03/13/2024
Glad to see this important partnership to honor loved ones and leave a lasting legacy in their honor, with the planting of a tree. đź’š
To lose a loved one to gun violence is devastating. Grief and trauma ripple through the family and community in ways we in the larger community cannot fully fathom. How does one heal?
A retired ER doctor and long-time volunteer of Forest ReLeaf, John Milton, wondered this very thing. Working with the trees at the Forest ReLeaf nursery, he knew these silent beings offered many things – fresh air and numerous environmental benefits – but he also knew they provided peace. His family often planted a tree in honor of a loved one who had passed on. After seeing a photo of a march to end gun violence in the St. Louis Post-Dispatch, John immediately thought about a tree planting. He called the paper and they connected him with Better Family Life, Inc. in North City.
Better Family Life has been around for over 40 years, serving more than 50,000 low-income children and adults each year with a wide range of programs. Anitress Muhammed, from the organization’s Community Engagement Department, met with John. After their initial meeting, they determined the best way to utilize the donation of trees would be to plant life for a life through a new program, which was given the name Family Love/Family Roots.
The first memorial tree planting took place in Fall 2019. Fifteen trees were planted with 15 families in Ivory Perry Park. Everyone in attendance that day was witnessing something special. Families shared their grief, while simultaneously expressing gratitude for the trees and the peace that they unexpectedly brought. It was hard to put into words the impact from that day, but Anitress knew more families needed to experience this healing journey.
With each planting, families are invited to bury a memento of their loved one at the base of the tree. For some families, it is the first time they are able to symbolically “bury” their loved one because they have been unable to afford a funeral. Each time, the trees silently accept the offering; they silently stand watch; and they silently hum with life.
Families continue to share their gratitude with Anitress for creating a resting place for their loved ones. They appreciate the peace and warm feeling of visiting a park, instead of a cold cemetery. The partnership with Better Family Life has made a major impact in serving the community, one that will last for generations.