03/17/2025
The first time I hung out with Danny outside of work, we went to ZuZu’s. We practically ordered everything on the tapas menu, and Danny explained amontillado sherry to me in a way I could finally understand. After that day, we hung out after work for 14 consecutive days. On the 15th day, after a long day, I tried to back out of flying to Oregon the next morning—solely because I was tired and broke from moving (plus the VEP chartreuse we drank the night before made me too tired to wake up early the next day) He talked to me on the phone for at least three hours in the early morning, calling to make sure I woke up and explaining why this trip would be good for me, my career, and my life while I begrudgingly made the trek to SFO. That’s when I knew he was someone who would be important to me for a long long time.
We spent the whole summer daydreaming about our futures, sending properties on Zillow about our potential future lives on a farm, near the beach, in New York.
Any idea was explored in the most grandiose and hilarious way possible.
We’d lay by the pool then I’d promise to make him lunch until he’d get frustrated at the way I was doing it and end up making me a fine dining quality meal on a Tuesday afternoon in my kitchen.
Midnight snacks were even better.
We had caviar on taquitos for Christmas.
I only had the privilege of knowing him for the last year of his life, but I knew he had much charm, intelligence, and my genuinely CARED about everyone.
He was the kind of person who made you feel safe and heard—but he would absolutely roast you for it afterward. He understood so much, and if he didn’t, he actively sought to learn and share—he was one of the best sommeliers I’ve ever met.
Ninety percent of my time with Danny was spent laughing, eating, or doing both. He was very real, and I’m incredibly lucky to have had a person who truly knew me the way he did.
Time with him was cut way too short.
Today marks one year since you’ve been gone, and I drank a bottle of Peter Lauer bubbles in your honor. I’ll miss you forever, . Thank you for being you, for being my very best friend, and for making me a better version of myself.