Coach John Bush

11/22/2025

IzaBelle Sweet on Understanding People

Robert: we're starting to lack empathy, we're starting to lack the ability to reach out and understand someone else's perspective and how they're different from us. So, absolutely. I think that's. That's an absolute. I think you're absolutely right on track with that.

IzaBelle: you might have a political perspective, but instead of saying to that person, why do you see the world the way you. Why do you see the like?

Instead of inquiring more as to, like, where did that thought begin for you? Where. Where did that start? Which is something that we ask people in Heart to Heart. Whose thought was that? Whose opinion was that? Right.
But instead, we're trying to, again, argue for our side instead of inquire as to why they see the world the way they do.

And honestly, if we actually did that, we could get them to see, oh, maybe my perspective is quite limited, but instead, we're trying to argue for our side rather than inquire more about their side.

But it takes work. It takes real self awareness. It's so much easier to just fight back and do the things we want. But it's not working.

It's really not working anymore. We're not being compassionate, we're just getting more separated. And so this takes, it is a practice.

John Bush: That's a very interesting perspective. I teach charisma in my social skills mastery course on the Coach John Bush website.

And a big part of that is teaching people how to listen as though the people that they're talking to are interesting. You build a lot of connection with people this way. They feel heard, they feel understood.

And generally speaking, this skill set, people are like, I see the value in that because I'm trying to snuggle up to this person. I want to date them, I want them to like me for some reason. But you're bringing up a really valid point.

This exact same skill set can be used to make you dislike people less as well. You don't only have to use it on the people you think you want to get to know, you can use it on the people that upset you.

Because that's something that I think so many people miss. If you upset me, I'm the one that's suffering. You for the most part, might not even know I'm upset.

And even if you do know that I'm upset, you're probably going to get over it really quickly because as soon as we stop hanging out together, you're going to forget about me.

11/22/2025

IzaBelle Sweet - Avoiding Toxic People

Izy: There's also a point where we're really getting split in society of not seeing another person's perspective and cutting people off, et cetera, which may be useful in some cases.

But I also think there's a need to try to see other people's perspectives, especially if we love and care about them, especially if we're in a romantic relationship with them. We want to get to the point where I also believe you have good intentions, that you're good to the core, and let's find a win win situation.

And I want to see your perspective in this. I mean, this happened a lot in my last partnership.

Like, we have really good conflict resolution skills because I'm like, I'm not trying to fight you in order to win. I'm trying to find the common thing that we both feel good in our bodies about. And this feels good for the both of us.

Yeah, just having these skills makes me a trusted friend, makes me a better partner, makes me better at work and any, I mean obviously anywhere you have a relationship where listening and seeing another person's perspective is useful. Like again, where else have we taught this in the real world? Not very many places.

JB: Yeah, I really liked the part where you said that you're good at dealing with the toxic people in the sense that you identify their toxicity and you just leave.

That is a skill that not only do people need to be good at identifying the toxic people, but just recognizing that fighting with every toxic person you meet absolutely drains you and it's completely unnecessary. Just identify the problem and get away from it rather than making it your problem.

Izy: Right. Well, you know, I've especially skilled with this because if you try to start an argument with a narcissist, you will get nowhere.

You just will end up in loops. They're not there to see your side, they're not there to see your perspective. And yeah, it's not worth my time and energy.

And so in like, in a sense like I'm going to allow people to be. The karma will, will sort that out.

Enough people will walk away from a toxic person and they'll, hopefully they'll have to sit with themselves and maybe, maybe not. But that's the thing is you're a coach, so you might have gone through this phase. I did too where you want to help everybody.

And the thing is, is people only want to get help when they ask for help. And so if no one's asking for your help when someone's being kind of a jerk, then they don't want your help.

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