10/21/2026
There is a dark side to being a business owner that most of us succumb to.
I was talking to a man this past weekend who had owned multiple businesses over his lifetime. He is in his 70's now and retired. But he had so much pain in his voice as he told me about the physical and mental toll he went through as a business owner.
He told me how his health deteriorated, and that he wasn't even able to take time off to mourn his mother's death.
Unfortunately, I am all too familiar with what he was talking about. I have seen what having a business has done to people close to me. And during my first round as an entrepreneur in my early 20's, I fell into the same trap.
There is something so addictive about building something you own and seeing the success of your efforts. The sky is truly the limit and so you keep on pushing harder without realizing the toll it has on your physical health, mental health and relationships.
When I returned to entrepreneurship years later, I got sucked back into the dark hole.
I remember dropping my baby at daycare, rushing home to work, getting completely absorbed in my business, and in the blink of an eye having my phone alarm go off to remind me to pick my daughter.
I was so frustrated that I had to stop working. I remember telling someone that if it wasn't for my responsibilities as a mother, I would never step away from my business.
Too many months later, I realized something had to give. I couldn't keep wishing I was working on an idea I had, while trying to play with my child.
If I kept going this way, I would be wildly successful, but I would be destroying the very life I was building my business for.
We talk a lot about finding your "why" as a business owner. Because your "why" will motivate you through the hard days. But I have learned that my "why" also serves as a way to ground me.
Success matters to me, but so does being around to enjoy it. That is why I have been leaning heavily on my "why" over the last few years to help me prioritize how I am living my life. Because I don't want to end up burned out and regretful like so many business owners I know.