16/10/2026
Have you ever had that uncomfortable feeling that someone’s words and actions just aren’t adding up?
I’ve experienced it.
I asked questions to understand where someone stood, but what they told me, how they behaved and what they were saying to others didn’t marry up.
It created an air of uncertainty.
And I’ve come to appreciate how much that uncertainty can affect trust.
We can ask thoughtful questions, listen carefully and give people the opportunity to explain themselves. But we also need to pay attention to what happens afterwards.
Not every inconsistency means someone is being dishonest. People change their minds, circumstances shift and sometimes things are more complicated than they first appear.
But when words and actions repeatedly don’t align, that’s worth noticing.
Trust grows when we can rely on the consistency between what people say and what they do.
And good judgment sometimes begins with recognising that something isn’t quite right.