14/05/2023
Things being a single mum has taught me
It takes a village, don't let that dreded Mum guilt get in the way of you making yourself a priority. Us Mums are amazing and can carry so much but the responsibility doesn't lie solely with us.
Balnace is bu****it and unachievable, this hustle cuture tells you, you can do it all but it's unnecessary and often leads to burnout. I'm a believer in tilting, tilt to what needs your attention in the moment, kids need you, tilt there, that pile of clean washing that's been sitting there for a week and it's starting to annoy you, tilt there, not everything has to be done today.
Kids are more resilient than we give them credit for, you're a family, lean on eachother, support and guide eachother. Once I stopped thinking I had to be 'on' all the time and started listening more than talking they taught me more than I could have imagined. Children are so wise and just intuitively know what they need without coming from a place of fear. It's our job to guide them to being the most them they can be not creating another us.
Support is all around in many forms, don't be afraid to ask for help and often what we need in the moment is right there, it's our minds that can sabotage us and tell us we need to do things on our own.
Connection is so important and it starts with you, if you intimately know yourself on all levels, your vibe rises and so does what you tolerate, the rubbish falls away and you become the most authentic you and that in my opinion is magic.
Take care of your body and mind, you're together a long time. Meditation has been a game changer for me on getting clear of what my next move is.
To all the single Mumms, Mummas with partners, I see you, you're doing an amazing job.
Happy Mothers Day for yesterday Mummas. π€π€π«π«