2026

A deep truth about your relationship. Watch the whole thing.

You will drop her.
You won’t always meet her.
She won’t always feel seen.

Your ego will dig its heels in.
Your inner child will come out to play.
Your shadows will pop up.

Knowing all that to be a given, also make it a given that you love her no matter what.

Never allow her to doubt that and everything will be ok.

10/01/2026

What happened at Cornell is absolutely unacceptable, and there needs to be accountability and repercussions for what happened.

What happened at Cornell is also a symptom of a very, very big problem in how young men are being raised. To think that somewhere along the line, those seven boys decided this is what we have to do to feel whole, to feel complete, to feel like we’re growing up, proving ourselves worthy of this, is a huge problem.

These young men were failed by their parents, and our culture failed them. Our collective consciousness failed them, and they failed themselves.

There is enough information out there on both sides that these men should have known better.

We can talk about how there’s addiction involved in this. There’s alcohol and ketamine and getting so intoxicated and drunk that you might not know what you’re doing, and using those drugs to incapacitate a woman.

This is why women are so historically, and in the present day, afraid of men. Women cross the street when they see a man they’re afraid of coming. A woman’s version of unsafety in this world is so far different from a man’s, because of things like this.

This has been going on for a very long time.

Over the past 30 years, there has been evidence of this exact same thing happening at colleges and universities across the country.

Young men have gone so far away from their center that they end up taking out their angst, their desires, their insecurities, and their weakness on women.

The mental health of these young men is in question. The behavior of these young men is in question. The compass of these young men needs to be recalibrated.

This, what happened at Cornell, is a very, very large and painful symptom of a very big collective problem that we have.

We have actually made this okay, even glorified in micro-cultures, and hopefully this is a warning sign or a directional arrow to point us back in the right direction with how we are influencing and raising, teaching, and initiating young men.

It is impossible for a man to heal from a wound that he repeatedly looks away from. The wound men look away from the mos...
09/29/2026

It is impossible for a man to heal from a wound that he repeatedly looks away from.

The wound men look away from the most, the shame they carry deep inside them.

And here’s the hard truth, you’ve been looking away from it for so long that you’ve gotten good at carrying it in silence, and you’re not even aware it’s there anymore.

09/29/2026

This one thing will deescalate conflict and build her trust and safety in you. Watch the whole video.

When you’re in conflict in your relationship if you can grab ahold of your ego and place it to the side for a moment and say “Baby, what do you need from right now?” you will change the energy of the dynamic almost immediately.

It might be a hug, a holding of a hand, to be seen in her experience, or words of assurance.

When you can pause, undig your heels and meet her there, she will soften and open to you and the situation can move from rupture to repair.

09/28/2026

It takes an exceptionally strong man to do something about a problem that the world is telling him is not a problem.

Most men won’t admit they have a problem, because on the surface they don’t.

Their wife doesn’t ask questions.
They don’t miss work, they’re actually the high performers.
They still make it to the gym.
Their bank account is evidence that they are doing great.

And…

Underneath all that, when they look in the mirror, they are unsatisfied.
They have nagging self-doubts that creep in.
They know, deep down, that something is not quite right.

And the fact that there is no real problem to point to is evidence that there *is* a problem.

The same man that “has it all together” and looks successful is also the one that feels controlled by their drinking habit.

09/27/2026

Three ways that a lack of capacity shows up in your relationship.

Whenever a hard conversation comes up, or your wife brings something to you to share, you immediately start thinking about how fast you can get through it. You completely eject from presence and rush to fix, solution or move on from whatever it is.

There is frequently a little bit, or a lotta bit, of anger right below the surface that you feel could come out in any moment. When you are in one of those hard conversation you have the feeling of anger boiling and you might want to “jump out of your skin”.

You are numbing out; drinking too much, doom scrolling, spending extra time in the office to avoid your home life.

There are many more, those are three of the bigger ones that I have seen recently.

Did any of them hit close to home?

09/25/2026

Three things I would do immediately if I was just now stopping drinking.

I stopped 14 years ago. Looking back there was a bunch of stumbling through things to get to the actual things.

1. Get to work on my nervous capacity to hold my new life, desires, and relationships.
2. Start working on my communication; being direct, honest, caring, and confident in speaking the truth.
3. Commit to 1 year. No matter what happens, for 1 year make the main thing don’t drink.

09/24/2026

Rebuilt man. Rebuilt standards.

There is something very different about a man that has been broken and rebuilt himself.

His standards are much higher and more refined than other men.

The rebuilt man doesn’t settle. He didn’t rebuild himself from his own wreckage to be mediocre or allow “ho-hum” in his life.

The promises he has made to himself no longer get broken or negotiated; he shows up in his relationships, his business, and for himself in a very elevated way.

At the bottom of that pit of despair he found what really matters to him, and what he will and will not tolerate.

The thing is that everything that he previously thought mattered has been burned away and what’s left is a clear direction and energy that only the rebuilt man has access to.

The man that has been to the bottom of his own soul and back holds himself and the people in his life to a different standard.

He’s not rigid, he’s unwavering.

He’s not arrogant, he’s directed.

He’s not closed off, he’s discerning.

He’s not boring, he’s grounded.

Rebuilt man. Rebuilt standards. Rebuilt life.

09/24/2026

When you are truly a safe man, you will become the testing ground for all the versions of herself that your woman has suppressed because she was told they were too much.

You’re being a b_tch.
You’re being too emotional.
You’re too sensitive.
Your intuition is not welcome here.
Your voice doesn’t matter.

Women have heard it for centuries, and because of that, they have shut down all the versions of themselves.

So when they find a man that claims to be safe, and feels safe to them, all those exiled versions will come back to the surface.

Your job in all of it is to hold the line.
The safety line.
The presence line.
The “all of you is welcome here” line.
The capacity line.
The “I got you, no matter what” line.

It will most likely be crunchy; she is meeting parts of herself again that she has not allowed in a very long time, and you will feel stretched by this.

When you waver and tell her, either with words or your body, that she is being too much, she will shut that part off again, and that hurts her on every level.

Every time you remain there with her, witnessing her explore these previously exiled parts, you anchor a new reality into her nervous system, and she opens to you, and to the world more.

As the safe man that you claim to be, that she needs you to be, your greatest asset will be your capacity to hold all of her.

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