05/10/2026
Before dating starts to feel healthy, trust has to stop feeling like danger. Learning to trust does not mean ignoring red flags or handing your heart over to the first person who says the right thing. It means building enough self-trust to stay open without becoming naïve, guarded or controlling.
Psychologist Dr. John Gottman, co-founder of The Gottman Institute, has long emphasised that trust is built through small, consistent moments of reliability, while clinical psychologist Dr. Sue Johnson taught through attachment science that emotional safety is what allows people to bond deeply.
This is especially important when working with a matchmaker, because the process often asks you to step outside your usual type, question old patterns and let someone else see possibilities you might normally dismiss. Research professor and author Brené Brown describes trust through behaviours like boundaries, reliability, accountability and integrity, which is exactly the energy matchmaking needs to work well. You are not being asked to trust blindly. You are being asked to stay open long enough for something better aligned to find its way in.
