03/25/2026
🥰😍My Mother, a Selfless Woman with a Heart of Gold💖. ×××××long post alert×××
Your life was a lesson in love💗, sacrifice, and selflessness; one we will carry forever.
Yesterday (24th March) marked exactly four months since you left us and I choose to honor your life, your love, and the beautiful memories you left behind. (Fb will preserve this for us💘).
Mami, you were the true definition of a selfless and loving woman, an incredible soul with a heart of gold. Your love knew no boundaries, and your life was a living example of what it means to give without expecting anything in return.😇🤗💜
My first lesson in selflessness came from you when I was just a kid. During one Christmas in the early 90s, my cousins came to spend the holidays with us. From the very first market day, you began preparing for them, buying them Christmas clothes each market day. (Who doen't know the significance of christmas clothes in the 90s). I waited patiently, believing your promise that mine would come last and be the most beautiful. But that day never came. Christmas arrived, and I had nothing new to wear. I cried, not understanding. And then you told me something that has stayed with me forever: “mamah yoh” as you called me, “you see these pikin them so, them di pass na pass, you go always be with me and I will always buy you plenty of things…”At that moment, I didn’t fully understand, but felt different however. As I grew up I began to understand fully who you were. That was love beyond self. 😇😘That was sacrifice.
You showed that same selflessness in countless ways. I remember when you stayed with me in Buea; some of the best years of my life. You would cook very delicious meals, and while I looked forward to enjoying them after work, I would return to find that you had shared everything with others; neighbors, grandchildren, strangers. When I asked about my portion, you would gently explain who came by and who you had fed, then offer to prepare something else for me. Sometimes I felt frustrated, but deep down, I knew I was witnessing something rare; pure, unconditional generosity.💯💞
You had a heart so soft and so pure. You never truly got angry. Even when you scolded a child (na that small thing wey I tell you so wey you di vex, come noh,…), you would turn around and beg that same child, your heart unable to hold onto harshness. You would sacrifice everything; your comfort, your food, even your own needs, just to make others happy. There is truly so much to say about you, so many memories that show just how extraordinary you were.
I remember the days of “Ndemesue”, life was not easy. We could not afford a push truck, so, we carried heavy loads of cocoyams and plantains on our backs and heads, trekking long distances to the market. Sometimes, we walked barefoot under the scorching sun, the hot sand burning our feet. I remember vividly how you would plead with buyers to offer a better price (3000 francs😉) after all that effort, just so you could provide for us. You and Papa sacrificed everything to ensure we went to school. You endured hardship with quiet strength and unwavering love.💖💝
Even in your later years, nothing changed. You still chose others first. You would call children, offer them tea, and sometimes go without eating yourself. You did not see strangers, you saw your children everywhere. That is why, at your funeral, even little children cried. They were not crying for just anyone, they were crying for a mother.🥰
Mami, you loved🥰 without discrimination. You gave without limits. You lived a life that touched countless hearts. It was often hard to tell who your biological children were, because you loved everyone so deeply and so equally. You gave even more to others, trusting that we would understand - and we did.
You were truly one in a million. There is no one to compare to you. You toiled, you sacrificed, you gave us everything and just when it was time for you to rest and enjoy the fruits of your labour, you left us. That pain is deep, but so is our gratitude.👌🧎♀️
Thank you🙏, Mami, for your unconditional love. Thank you for the values you instilled in us. Thank you for the lives you touched in ways words cannot fully express. You may be gone, but your legacy of love and selflessness will live in us forever.
We miss you deeply, but we know Jesus loves you more. Please rest in His bosom.😍❣️💜
