16/02/2026
I know how heavy it is to navigate complicated, often unfair system. When you’re supporting someone you love, you’re often making decisions under pressure, with limited time, and with a deep hope that the next “professional” will finally be the right fit. Wanting help isn’t naïve , it’s responsible. And asking questions doesn’t make you difficult , it makes you a safe advocate.
I’ve just completed a Graduate Certificate in Neurodiversity, and it’s been a confronting reminder of how much of what gets taught in the neurodiversity space is often delivered as “based on my lived experience”. Lived experience matters , it brings empathy, insight, and context. But once you understand the complexity of neurodiversity, you realise how much is shaped by perception and subjectivity. And while it’s true for neurotypical people that one rule doesn’t fit all, that reality is amplified when we’re talking about neurodivergent brains.
Neurodiversity isn’t a “personality quirk” or a “disorder to be fixed”. It’s a concept that recognises differences in brain function and behavioural traits as natural variations in the human population , a diversity of thinking, processing, communicating, and experiencing the world. Which means support needs to be nuanced, evidence-informed, and ethical. And here’s the hard truth: lived experience alone does not make someone a coach.
Because the neurodiversity coaching space is absolutely flooded with people who have:
- A weekend course under their belt
- A Canva certificate signed by self-declared coaching “gurus”
- Zero clue what real coaching actually is
And that isn’t just frustrating , it can be unethical and dangerous.
Yes, there are some brilliant top-up programs out there (especially ADHD and neurodivergent coaching programs) “for” professionally trained, accredited coaches. But without a proper foundation of accredited coach training underpinning the knowledge, many of these “qualifications” are paper-thin, built more on influencer status than credible coaching skills.
Neurodivergent people don’t need another self-proclaimed “specialist” winging it, overreaching, or gaslighting them. They need professionals who know their craft, work within scope, follow ethics, and have the depth of skill to support real change. They want to focus on skills and inclusion.
If you’re a parent or caregiver, please ask the uncomfortable questions before you hand over trust:
- What’s their accredited coaching training (not just a short course)?
- Who accredits it? What code of ethics do they follow?
- What’s their scope, and who do they refer to when it’s outside coaching?
- How do they tailor support to the individual (not a template)?
Your loved one deserves support that is safe, informed, and genuinely professional.
Different, not less. Under the right circumstances, given the right adjustments, autism CAN be a superpower🙌🏻
HerZest Zest Canberra Neuroscience