Candle In A Dark Room

04/09/2026

Healing isn’t just soft moments and self-love. 💛

When you’re healing from CSA, there’s anger too.
A deep, consuming kind of anger.

Anger at what was done to you.
At what was taken from you.
At the innocence you never got to keep.
At the adults who should have protected you—but didn’t.

And sometimes… anger at yourself,
for something that was never your fault to carry.

No one really prepares you for this part.

Because underneath that anger… is grief.
Grief for the child who didn’t feel safe.
For the version of you who had to grow up too fast.
For the love, protection, and safety you deserved—but didn’t receive.

That anger isn’t “too much.”
It’s what happens when your body finally realizes the truth.
When you’re no longer just surviving… you’re starting to feel.

And that’s part of healing.

If you’re in this space right now, you’re not alone. 🖤

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07/07/2025

This interview just came up in my memories and it has thousands of views, comments, and reshares. Thank you everyone who has continued to support me 💛🙏🏽
TRIGGER WARNING‼️

01/23/2025

I just posted these in my stories! Please go vote and give your input so I can see what’s really needed right now! You can vote in the stories or comment below your vote or suggestions. I’m open and just want to help those that need it right now!
Dm me with any questions 🖤
2024 was HARD for alot of people for many different reasons, so let’s make 2025 the year of true healing!

Ps this group will be virtual so ANYONE will be able join

If you don’t know much about me, what I do and why I do it, please check out my website for more details. Link in bio

11/19/2024

3 weeks ago I unexpectedly received this letter from the in the mail. My heart sunk to the pit of my stomach.
My abuser is up for parole AGAIN!!
If you know my story than you know I just got him back in prison in 2020 after he stalked and re-victimized me again. 15 years after I got him put in prison the first time for years of child SA against me. (Watch my first pinned video on my page for those details).
This will be the 4th time I’ve had to fight to get him and keep him locked up.
I’m not going to lie, I’m freakin exhausted of doing this s**t. Us survivors deserve so much more!
We shouldn’t have to keep fighting to stay safe from our abusers every few years. I feel like every time I think it’s over & I can breathe, something like this flips my world upside down & I have to do it all over again. It’s not fair. It’s not fair I have to worry about him getting out and finding me again because like he proved last time, HE WILL. What else does the court need to realize he’s never going to stop? He’s obsessed & has not rehabilitated.
I’m barely writing my letter now for the hearing that I will have to read to him & the parole board this Thursday at 11am. I had 3 weeks to process the news so I’m barely doing it now because my mental health just couldn’t go there yet. But here I go again. Writing a letter that I will read to him & the courts begging them not to let him free. Begging them to keep myself & my family safe from the man who has proven time & time again that he should not be out in society.
But I will do it. I will do it again and fight for not only little Desi, but for the Desi now, the Desi that has worked hard as hell to be where I am. Because I deserve to feel free and safe. My family deserves to feel safe, but damn this process should not be this hard.

Wish me luck, send prayers and good vibes because I have no idea what the outcome will be.
What I do know is this isn’t over and I will fight until my last breath so that things will change and other child survivors don’t have to keep doing this.
We got this little Des
🙏🏽✊🏽💪🏽

07/21/2024

Thave 2 spots open! I know many of you have been thinking about "what should I do to help me heal" and sometimes just talk therapy isnt enough! Let me help you learn tools and ways to get you to where you want to be on your journey.
Book a discovery call with me to see if we would be a good match! I promise the invistment into yourself will be worth it.
Do it for your kids, your family, your spouse, but mostly do it for YOU. You deserve it! 💛🙏🏽

🩵Have you done talk therapy & still feel like you need more healing?
Do you need the actual tools & road map to get through your healing?
What I’ve learned working in this field is everyone’s healing journey looks different. Some people don’t heal as well just talking about their past, some need that extra guidance & motivation. Some need more of a roadmap & extra support along the way & THATS OKAY. That’s what I’m hear for 🙋🏽‍♀️

Working with a coach is the new thing. Having someone push you, & hold your hand through the hard stuff along the way makes the biggest difference.
Let me be your trauma recovery coach & help you through this hard journey.
I’m a survivor myself & have worked on the professional side of things for over 15 years!
I understand the work it takes to truly heal so you can live an authentically happy & healthy life!
You don’t have to let your past define who you are, & who you want to be. It’s not your identity.
With my coaching we do a mix of talk therapy as well as actual work to help you move through the things that are keeping you stuck. The things that are stopping you from living to your full potential because of past trauma. I help you rewire your mindset, help you build & use healthy tools to truly elevate to your next faze of your journey.
Your trauma will always be apart of your story BUT it’s not who you are. Let me help you love & honor yourself the way you deserve.

My next round of coaching starts August 26th

• We will meet for an hour and a half once a week for 8 weeks.
• I will give you homework and goals for the week to keep you on track.
• I will be available to you for support through text messaging as needed.
•You will get a “Stronger than the storm” pull over
• We will have a tracker sheet to track your goals breakthroughs etc so you can see your growth a long the way.

**PAYMENT PLANS ARE AVAILABLE**
Go to the link tree in my bio and click on the 1:1 Coaching tab for more details.
Click “Book Discovery Call” & fill out quick form to schedule so we can talk & see if this is what you’ve been missing.
Dm me with any questions 🩵 PLEASE SHARE

07/16/2024

🩵Have you done talk therapy & still feel like you need more healing?
Do you need the actual tools & road map to get through your healing?
What I’ve learned working in this field is everyone’s healing journey looks different. Some people don’t heal as well just talking about their past, some need that extra guidance & motivation. Some need more of a roadmap & extra support along the way & THATS OKAY. That’s what I’m hear for 🙋🏽‍♀️

Working with a coach is the new thing. Having someone push you, & hold your hand through the hard stuff along the way makes the biggest difference.
Let me be your trauma recovery coach & help you through this hard journey.
I’m a survivor myself & have worked on the professional side of things for over 15 years!
I understand the work it takes to truly heal so you can live an authentically happy & healthy life!
You don’t have to let your past define who you are, & who you want to be. It’s not your identity.
With my coaching we do a mix of talk therapy as well as actual work to help you move through the things that are keeping you stuck. The things that are stopping you from living to your full potential because of past trauma. I help you rewire your mindset, help you build & use healthy tools to truly elevate to your next faze of your journey.
Your trauma will always be apart of your story BUT it’s not who you are. Let me help you love & honor yourself the way you deserve.

My next round of coaching starts August 26th

• We will meet for an hour and a half once a week for 8 weeks.
• I will give you homework and goals for the week to keep you on track.
• I will be available to you for support through text messaging as needed.
•You will get a “Stronger than the storm” pull over
• We will have a tracker sheet to track your goals breakthroughs etc so you can see your growth a long the way.

**PAYMENT PLANS ARE AVAILABLE**
Go to the link tree in my bio and click on the 1:1 Coaching tab for more details.
Click “Book Discovery Call” & fill out quick form to schedule so we can talk & see if this is what you’ve been missing.
Dm me with any questions 🩵 PLEASE SHARE

11/28/2023

✨EXCITING ANNOUNCEMENT✨
I’ve been working really hard on this for you guys! I’m so excited to announce my new virtual group coaching course “Turning your mess, into a message”
I took a vote a few months back from you guys and this was the most requested one! It’s limited spots because I want it to stay small and intimate so sign up asap to claim your spots! Reserve your spot for just $100 today and you have until January 1st to pay the remaining balance. This course is easily over a $500 value but since we’re starting a new year, I wanted to start out with a bang! So only until January 1st this group is $300 and that’s including the $100 deposit to reserve your spot!

This is a great gift to ask your partner or family members for for Christmas, or it’s a great gift to get for yourself. Give yourself permission to do self work and self healing because I promise it will make you not only a better person for your self, but it will help you be a better partner, mom/dad and friend. It will help you find self love and acceptance. If you’re like me, I know it’s hard to do things for yourself and to spend money on you, but I promise you will gain so much knowledge and growth, and you won’t regret these 6 weeks!! This is a rare deal for the price so definitely jump on it if you feel called to in any way! Go to my “testimonial” highlight to see some reviews from past clients that have completed some of my group courses and private coaching. 🧡
Go to my website for more information or feel free to message me with any questions or concerns,
You can pay in full or your $100 deposit to
Venmo: Desi-Garcia-4
Paypal or Apple Pay (message me if you want that info)

Please help me by sharing this post because someone you know might really need this extra support and motivation right now! 🧡

10/11/2023

This!!! I had such a beautiful session with a client this morning, and we talked about this exact thing.
Just because people have hurt us in our past, WE get to decide how they affect our future! One of the things I said to my abuser when I read my statement to the courts in 2020 was “You took my childhood, you took my past, BUT I will not let you take my future” I had to decide that, I had to take control and take my power back, and I had to decide that I was no longer going to allow him to control my life. He doesn’t have that power anymore! I’m not a little girl anymore!
Sometimes it’s hard to see a future when we’ve been so hurt, but I promise if you DO THE WORK you CAN live the life you want and deserve! 🙏🏽💛