02/10/2026
There is a painful part of running a business that nobody really talks about.
You look around and see another business getting bigger.
They are employing people.
They are opening another branch.
They are getting customers.
They are posting about new deals.
And then you look at your own business and it feels like nothing is moving.
At some point, you can start asking yourself strange questions.
“Maybe someone doesn't want to see me doing well.”
“Maybe it's jealousy.”
“Maybe there is something spiritual happening.”
But there is another question that is sometimes harder to ask:
What are they doing that I am not doing?
Because when you look closely at businesses that are moving, you will usually find that something is happening consistently.
They are putting themselves in front of people.
They are speaking to potential customers.
They are following up.
They are asking for the sale.
They are making sure new enquiries are coming in.
Some have money for advertising and use it consistently.
But not everyone started with money for advertising.
Some started by sending 10 cold messages a day.
Some sent 15.
Some sent 5.
They researched businesses, found the right person, understood what that business was doing and then sent a message that actually made sense for that business.
That takes work.
You can't just copy and paste the same message to 100 businesses and expect people to care.
You have to understand who you're talking to.
You have to know what they do.
You have to understand where they might be struggling.
You have to give them a reason to have a conversation with you.
Some people found their way through coaching.
Some learned from YouTube.
Some spent hours reading, watching and testing things on the internet.
Some had people around them who opened doors.
And some didn't have any of that.
They simply started talking to people.
That is the part I think we sometimes forget.
If nobody is opening the door for you, you still have to find a way to knock.
You can't sit and watch another business employ ten people while waiting for someone to give you an opportunity.
And you also can't become angry because another business didn't give you a chance.
They don't owe you a customer.
They don't owe you a contract.
They don't owe you an opportunity to prove yourself.
So what do you do?
You put yourself out there.
You make the calls.
You send the messages.
You advertise when you can afford to.
You follow up.
You learn.
You change what isn't working.
You try again.
And you keep putting your business in places where customers can actually find it.
Sometimes the difference between two businesses isn't that one owner has some secret that the other doesn't know.
Sometimes one business is simply doing the work of finding customers every single day, while the other is waiting for customers to find them.
That can be a painful thing to accept.
But it is also useful.
Because once you stop asking
“Why are they winning and I'm not?”
You can start asking
“What are they doing every day that I am not doing?”
And that is a much better question to build a business around.