Nerbun Mediation & Arbitration, LLC

10/30/2025

03/10/2025

https://www.cnn.com/2025/03/10/health/domestic-violence-against-men-wellness?cid=ios_app

More than 25% of men in the US experience r**e, violence or stalking by an intimate partner, but it’s hard for them to get help. Here’s why and what can be done.

07/30/2024

Client feedback like this is so rewarding as nothing brings me more professional joy than knowing I’ve played a role in helping someone get through an otherwise difficult moment in their life, in this case through mediation preparation consulting.
⭐️ Knowledge is power and dimishes fear. This is often one of the things my consulting clients love best… becoming armed with information that makes this process less scary and more predictable.
⭐️ Mediation prep consulting allows you to get organized, develop a go-in idea of the negotiation space (best case/worst case scenarios), identify what a fair & equitable division looks like & the various avenues available to attain it, and strategize on which options are best for your needs and interests.
⭐️ Typically, the most prepared negotiator out performers the other!
⭐️ Save money! Most attorneys do not put the same energy, attention or organization into getting clients ready for mediation, and even if they did, as a professional negotiator, mediator and arbitrator (non-attorney) and conflict resolution expert with more than 20 years of experience, I can provide better rates that keep more of the money you need to get started on your own two feet in your OWN pocket than prepping with attorneys.

Pro Se Professional Mediator & Arbitrator

06/18/2024

Did you know that communication patterns are one of the primary predictors of marital success or failure, and that longitudinal studies show the following four behaviors can accurately predict divorce with high accuracy:
⚫️ Contempt (seeing one’s partner as inferior)
⚫️ Criticism (attacking a partner’s character)
⚫️ Defensiveness (playing the victim during conflicts)
⚫️ Stonewalling (blocking off communication)

04/02/2024

“Your significant other may be sweet and respectful to you, but if their friends and/or family don’t follow their lead, it is a direct reflection of them and their inability to stand up for you. This ultimately shows that they don’t actually respect you as much as they claim to. You shouldn’t have to ask them to delete their friend’s rude/gross comments on posts you tag each other in on social media. You shouldn’t have to point out the disrespect you are receiving, then beg your partner to do something about it. This should honestly be common sense, and the person you are with should take the initiative to correct these things on their own. Your significant other may not be able to control how the people around them behave, but they can control the types of people that they choose to keep around them. If the people they choose are constantly disrespecting you or your relationship, then it is evident that you are not as much of a priority to your partner as you should be.”

You shouldn’t have to beg your partner to take you out once in a while.

03/31/2024

“Loving the wrong person.

So many people are suffering in relationships today because they refuse to let go of the person they are currently in a relationship with.

They know the relationship isn't working, but they refuse to leave because they feel they might be able to change the person.

They believe they are willing to go to any length to ensure that the person continues to "love them".

The hardest aspect is that they are doing everything in the hopes that the person would change, even when the person has no intention of changing in the first place.

If you're in a relationship right now where the person is causing you more grief than happiness, then it's time to let them go.

Accepting that things aren't working is the best approach to avoid getting hurt more in this type of relationship.

It's crucial to admit to yourself that the relationship is in disrepair.

I see so many people that are suffering in their current relationships because they refuse to face the reality of its true nature.

If your current relationship isn't working, do me a favor and don't force it, the more you force it, the more you will end up hurting yourself in the long run.

Nobody can take your happiness away if you don't want it taken away. Your happiness is in your hands; your happiness is dependent on you.

If you don't want others to continue to mistreat you......you have the power to stop them.

Take my advice and have the courage to leave the table when respect is no longer being served.”

~ Cody Bret

08/20/2023

“The current climate calls for strategy, flexibility, and compassion. You can't quite inflation-proof your divorce, but there are steps to take to blunt the economy's impact on it.”

✅ No better time to choose pro se mediation! Flexibility, compassion, & strategy are hallmarks of this process. The icing on the cake is the singular, fixed, low cost that alleviates valid concerns about non-controllable attorney’s fees otherwise incurred by BOTH parties that only stands to deplete community funds available for division.

Divorce: If you think budgeting and saving are hard in this economy, imagine splitting up in it.

05/18/2023

Happy International Day of Families from Nerbun Mediation & Arbitration, LLC. We recognize that families are still families, even in the face of divorce. We proudly offer relationship-saving services to help couples get through ordinarily tough times as amicably as possible through a collaborative process that values fairness and equity, and pays particular attention to the continuation of family traditions and celebrations by incorporating them into our agreements. ❤️

05/13/2023

“I do EVERYTHING”.

As a pro se divorce mediator, I can’t tell you the number of times I’ve heard one partner complain about the lack of help by the other with household tasks. The resentment, the exhaustion, the frustration is palpable… in their voices, in their faces. Imagine how it feels on their shoulders.

This article has a great suggestion on how to simply illustrate an imbalance like this and bring awareness to the need for rebalancing a bit.

(And guess what… better to share those tasks now because once you’re divorced, ALL of those responsibilities will be on your plate.)

Husbands: This Mother's Day step up and take the 'Post-it Note Challenge'

The simple exercise of writing down everything you and your partner are responsible for in running your home, and addressing the imbalance, will make your household more effective and equitable.

10/22/2022

You can spend a fortune or you can spend significantly less via pro-se mediation w/ Nerbun Mediation & Arbitration, LLC and keep more of your hard-earned dollars in your own pocket to help get you back on your feet and support yourself/your kids. Either way, just know that if you feel stuck or miserable where you’re at, it’s never too late to find happiness. PM for a complimentary consult any time.

01/22/2022

I am looking for a part-time, contract-based mediator specialized in divorce/family mediation to join my practice to help manage case loads. Roles and responsibilities will include mediating for clients, setting up shared drives and managing the collection and review of discovery submitted by clients, preparing community property division worksheets from discovery documents, conducting Zoom sessions to have agreements and contracts signed, communicate with clients via phone, email, Zoom and text, taking careful/highly detailed notes during mediation sessions, drafting detailed Mediated Settlement Agreements to the standard of Nerbun Mediation & Arbitration, and review final MSAs with clients for approval and signature. Utilize DocuSign to collect signatures on all necessary documents. Assist with social media as requested. Attention to detail, responsiveness, maintaining strict confidentiality, excellent writing and communication skills and ability to manage deadlines are critical skills for this position.

Hours of work will vary depending on clients’ availability. Jobs will be dependent on contracts coming in as well as significant number of current cases the company has. The pay will be by contract and will be a flat rate for the job, dependent on the number of hours of mediation that are necessary. This will be discussed in more detail with prospective applicants.

This is a job that can be done anywhere. Mediation is all done via Zoom, providing the selected applicant a lot of flexibility and the ability to work from home.

Professional attire required when on Zoom sessions. Professional certification for mediation and speciality training in divorce/family issues is required and proof of certificates will be requested. Applicant need not be an attorney; Nerbun Mediation & Arbitration primarily handles pro-se divorce cases, although other types of mediation may be requested such as employment/workplace mediation and elder care mediation. Willing to train a newly certified mediator with little to no experience.

11/02/2021

This. Let it go that things didn’t work out w/ your ex for WHATEVER reason, but be big enough to put those differences aside and put YOUR KIDS first. Kids have enough to deal with. Don’t add bitterness towards your ex to their plate.

At Nerbun Mediation & Arbitration, we always put kids first and clients are always walked through as many decision points as possible to cover possession issues that may come up. The goal is not just to minimize future conflict, but to try to help ensure kids don’t get caught in the crosshairs of one parent trying to disadvantage another.