28/09/2026
I want to tell you about a moment I keep seeing play out in leaders I work with, because I think you'll recognize it. 🧐
Someone on the team knocks on the door, or sends a message, or catches you in the hallway between two other things. Before they've even finished the sentence, you already have the answer forming.......and of course, you give it, right?
They say thanks, they leave, the whole exchange takes maybe ninety seconds, and it feels like exactly what a good leader should do: available, decisive, helpful.
I think of a director I coached who described her Tuesdays like this: seven of these moments before lunch, each one small, each one completely reasonable on its own. By the time she finally sat down to think about anything strategic, the day was already gone. So was she. 🤯
Here's what this is not:
⛔ a discipline problem
⛔ you caring too much or saying yes too often
⛔ you being a bad leader
What it IS:
A pattern.
A pattern you internalized, one ninety-second answer at a time, so gradually that there was never a single moment to notice it, let alone stop it.
Again: I don't think that makes you a bad leader. I think it makes you a capable one, BUT using that capability in an unfavorable place, over and over.
Note: This isn't good for you—and it's certainly not the best thing for your team, either.
I've been sitting with this pattern a lot lately, thinking about what actually interrupts it. More on that soon.
For now, I'm curious: where do you see this happening most in your own leadership?
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