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Do you like conflict? There is so much focus on getting through conflict. Appropriately. So many avoid the tough conve...
24/08/2022

Do you like conflict?

There is so much focus on getting through conflict. Appropriately. So many avoid the tough conversations, facing the hard truth and help is needed for that.

and what about afterwards? The tension caused by conflict at work goes somewhere... and sometimes it doesn't. I have noticed the after effects of dealing with the "tough stuff" have included tight abdomen, exhaustion, nervous energy, anxiety - and the occasional spending spree in an attempt to lift my mood.

I feel the often overlooked part of conflict is the recovery process.

1. how do we make up without brushing it away like it never happened
2. how do we make change that sticks
3. how do we let go of the negative feelings we had during the conflict
4. how do we learn from what just happened, so that next time we approach it better and recover faster

This is a post conflict review that, if done by teams, families and friends could really move conflict from "tough talk" to "rapid growth".

How do you recover from conflict?

How long does it take you to make decisions? What about your team? Your family?If you find yourself agonising over them ...
17/08/2022

How long does it take you to make decisions? What about your team? Your family?

If you find yourself agonising over them - your indecision is often caused by applying flawed reasoning to :

1. how to decide
2. what successful outcome you want
3. over reliance on others
4. desire to please, be seen as perfect or fit in
5. dislike of tension or conflict
6. habit of taking the easy path
7 too much hope and not enough action in your life

a lot of this behaviour is developed in very early life - and then embedded through your reactions and choices as life throws it's situations at you. Sometimes as though it is testing our ability to make good choices.

Personally, I struggled with a lot of these - despite seeming to be achieving by most standards. But the desire to "know my purpose" and "have a goal to achieve" to feel good about myself was a dead give away.

I was living my life on someone else's terms.

The pathway to making stronger choices that propel growth and get you out of indecision is clear.

Apply a higher standard
Be clear to yourself who you are ...really
Express yourself clearly so the world sees you
Live your values ferociously, tenaciously and without fear
Take action everyday to bring your life to centre around growth

none of these things are easy ... until you make them your daily habit - and then they flow. It becomes the way you do things. Applying a values based lens propels you past the blocks and back into clarity.

if you need help to define those things, drop me a note in the DM's

I never saw an athlete win a marathon while looking behind them. Yet so many of us run life's race doing exactly that. ...
11/08/2022

I never saw an athlete win a marathon while looking behind them.

Yet so many of us run life's race doing exactly that.

The biggest block to your own progress is letting your past define you, instead of using it as rocket fuel to propel you.

you know your past is holding you back when you are:

1. tired all the time even with proper rest and health
2. working hard and getting nowhere
3. seeing negative or unhelpful patterns reappearing in the situations around you
4. overwhelmed
5. unfulfilled even though you "should be" happy

If you feel like you are living your life on someone else's terms, or on outdated terms - it is time to seek growth.

Figuring out what to measure your success by is the fastest way to make sure you are facing forward for future success and unleashed from past constraints.

and guess what - its all about holding a higher standard in your values.

1.write them out - what are your personal values?
2 define "fail, mediocre and success" for each in your thinking, feeling and choices
3. review your last year in the light of that.

This alone should reveal patterns which you can choose to address for growth.

If you aren't sure which values to apply, our Personal Harmony Values Coaching process gets you clear on where you are going off track, and how to get back on. Best of all you will be able to apply the insights to your work, home, parenting and future success.

Exclusively for those who want to grow, and put the past where it belongs.

09/08/2022

Do you know the number one cause of failure to deliver to expectations in work projects?

after years of asking teams to reflect after projects go wrong - inevitably I hear the same thing over and over:

1. we knew, but didn't say
2. they asked, but didn't hear
3. we spoke but weren't understood

The biggest failure in changing course is people's inability or unwillingness to talk honestly to their co workers.

Sadly I see this when I am working with couples and parents in my Counselling practice as well.

There is an epidemic of "politeness" "pleasing" and "careful avoidance" which is blocking people from emerging the real issues. It means that a lot of people work really hard on their projects, marriages and personal lives..... and are working on exactly the wrong problem.

This leads to exhaustion, discontent and disengagement. People start to trade on "hope" instead of action. this is a downward spiral which is hard to pull out of - and often why people end up leaving.

If you really want to jumpstart your relationships start asking yourself how you are creating an environment and a role model for honesty in your own life. Do you invite honesty? Do you speak your mind clearly? Do you know what you REALLY want? Are your thoughts actions and feelings aligned?

This is one of the foundation values to finding fulfilment and happiness in all parts of your life - work and home.

How honest are you being in your life? and what blocks you going "next level"?

04/08/2022

"I wake up everyday with a smile".

do you say this about your life? I was on Main Street Mornington at the market and I asked the guy at the Berry stand if he loved being a berry farmer. He said he did. So I asked why. This is what he told me.

"I wake up every day with a smile. Im really proud of what I built and every day I am at a different market talking to people and I am happy. It is the best thing I ever did. I could never go back to working in the office again because I love my life"

no this isn't an "Anti office working" post. Not everyone has a destiny to be a berry farmer. But it looks like this guy might have met his destiny while being one - and we can tell that he is achieving because he feels pride, harmony, happiness. He is fulfilled.

Can you say the same about your every morning wake up? or when the alarm goes off, do you feel that rise of familiar overwhelm.

Maybe it's time for a values check up. Watching people in life who are faced with that overwhelm feeling - what is at the heart of it is often a couple of things.

1. a sense of wasted time
2. feeling of unable to cope with what life has presented
3. making choices out of kilter with your values.

all three of those are able to be addressed if you are willing to go to the heart of the matter and really examine who you are living your life for.

1. others expectations
2. your purpose
3. without purpose or direction
4. measuring success by the "wrong" measure
5. a life that suited your younger self, but you have outgrown

Reviewing your life story shows very quickly where you went offtrack when you know how to spot the patterns.

With our clients, we apply a values based lens which emerges this VERY quickly. and yes, we have a survey that outlines it for you in a few minutes. Curious?

Facing a dilemma ? Here is the answer you have been looking for.
03/08/2022

Facing a dilemma ? Here is the answer you have been looking for.

03/08/2022

Life. It throws a whole lot of choices at you.

Sometimes those choices seem clear and the path is steady. Other times, not so much.

In my life when I/ see an increase in tension, stress and tiredness - I know something deeper needs to be addressed.

But what?

Emerging the keys to calm is a skill - what I have noticed is that calming activities like breathing, yoga and walking - isn't enough.

If something in your foundation is "wonky", that is the equivalent of slapping on a coat of paint over a mouldy wall... that mould will keep coming through. I know, cause I slapped that paint on for many years till I realised that the "deep work" I was doing, wasn't quite deep enough. and I knew this because nothing really changed. It was all short term change. I wanted more. And I found it by applying values. d'oh. but REALLY applying them. More than in name.

Working on your values in your work life has become widely accepted. And what about just for you? Your life?

Knowing how to apply values to your thinking and choices brings a calm and directed focus back to life - it is the missing ingredient in your soothing activities - it joins high performance with that steady feeling of inner confidence. In this way, I would call this a spiritual approach to your work and life - systematically applying a more successful foundation through your values, so that you can rocket forward. And stay forward propelled. This is what high performance is about, in my view.

I love the application of spiritual counselling to these "un-solvable" life dilemmas. Spiritual counselling intervenes in a person's thought process giving an understanding of the origins of their actions and reactions. It offers another belief system to dealing with life's issues.

This is the way back to calm - going right to the heart of the matter. Checking your belief system which is the foundation of your choices and outcomes. Leading in your life with values, not just in your work.

20/07/2022

Ever wonder why your team didn't call, wasn't proactive, took too long and in short - just didn't do it the way you would expect anyone to do it?

"Common sense isn't always common knowledge" was one of those workshop nuggets i picked up from a dear colleague of mine some years ago. and it applies here.
leaders often bemoan the failed expectations they have of the team

I'm not terribly good at supporting this moan.

my view is this. If people don't hold to your expectations - it's an Expectation Management Problem - and that's on the leader.

lets see the checklist

- how clearly did you let them know what you wanted as an outcome
- how certain are you that they have the skill to do that?
- how consistently do they expect them to check in with you along the way?
- how perfect ought the outcome to be?
- how would they deal with a roadblock and have you checked on that?
- how honest were you about your dismay at inaction and the impact that had ?

people are so scared to be called a micro manager - but those questions are actually ....management.

When introducing ANY new task - this checklist is key .

I thought, as a manager, that it was polite, respectful and strategic to let people figure things out themselves. It isn't. It leaves so many gaps in clarity, onwership and understanding. Then i would be left steaming when I didn't get what I wanted - and trust me - who wants to have a meeting with a "Steaming" manager?

If we weren't needed to set the course, manage context and set the standard - we become redundant.

oh by the way - if you think you already told them, and they still aren't doing it - your expectations are not backed up with consequence management , or you stopped telling them before they accepted accountability at the same level YOU thought you delegated it, or you didn't express it clearly. For me - expressing clearly was my biggest block - learning to be more assertive and less of a "mate". which one is your block?

18/07/2022

Do you trust people around you to change? Or do you expect all talk and no action?

I asked this question to clients in a workshop. You know what they said about their experience ? "Difficult conversations are just a tick box, you say you've had them, but everyone knows no one likes it so if you just keep your head down - they will get distracted and you can just keep doing what you were doing before."

The problem here is that the tension is all sitting with the person doing the talking, and none of it with the person who is needing to change.

to flip that, there are three key milestones to get through in a conversation and they are sequential. until you hit each one, you can't move ahead.

1. Aware - Is there agreement that there is an issue to address? Are they clear this conversation is leading to action, not just talk?
2. Accept - How well do they accept they need to change? How much help will they need to change?
3. Act - How clear are your expectations of change? Have you seen change? How have you set up indicators to know change is starting?

Use this blueprint to check off your approach - which one was missing ? There's the expectation gap, you can go back and fill it in.

and yes, there is a sack of skill involved in moving from marker to marker - but the key skill is be honest, be non judgmental and be clear that this won't go away.

This won't guarantee change - but it WILL make you feel confident you did everything you could and will expose where the issue sits.
.. and if you hit all these markers and there is still no change - now we have an accountability issue, and a breach in values - and the tension is shifting to a whole new gear .... more about that another time...

Do you need help holding someone to account? What makes it difficult?

14/07/2022

Difficult conversations.

I was walking with a friend (a senior leader) and she was moan-plaining about pre-work for an offsite she is to attend. Her frustration? A situational question about a tricky conversation and how to handle it. Rolling her eyes she said "I'm not answering it - the answer is simple. Just tell the person the truth".

I laughed. because she is right. But people don't. Tell the truth, that is.

There's reasons of course - politeness, avoidance, fear, past experience etc etc etc.....

The reason that often comes up is that people don't know what to say. They don't know where to start. Sometimes they have not even spent much time with the person, or aren't clear themselves what the truth is. Here's a process I took an executive through this morning in a coaching conversation to get that first step clear.

What needs saying.

firstly, figure out - how clear are you about what is actually happening? and how clear are they? do you both have the same understanding? mark this out of 100 - the conversation becomes clear

then - how clear are you about the impact, on you, them, customers, colleagues. would they agree with that? do they even know? mark each out of 100

finally - what do you expect to happen next. what are the three changes you expect to see as evidence they have understood and are acting on your conversation? (this is the one most people miss - if you don't know they can't change). Do they see it the same way? mark out of 100

ok so now you have to actually talk - and at least you know what to be honest about.

love to hear your methods to prep for tough conversations - and if you "need to talk" - DM me

How did you sleep? when it's a sleepless night, isn't it just the worst .... like the next day its copeable, but in the ...
15/04/2022

How did you sleep?

when it's a sleepless night, isn't it just the worst .... like the next day its copeable, but in the moment when you want to sleep and you cant... oh it's unbearable.

the nights I toss and turn. not even with stuff on my mind. nope.

just - awake. arrrggghh.

How do you manage a sleepless night?

Ive learned not to panic. i know when I'm flying red eyes I don't sleep much and i still cope ... so i just don't panic. and put on a podcast i really want to listen to. the wanting to listen for some reason puts me to sleep almost every time. lol. why?

Sometimes its just a build up of energy in the body, or emotions and - just like a pool - we need a bit of a clean out - so we can get back to restful sleep again. Then I know i need to start paying attention to a whole lot of things to just set me up for a more relaxed body and mind overall.

Healing the emotions can really help to reset the nervous system, ready to relax - hit me up in the DM's if you want to know more about how i do that for clients :)

Not that many people would guess this, but i have had anxiety, panic attacks and social anxiety on and off since i was a...
08/04/2022

Not that many people would guess this, but i have had anxiety, panic attacks and social anxiety on and off since i was a teenager.

this means i have had to learn a lot of ways of resolving those feelings - in the moment - so i can continue to perform.

nothing like having a panic attack in front of hundreds of people!!

some of this has been due to my physical health and ways my body works, some has been emotional build ups, some has been a crisis of the spirit = "the long dark teatime of the soul", as Douglas Adams puts it.

the thing is this.

you CAN learn your way out of the automatic responses.
old emotions and hurts can get stuck in the mind and body, and a combination of therapy and healing can get amazing results.

reducing anxiety can take years - and sometimes, it can be instant. it all depends on
- the source of the anxiety
- your willingness to explore it
- your desire to change things
- your capacity to accept that you CAN cope with life, you may just need a few different strategies.

My favourite one is the heartmath quick coherence technique, but i have a little video with that on and a few others - hit me up in the comments/DM's if you want a copy and I'll throw you a link. :)

how have you managed your anxiety when it hits? I know Im not the only one - throw your comments down below - and share your top "in the moment" methods to get back to calm, fast.

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