06/05/2026
One of the clearest signs a workplace has a culture problem is when everyone is being nice to one another, but talking behind each others' backs.
In this scenario, I’ve seen clinicians spend more energy trying to decode workplace dynamics than actually supporting their clients.
Trying to figure out:
- whether feedback is actually feedback
- whether a boundary is real or mood-dependent
- whether “we should talk sometime” means a nconcern, conflict, or something beneign
- whether honesty is welcome even when it's hard to hear
A lot of therapy workplaces become emotionally foggy over time when we don't learn how to navigate conflict effectively.
That kind of emotional labor is exhausting.
Especially in group practices and mental health organizations where therapists are already carrying high relational demand all day long.
As therapists, we can teach people conflict resolution skills all day, but struggle to put them into practice.
I'm curious what others have noticed:
What’s the difference between a genuinely kind workplace and a workplace that avoids directness?