08/10/2026
For years, I thought making decisions meant choosing between "yes" and "no".
This week, I had a conversation with someone who presented me with a genuinely good opportunity.
He wasn't trying to sell me something I didn't believe in. In fact, I found myself really drawn to him. We shared many of the same values around coaching, helping people, and building something meaningful. The opportunity itself was well thought out, and I could see why someone would be excited about it.
A few years ago, that probably would have sent me into overthinking mode.
I would have spent days trying to figure out if I was making the right decision. I'd imagine all the possibilities, wonder what I might be missing, and try to convince myself I could make it fit.
But something different happened this time.
As we talked, I noticed I wasn't asking myself, "Should I do this?"
Instead, I found myself asking, "How could this fit?"
We explored several possibilities together. Some didn't fit. One might fit someday. Others simply weren't for me.
And somewhere in the middle of the conversation, I realized I was using the very thing I teach my clients.
I was filtering the opportunity through my North Star.
I didn't reject the opportunity.
I aligned it.
And once it became clear that getting licensed wasn't part of the future I'm intentionally building, the decision wasn't difficult anymore.
What surprised me most wasn't that I turned it down.
It was that I never had to wrestle with the decision.
Once I could see it through the lens of my North Star, the answer became obvious.