10/09/2026
It’s R U OK? Day, which means we’re all encouraged to check in on the people around us. And that’s a beautiful thing - today and every day.
But what happens when you ask “Are you OK?” and they say:
“Actually… no.” Or a colleague tells you something bigger that you can reasonably handle. Or you're going through something yourself and have reduced capacity to support another human.
Suddenly you’re wondering if you’re expected to become a counsellor, life coach, crisis negotiator and emotional support super human.
Spoiler: you’re not.
You can listen. You can care. You can be kind. You can help someone find support.
But you don’t have to fix them or solve the problem.
You can care without carrying.
You can be part of someone’s support system without becoming their entire support system. And you can care deeply without taking the whole thing home with you.
If you or a colleague / loved one are in crisis please call 000
*Connect with Support Act via the 24/7 Wellbeing Helpline
1800 959 500 from anywhere in Australia.
*Lifeline - 13 11 14
*13YARN - 13 92 76
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