10/28/2024
Day 28: Why I Ditched My 'To-Do' List for a 'To-Be' List
If there's one thing I've learned, it's that no to-do list, no matter how meticulously crafted, will ever end. It's a race we're always trying to win, but the finish line just keeps moving. So, recently, I decided to try something different.
Instead of chasing the horizon (which I'll never reach) by focusing solely on what I need to do, I began paying attention to who I want to be. Each morning, I ask myself: How do I want to show up today? What attributes of WHO I am will I bring to my efforts? Focused? Encouraging? Resilient? Deliberate? Generous? Powerful?
I get to decide! You get to decide for yourself as well.
Of course, the tasks still matterโemails to send, meetings to attend, decisions to make. But when I lead with a to-be mindset, the day feels more purposeful and less frantic. I find I'm not just checking off tasks; I'm actually showing up as the leader I aim to be. I can effectively set my priorities by focusing on what to say "Yes" to and those things to which I will politely say "No." If the work isn't aligned with who I want to be (and someone else can do it), the answer is a polite "No."
When I stay focused on what I can bring and HOW I can bring it best, I inevitably end the day feeling fulfilled and accomplished. Aligning your actions with your identity brings a deep sense of satisfaction.
And the amazing part? The to-dos still get doneโsometimes even better, because I'm aligned with what truly matters.
So here's my challenge to you: What if you started your day by asking yourself who you want to be? I'd love to hear the attributes and characteristics on your "to-be" list. Share in the comments below and tag someone who already has those attributes to let them know you've noticed their 'being'!