Coach Susan Scott-Hamler

28/10/2015

Okay, so we've discovered, accepted and dealt with any part of our 'self' that we have previously deeply denied.
Total acceptance of the existence of ALL parts of our personality, is the first and most important task in our quest to make successful and effective changes in our lives.
Often, it is a very disliked, denied part of our 'self' that miserably jumps in front of our possibilities and sabotages our attempts to make some useful changes.
Be very honest with yourself - dig deep and deal with any deeply hidden parts of your personality - acknowledge that this trait exists and accept it as part of you anyway.

Step 2. Explore All Your Options

Your mission at this next stage is 'see, hear and feel' your ideal life beckoning, invitingly at you.
"C'mon," it is saying "Why are you still over there, when you could be over here in this amazingly fulfilled, happy life, brimming with an abundance of everything you have ever dreamed of?"

Wow! Let's get into the 'possibility mindset' and start exploring all the options that could take us from where we are now - to that, oh so tempting and wonderful ideal life?
Even if/when part of us wants to reject our ideal life vision as an unrealistic impossible dream... let's just challenge those deadlock assumptions and explore all our options anyway.
Options range from outrageous feats of achievement, through to reasonable efforts, through to not doing anything... that, after all is still an option. Explore everything!

Most humans have a natural tendency to see problems instead of possibilities. We need to identify ways to see possibilities in both external situations and deep within ourselves too. Many of us close down options by telling ourselves, and others, that we WOULD do something, BUT....!

These are know as BIG BUTS! :)

For example, we say:
" Well, yes, I would give up smoking tomorrow BUT... it is a stressy time at work!"

"I know I need to go to the gym because my cardiologist says my lack of fitness is causing health problems, BUT... I don't have time to go to the gym!"

"Your new wife is unbearable, our grown-up children and myself all dislike her, you need to do something about her, BUT... we will not communicate with her EVER, at any time, or enter into any sort of family discussion with her!"

Most of the above situations have a number of possible outcomes. A possibility mindset might have enhanced and improved the situation by allowing problems to be reframed and perhaps developed into successful changes, which would have produced effective outcomes. BUT...the BIG BUTs jumped in to sabotage possibilities... keeping the problem blocking possible solutions. If you see what I mean!!

Watch out for those BIG BUTTS - whoops... BIG BUTs!!

18/10/2015

Do you ever feel that you are totally fed up with where you are in your life?
Or maybe you have this vague feeling that more potential for happiness and fulfillment is out there for you?
Ready for a change? Maybe. It depends on where you are in terms of readiness and willingness to change. Although you may feel like you want to change, you may not be quite ready to do so.

If you just rush headlong into making worthwhile changes without preparing the ground for action or seriously considering your options . . . you are likely to lose momentum fairly early in the change process.

If that is the case, nothing is wrong with you, you just haven't geared yourself up to sustain your promise to yourself.

Nothing of value is formed in a minute. Let's take a look at a few of the stages you need to work through for any change to be effective.

1. DENIAL. Most people are totally unaware of the existence of denial within themselves - it is a tough phase to get through because it is so hard to recognize.
Look for clues - where do you get defensive or angry in your conversation with others.
Do you instantly feel angry/sorry for yourself/insulted/controlling etc. whenever someone says something you don't want to hear?

Your emotional response to another person's comment probably means there's a deeply denied internal conflict which needs dealing with before you can move on to the next stage of change. Simple? Unfortunately, not so simple to deal with.
Denial usually happens when we don't want to accept something in ourselves and we certainly don't want others to see this unacceptable something of our true selves.
For instance, we may have issues with jealousy or resentment but instead of curiously exploring why we feel resentment - we bury it deep inside of ourselves and deny all existence of it. But it is still there, eating away at our relationships, our dreams and our goals, making us feel uncomfortable with ourselves and diverting precious energy into keeping it locked away.

Or perhaps we are protecting something fragile within ourselves - something that was injured many, many moons ago? We pretend it is not there, that we are tough and strong - but it IS there. It needs to be brought back into play and dealt with. To be vulnerable is to be fully human and we cannot reach full potential while we are protecting and denying it's existence.

There are many, many issues of which we avoid by denying their existence, to the point of deluding ourselves that they never, ever existed in the first place... this robs us of any chance of reaching full potential or autonomy.

Be very, very honest with yourself. Deal with denial.

More on the next stage of change tomorrow. See you then.

27/04/2015

"The principle of power gives us just what we ask of it. If we undertake little things in a little way, it gives us little power, but if we try to do great things in a great way, it gives us all the power there is." W. Wattles.

Love this quote. Be aware of undertaking GREAT things in a SMALL way!

30/01/2014

Do you ever DO things you don't want to do? Example: Eat too much chocolate cake/get mad and yell at your iPad/smoke/road-rage/watch TV/go out of your way to avoid something/ say 'yes' when you meant 'no'?

Do you ever NOT DO things that you do want to do?
Example: Exercise/ eat healthily/get your taxes sorted/raft the Grand Canyon/ride a motorbike?

These are all human behaviour patterns that can be reversed to produce the results you DO want. To find out more... contact me for a free coaching session.

19/01/2014

Question:
Do you have any kind of phobia that, all too frequently, jumps in your way and leaves you a quivering wreck? Or maybe you go to inconveniently great lengths to avoid the phobic situation?
It may be a fear of spiders or heights or public speaking? Many people experience claustrophobia or agoraphobia or social phobia... in fact there is a type of human phobia for almost every situation.
If you wish to erase your paralyzing fear or phobia from your life PERMANENTLY, simply contact me (PM) to arrange a free phobia-blasting session via SKYPE. In some cases phobias can be diminished to zero in a matter of minutes. Lets get zapping!

16/01/2014

Hi Gang. Enjoy this beautiful day. Experiment, be curious, open your mind to possiblities.
Here is a great (Coach Susan Scott-Hamler) tip to instantly improve your communication skills.
In each and every situation, interaction or conversation, stop for a moment and ask yourself what is the true INTENTION behind the actions and words that you are doing and saying.
Be amazed, enlightened, shocked and sometimes absolutely horrified when you VERY HONESTLY answer that fairly simple question.
In a number of circumstances you will feel quite happy with your actual intentions, other times you may find that you are less than happy. You may find that your actions or words are subconsciously seeking attention or approval from someone, or you are trying to overpower or negatively manipulate someone to get what you want, you may even find yourself being mean to someone without realizing.
Be curious... learn something about yourself today. Knowledge is power... change ALL those intentions to be absolutely, positively enhancing to all around you.

30/12/2013

SMARTEN UP YOUR NEW YEAR RESOLUTIONS.
We all have a few broad visions of how we want our life to be on Jan. 1st 2015. Apply the SMARTEN UP goal setting guidelines to enable your brain to get clear instructions on what it is that you are asking of it.
S. Specific
M. Measurable
A. Achievable
R. Realistic
T. Timed
E. Enthusiastic
N. Natural
U. Understood
P. Prepared.

17/12/2013

17/12/2013

Do you want:
1. To set clear goals?
2. A more fulfilling career?
3. Better work/life balance?
4. Improved health and fitness?
5. To start your own business?
6. Improved relationships?
7. More excitement/more fun?

There's a moment when you change your life... you know that you are ready make that moment today. Whether you say "I do!" or "I quit!" there are strategies that you will begin to put in place from the first coaching session with me. These strategies will create instant, positive changes to your life, your relationships, your career and your health.
Contact me now to book your FREE session via phone or Skype or in person.

17/12/2013

Within you right now is the power to do things you never dreamed possible.
This power becomes available to you just as soon as you change your beliefs.
Dare to try, raise your standards and inspire yourself to create the life you know you are capable of. Learn amazing new skills that you will use in many different situations throughout your life. Move forward and achieve great things. Book your FREE introductory session NOW!