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Rude Advice Divorced after 16 years of marriage, I share my mistakes and experiences to help you.

With over 300K TikTok followers, Rudy A, the host of the Rude Advice Podcast, has helped thousands navigate their marriages, relationships, and dating lives. Drawing from genuine life experiences, Rudy provides practical, proven advice. Married at 21 and divorced after a 16-year union, he openly shares his mistakes and lessons learned to guide your marriage, enhance your dating experiences, and prepare you for life after divorce.

10/13/2026

Getting divorced strips away the roof over your head, but it doesn't strip away your responsibility as a dad.

There is a massive difference between a "baby daddy" and a father. A baby daddy throws money at the situation, hides behind child support receipts, and complains about his ex. A real father shows up. He gives his time, stays in the trenches, and builds real memories, regardless of the drama, the court orders, or the distance.

You don't get to use a split as an excuse to tap out. Time is undefeated, and your kids won't remember the money you sent; they will remember whether you were standing on the sidelines at practice or missing in action.

Not living in the same house doesn't mean you aren't a family anymore. You are still their dad, and it's time to act like it.

How did your relationship with your kids change after moving into a separate home?

10/12/2026

When one partner wants s*x more often than the other, what’s a fair way to handle that difference?

10/12/2026

Too many men spend their entire lives chasing a bank account, a bigger car, and a title, completely missing the only wealth that actually matters.

A 22-year-old kid just dropped a masterclass on what it means to be truly rich. He doesn't have millions. He stresses about money just like everyone else. But he figured out something most middle-aged men never learn: no amount of cash can buy back a child's first steps, a little laugh, or the quiet nights rocking them to sleep.

He realized he was already successful because there is a little boy in this world who calls him dad.

Meanwhile, you have grown men ignoring their kids, working sixty-hour weeks, and calling themselves "providers" while they miss the entire childhood of the human beings they brought into the world.

Stop grinding for things that won't matter on your deathbed. You can always build another business or make another dollar, but you can never buy back time with a kid who is only little once.

10/12/2026

When you trade your presence for a paycheck, you aren't providing for your kids, you're just missing their lives.

So many men fall into the provider trap. You take the extra shift, work the weekend, and skip the championship game because you tell yourself you're doing it all for them. But here’s the harsh truth: a job will replace you in a heartbeat, and your kids won't remember the extra money in the bank. They’ll just remember that you weren't in the stands.

Missing their big moments to build a bank account is a trade you will regret for the rest of your days. You can always earn another dollar, but you can never buy back a missed childhood.

Your kids don’t need an invisible provider. They just need their father to show up.

If you're trying to figure out how to navigate co-parenting, manage your time, and actually be present for your kids after a split, my Divorce Strategy Guide covers how to protect what matters most. Check out the link in bio.

Storytime! For those who don't know, back in 2016, I went through one of the most difficult chapters of my life: my divo...
10/12/2026

Storytime!

For those who don't know, back in 2016, I went through one of the most difficult chapters of my life: my divorce.

During that time, I found myself alone. Most of my friends sided with my ex, and I had no one to spend time with or turn to. It was a dark, painful and lonely period in my life.

So, instead of allowing that loneliness to consume me, I decided to dive into something I've always loved: MOVIES!

So, I started a YouTube channel called Rudy's Movie Reviews, which eventually became Gen EX Reviews. The videos were horrible, but I was having fun.

Over the years, I've met so many wonderful people and fellow creators, many of whom have become some of my closest friends.

That channel is still going strong today and it's now become a passion project that my wife and I share. We watch movies, review them, laugh, and simply have fun together.

And now, I'm incredibly proud to announce that I will be featured in an upcoming horror anthology titled Tales from the Tube, alongside 22 other YouTube creators!

Never would I have imagined that the YouTube channel I started during one of the loneliest periods of my life would eventually lead to an opportunity to become a published contributor to a book.
And that's the message I want to share with all of you.

You never know what doors can open when you pursue something you genuinely love.

Sometimes, the very things we turn to during our darkest moments can lead us toward some of the brightest opportunities in our lives.

Approach your passions with a positive attitude. Keep learning. Keep putting yourself out there.

Never stop chasing your dreams. Never give up on yourself.

If you'd like to check out Gen X Reviews, where my wife and I continue to review movies, I'll leave the link in the comments.

And if you'd like to support Tales from the Tube and help bring this horror anthology to life, I'll also include the Kickstarter link in the comments. Any support would mean the world to us!

It's amazing how something that started out of heartbreak can eventually become something that brings you so much joy. ❤️

Much love, everybody!

Rudy A.

10/12/2026

If you choose to stay with a cheater, you are agreeing to walk through a multi-year minefield, and if you’re the one who cheated, you don't get to dictate when they get over it.

Rebuilding trust after infidelity takes anywhere from two to three years. That first year? It’s complete hell. Every anniversary, every movie with an affair plot line, every single time you walk out the door to go to work, it triggers them. When they vent, cry, or spiral, they are releasing toxic pain instead of letting it turn into internal rot. As the betrayer, you swallow your pride and hold space for that.

But there is a hard boundary line.

If you choose to stay and rebuild, you cannot use their past infidelity as a weapon in every unrelated argument forever. Pulling out their mistake like a trap card just so you can win a debate destroys any chance of creating a new foundation.

If they’ve put in the brutal work for years to win your trust back, and you’re still throwing it in their face long past the healing phase, you aren't trying to rebuild, you're just punishing them. At that point, you have to look in the mirror: you're part of the problem.

Either commit to healing and let the past stay in the past, or pack your bags and leave. Keeping someone in an endless prison of guilt isn't a marriage.

If you stayed after infidelity, how long did it take before you stopped bringing up their mistake?

10/12/2026

Your Marriage Will Fail If You Do This! Why do some women feel the need to control how their husbands dress or dictate what they should be doing every single day? Marriage is about partnership and respect, not controlling every aspect of your spouse's life.

10/12/2026

When divorced parents treat custody exchanges like a public warzone, the only real victims are the kids caught in the crossfire.

Watching two adults scream, threaten police, and record each other at a youth production rehearsal is painful. And let’s be clear: both of them failed here.

The father could have easily de-escalated the entire mess by simply communicating: “She’s in rehearsal, I’ll drop her home afterward.” Instead, he chose stubbornness.

On the other side, the mother completely lost control, escalated the conflict, and mortified her own daughter in front of her friends and castmates over a scheduling clash. Screaming about "kidnapping" while a kid is safely in rehearsal isn't fighting for your child, it’s performing your trauma for an audience.

If you are going through a custody battle or a messy co-parenting split, pull your head out of the sand. Your children are watching how you handle conflict, and they are absorbing every single bit of it.

Leave your ego at the door, communicate like adults, and stop weaponizing your kids against each other.

What is the worst co-parenting mistake you’ve ever witnessed or had to deal with?

10/11/2026

Who says you have to hate each other just because a marriage didn't survive?

Divorce changes the legal structure, but it doesn't erase the family you built. When two people grow apart without abuse or betrayal, holding onto bitter, toxic hatred is a choice, and it's a destructive one.

Admitting that you still care about someone or appreciate the chapter they shared with you doesn't make you weak. It takes actual maturity to look past your own ego, stay cordial, and put your kids first.

Because here’s the harsh reality: your kids are watching everything. They are soaking up how you handle heartbreak, anger, and transition. If you act like a bitter lunatic, you are handing them a blueprint to ruin their own future relationships.

You don't have to stay married, but you do have to co-exist with grace. Close the chapter, drop the hatred, and learn how to move on like an adult.

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