04/09/2026
Before leadership is taughtโฆ itโs watched. ๐
A huge shoutout to my coaching friend Ken Barr Jr for allowing me to share this insight - his two little leaders are already showing us how itโs done!
Most leadership isnโt taught. Itโs observed.
Right now, someone is learning how to lead by watching you.
I once had a leader in a session, arms crossed and silent the entire time. I thought he wasnโt connecting with the Strengths-based approach. I was wrong.
As I was packing up, he asked to chat. He said, โIโve built my career the way my leaders built theirs. By using people to lift myself up. It never felt right, but I was never shown another wayโฆ until now. I want to lead differently. But Iโve been a jerk for a long time. I donโt know if I can rebuild what Iโve broken.โ
That moment stayed with me.
He didnโt need more theory; he needed a new perspective... one that highlights whatโs right with people and builds performance through Strengths, not pressure.
So, I suggested he go back to his team and start fresh. Notice what each person does well, name it, and build from there.
And he did.
Not perfectly, not overnight. But over time, he rebuilt trust and began to see his team differently. And guess what? His team showed up differently, too.
When people feel recognized for their strengths, they donโt just perform... they engage!
Most of us lead the way we were led. But that doesnโt mean itโs how weโre meant to lead.
Leadership can be relearned.
So hereโs the big question: Whoโs watching you right now? Are they learning to survive or thrive?
Because leadership leaves a legacy in the leaders it creates.