Battle-Scarred Business Owners

12/30/2025

When my investors pulled back, my first thought wasn’t about money.
It was: I let everyone down.

They had put me in $2.2M in debt, then refused to actually fund the company.
I wanted to fight. I tried to fix it; but instead, my attorney sat me down and told me the truth I didn’t want to hear:

“If you stay, you risk jail for illegal activity happening under your watch—activity you can’t stop.”

So I had to walk away.

Not because I wanted to quit. But staying would’ve destroyed my family and my future and possibly sent me to jail.

For about six months, I stalled.
Not strategizing. Not “pivoting.”
Just trying to figure out who I was without the company and how to move forward.

Eventually, I did the only thing I could:

I started selling lighting again.
I went back to school and earned my MBA.
I rebuilt, this time with better filters, looking for better partners and better boundaries.

I got my MBA for two reasons:
I never wanted to be powerless in an investor room again, and I never wanted to be stuck with bottom-of-the-barrel investors again.

Here’s the lesson I learned the hard way:

Resilience doesn’t look like resilience in the moment.
It looks like surviving the day.

If you’re a founder in a season where progress feels invisible and shame feels loud, you’re not failing. You’re enduring.

I wrote about this—and the scars behind it—in my book,
Fail Big: Lessons From a Battle-Scarred Entrepreneur.

Founder to founder: if you’re in it right now, this book is for you.
You can find it on Amazon.

You’re not alone. And this isn’t the end.

12/22/2025

Merry Christmas.

This time of year has a way of slowing us down and reminding us what actually matters—faith, family, health, and the people who stood with us when life wasn’t easy.

For some of you, this year was a win.

For others, it was survival.

And for many, the hardest part may be what’s coming next.

If 2026 turns into a battle-scarred season for you—personally or professionally—know this: you don’t have to walk it alone.

I’ve learned the hard way that setbacks don’t mean you’re failing. They mean you’re being shaped. The storms don’t disqualify you—they refine you.

So today, I’m grateful. Grateful for the lessons, the scars, the people who stayed, and the chance to help others find their footing when things get heavy.

Merry Christmas to you and your family.

Here’s to strength, clarity, and support in the year ahead.

If you need it—we’re here.

12/18/2025

When I filed for bankruptcy (due to dishonest investors), I honestly thought my business life was over.
I felt like a failure. I felt like I had let everyone down. Friends. Family. People who believed in me. People who followed me.

That night was heavy.
But the next morning was even more terrible.

Because I still had to get up.
I still had to decide what my life was going to look like.
What my career was going to look like.
And whether I was willing to put one foot in front of the other when everything in me wanted to stop.

I went back to school and earned my MBA. Not for the title, but so I would never again put myself in a position where I didn’t fully understand the deal, the structure, or the risk. I learned how to protect myself, my family, and the businesses I would build next.

It wasn’t fast. It wasn’t flashy.
But step by step, I rebuilt.

Eventually, that work led me to rebuild an LED lighting manufacturing company, doing over $22 million in annual revenue.

The biggest lesson I learned is this:
Just because you reach the end of something does not mean your story is over. Sometimes it is the beginning of a smarter, stronger version of you.

If you are standing at the end of something right now, I want you to hear this.
You are not finished. You are just getting started

Get my book on Amazon: Fail Big Lessons From a Battle-Scarred Entrepreneur
Or message me for a free copy of the e-book version

Also, test out my AI voice agents at romulus dot live and leave me a message on what you think.

12/16/2025

How I recovered from selling my company in 2013, which led me to bankruptcy.

In this podcast, I give some advice that you can use to overcome and become a winning Battle-Scarred Business Owner.

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What am I doing now? Romulus.live voice AI in a box! You can go to our website and try a voice agent out for yourself to see if it is good enough.

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You can buy my book on Amazon: Fail Big Lessons From a Battle-Scarred Entrepreneur

I review how selling my company in 2013 led to my bankruptcy in 2014 and how I overcame it, what lessons I learned and what I am doing now.

12/15/2025

Today is my 25th wedding anniversary. Here is a quick lesson on something I learned about business, and eventually, how to have a relationship with my wife. (Happy Anniversary, Holly!)

In 2003, my entire team walked out and stole everything.

Files. Equipment. Relationships. Even tried to take the business with them.

But my momentum kept me moving forward, even with the sudden loss.

Not because it didn’t hurt.

Not because I wasn’t blindsided.

But because there was no room to stop.

I had jobs booked. Customers waiting. Payroll due. I was moving into a new building the very next day. Momentum didn’t ask how I felt. It just demanded movement. So I showed up the next morning and did the work anyway. One new guy (2nd week!) stayed. Everyone else was gone.

Momentum carried me through that season, thankfully.

But here’s the lesson it took me years to truly understand:

Momentum can keep you alive, but it can also hide what’s broken underneath.

At the time, I told myself the walkout was about them. Immaturity. Disloyalty. Weak character. And maybe some of that was true. But not all of it. What I didn’t want to admit back then was that I was leading at the pace of my own pressure, not at the pace people could actually keep up with.

Momentum saved the business.

Reflection saved the leader.

I learned that if you rely only on momentum, you’ll eventually repeat the same pain on a bigger scale. Growth doesn’t fix leadership gaps. It exposes them.

The win wasn’t that I survived the walkout.

The win was learning not to outrun the lesson.

If you’re in a season where momentum is carrying you, pause long enough to ask: What would break if everything slowed down?

That answer will tell you exactly where the real work is.

For more about this story, find it on Amazon: Fail Big Lessons From a Battle Scarred Entrepreneur.

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12/12/2025

I trusted my COO with my company, my name, and my future. I was the best man at his wedding!

When the investors started destroying my LED manufacturing company, he turned on me and chose to protect himself, even stealing from me.

I had to fire the closest person to me in the business while going through a storm.

Lesson:

Vet character more than competence. Skill can be built, but character keeps them fighting with you.

If you're a founder navigating betrayal, burnout, or rebuilding, I've been there.

Message me "Fail Big," and I'll send you the free e-book that came out of those scars. The e-book is the abbreviated version of my whole book on Amazon, Fail Big Lessons From a Battle-Scarred Entrepreneur.

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12/10/2025

I built an international company, sold it, and walked away with nothing...
I chose the wrong buyers. The company did not fail; the people I sold to did.

In my early 30s, I thought I was finally “set.”

I’d built an LED lighting company that grew to 500+ distributors in 14 countries. We were lighting soccer stadiums in Brazil and talking with the royal family of Thailand about opening a manufacturing plant there.

On paper, I was winning. In reality, I was walking into the biggest collapse of my life.

I brought in a group of investors I thought would take us to the next level.

Instead of putting money into the company, they quietly took out a multi-million dollar loan in my name, moved the money into their other businesses, and started starving mine.

They canceled IRS payments behind my back.
Payroll checks bounced.
Vendors weren’t getting paid.
And legally, as the managing member, I was the one the government would come after first.
My attorney sat me down and said words I’ll never forget:

“If you stay, they will drain you, and then the government will come for you. The only way out is to walk away and file bankruptcy.”

So I did something that felt like tearing out a piece of my identity:

I walked away from a multi-million dollar company and filed for bankruptcy to keep my family safe.

I got zero from the exit.
No golden parachute.
Just debt, shame, and a very quiet house at night.

Lesson:

That season taught me something I wish more entrepreneurs heard:

The wrong capital is more dangerous than no capital.
And early success doesn’t mean you’re ready for the rooms you’re walking into.

If you’re an agency owner, founder, or operator feeling pressure to “take the money” or “scale at all costs,” slow down.

Vet the people harder than the deal.
Protect your name before you protect your valuation.
Don’t confuse momentum with maturity.

I’m going to keep sharing the unpolished side of building and losing companies, from this collapse… to the flood that wiped out my next business… to feeding 35,000 kids a day during COVID… to building Romulus, my new $100M voice AI play.

If you want the full story and the lessons I wish I’d known earlier:

DM me “FAIL BIG” and I’ll send you my free e-book,
Fail Big: Lessons From a Battle-Scarred Entrepreneur.
Or follow me here if you’re a business owner who’s tired of the highlight reels and wants the real thing.
Go to Romulus dot live to test our voice AI agents to see how well they perform. I would love the feedback

Robert